Due June/July/August 2017 (2)

[MrsSparkles]

I don't understand.. consultant over ruled a doctor? I live in America Not familiar with your healthcare system but something doesn't seem right.. is there another hospital you are comfortable delivering at? If your gut is telling you this can't wait you need to really push to have your voice heard.. with my DD2 I knew something wasn't right when they were telling me she was small as I was complaining she was big and I felt like at one point almost shattered one of my ribs with a good kick the way it felt at the time.. they said she measured small and despite gestational diabetes they said they didn't wanna do a c section.. I should have pushed much harder and still regret it to this day as she ended up 9 pounds at 37 weeks and had shoulder dystocia from vaginal birth.. born purple and not breathing and in shock from them dislocating her shoulder to get her out of me.

I don't say this experience lightly and the last thing I want is to freak you out and I know some in here are probably like "omg stop don't freak her out" but it's the best way to get the point across that sometimes mothers intuition is spot on.. I didn't listen to mine and it almost cost me my daughters life. I would call or go back in and if you have to express your anxiety and concern that something isn't right to you and you want him out now.

The consultants are the top of the tree here.
I have to go back in tomorrow, and every morning to be monitored, they wouldn't do a scan today as too busy...but I will INSIST tomorrow, as if there is even less fluid, then surely that is going to cause him damage.

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience, shoulder dystocia was the thing I worried most about...and needing to be cut down there (ironic now).
Thank God, that everything was okay with your baby.
These 'growth' scans are so lousy, they never seem to get it right !

[Burakoam]

I have my fingers crossed they listen to you please let us know when you know!

She measured big in ultrasound actually.. she measured small with the belly tape. This was 2010.. thankfully they didn't rely on that with my last two.

[GirlieCat]

Sparkles, I am really anxious for you and I can't image how you feel. I am in USA like Burakoam and so I can't fully understand how your health system works.

My doctor seems very cautious and I would image if my fluids were low like yours, he would have already ordered baby out, but who knows. I do know he was very firm that if my water breaks on its own but labor doesn't start, he has a 24 hour rule that baby must come out (now that I am full term of course).

For reasons I won't tell a full term pregnant lady, I have my own fears about losing the baby in the final days/weeks so I can't even image the stress you feel. I am praying for you and baby boy. Hopefully either naturally or intervention he is out, safe and sound in your arms in the next day or two.

[Dreamsister]

How are you doing Sparkles? Any news? Thinking of you & praying you and baby are ok.


Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (42) [emoji1326] DH (40) [emoji144]

[GirlieCat]

Thinking of you Sparkles. [emoji170]

[MrsSparkles]

Hi Ladies,

Today was quite difficult.
I tried as hard as I could to get a scan, but they said there is no point as there won't have been more fluid made.
They did a monitor and the heart and movements were good, seems like lil man just liked to sleep in until late mornings these days - he's been active since we got home too.
I bawled my eyes out, as DH had to go to work straight after.
They again said there is nothing I can do to replace the fluid, I've since found out that isn't actually true and they can transfuse fluid into the sac (it lasts for a week, and can thin any merconium and help stop cord compression).
They took MRSA swabs, and told me that I should be prepared to have a c-section on Monday or Wednesday.
The Dr today was so nice, but he also said some alarming things about how the baby could already be getting less oxygen to the brain and becoming 'damaged' - in which case why is he not out yet !
He also stated that c-section was safest for the baby, but natural delivery was safest for me.
DH just about freaked out over that, and said what the heck would he do without me and a new baby to care for.

He wants me to just wait to go into labour, but I don't think I can, and there is no saying that I won't end up having a c-section anyway !

[Mummyof4boys]

Omg Sparkles what the hell are they waiting for?! I don't know what the standard of care is like in the UK, but they don't muck around here in Australia. I'd be opting for a csection asap! How absolutely terrifying for you Praying your little man makes an appearance very soon and is happy n healthy xx

[Burakoam]

I gotta say it as i think alot of us are thinking it...your doctors suck, Sparkles..i am so sorry you have all this stress and worry. In this day and age of modern medicine c sections arent too bad...i dont know, i think of myself as being a real weenie and not having a good pain tolerance but my 2 c sections were a breeze...worst part is the spinal.. and my babies are safe and healthy and there wasnt any real complications having c sections instead of natural labor but yes i suppose there is always the potential of risks..but not unlike the risks of normal labor too! please dont let them scare you because i think a c section will be whats best for baby AND you at this point..please if they even mention the c section monday make sure you take them up on the offer..lets get your baby boy out and safe...and remember when they start telling you about brain damage and stuff like that...thats not always the case and i doubt it at this point if his heart and everything looks good. try NOT to worry and stress until monday..i know thats so hard. I want to give you the biggest hug!

[MrsSparkles]

There are definite drawbacks of a free healthcare system.
I know that it sucks in the USA, having to pay those high insurance costs - but you do get what you pay for, and so much more is available.

The NHS is fantastic, and if you have cancer, or break a bone - that is the place to be !
For maternity care, it has some way to go, although the Home birth team are phenomenal in my area.

Today I didn't get to see anyone except two midwives, one of them being my own (she made a special trip just to come see me and give me a hug, that felt so nice).
She was shocked at the size of me, as she hasn't seen me for 2 weeks.
I asked her if she thought maybe I didn't have low fluid, and that the baby was just SO BIG that it was taking up all the room and they can't see the fluid.
She said "We will see!" but agreed that he is massive now.
So I see my actual consultant tomorrow now, and I am all packed in case she keeps me in for the section.
Midwives did both say there is a lot of activity going on in my uterus, and that if I go into labour tonight, stay at home as long as possible if I want to try for a vaginal delivery.
I do feel him moving a lot more again today, if he was really in trouble :
A) Wouldn't they just have delivered him ?
B) Wouldn't I feel sick in some way?
C) Why are his vitals so good on the monitoring?

Feeling a lot more positive and less worried today.

[GirlieCat]

I think you are right with your questions sparkles. If baby was in danger, they would have delivered him. Hoping for a safe delivery for you real soon.

I thought today would be babies birthday but no such luck. I woke at 3:45am just feeling weird. Lots of pressure and had to go to the bathroom real bad even though I had just went at 1am (I usually only get up once a night). Shortly after that contractions started. They were very consistently 8-9 min apart for 3-4 hours. They were much more painful than my normal Braxton hicks and I was really thinking this was the real deal. I was tired from being up since 3:45am so about 8:30am I tried to take a nap. Well I fell asleep and during my nap- the contractions vanished. I have a whole heck of a lot of pressure down there so I hope she is getting ready. In just 24 hours I went from being able to be up and active and walking normal, to a slow waddle because it hurts so much and I contract with too much movement.

Hope this means baby comes soon. I would be happy with Tuesday or Wednesday (gives me Monday to finish last projects at work). [emoji6]