Jubilant July 2WW

[Mommy2apples]

Iw4k!! Yours is looking good too!!


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[maximbella]

Good morning ladies! I'm sorry that I've taken a brief break from the boards...I've had to sort out some things lately and just trying to gain some clarity. I need your help and opinions please...and I'm sorry to jump on here without being fully caught up on everyone else, but I will do that today after kids are off to camp and I have some time to catch up.

The last few days I've done a 180 and starting to doubt this process for myself. I feel so incredibly lucky where I am in life right now with DH (our marriage is stronger now than it ever has been) and I have two beautiful, smart, healthy daughters. I have started having doubts that maybe I haven't gotten pregnant because it wasn't meant to be for us. I'm worried as I take my last two Femera pills today that I'm pushing something that isn't supposed to be, if that makes sense. I'm worried about birth defects, I'm worried about our family dynamic changing, and just everything. I don't know if Femera is messing with me (Lord knows I spoke too soon about no side effects because I had major moodiness yesterday), but I can't stop second guessing myself. I'm mostly worried about birth defects....DH is on an SSRI, and now with Femera for me, could that affect sperm quality, egg quality, etc.?

Is it just me, or have any of you gone through these emotions?

I'll check back this morning after I get the girls settled for camp and catch up on everyone else. XO

[Pbn3]

Maxim great to hear from you! And my god I could've written what you have several times these past couple years, especially after each mc, I often felt it was my punishment for pushing for something I should have left well alone at my age.... in a few days time you'll do another 180 I predict and feel fully on board and confident again. You'll likely go up and down several times throughout your cycle. Just gotta go along for the ride for now. Can you talk your feelings through with dh and get his perspective? You two seem so close and appear to have a beautiful marriage that someone like me could only dream of!

I don't know whether dh being on an SSRI can cause birth defects? I thought it was moreso what medication a woman was on? Can you ring and ask your ob his/her opinion?

What I will say is don't make any decisions just yet. You have time to work through your feelings and putting pressure on yourself to come to a decision now will only make things worse and is really not necessary yet Give yourself a few days (well 4 or 5 at least) and see how you're feeling then xxoo. Also perhaps instead of feeling like its not happening because its not meant to be, why not long at it as 'good things come to those who wait' or your body is waiting for the perfect healthy egg to come along (which WILL be this cycle &#128074

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[TtcBlue18]

Max: I go through this mental debate just about every other day. I feel selfish for wanting a baby and pushing it when I know dh doesn't. Some days i wonder if he's right, if our family is perfect the way it is and another child will only add stress that we don't really have right now. I think, for one reason or another, everyone has these thoughts. For some maybe it's just because the process is taking too long and they feel like God must not want them to have it. Whatever the reason is, I think it's completely normal. I can't tell you much about the birth defects risks, because I really don't know, but I would think that if it was a possibility, it would make most sense that the sperm with abnormalities would be excluded by natural selection and never make it to the egg. And with femera, did they say that could happen when they prescribed it to you? If it can cause abnormalities in the egg, that's something they would (or should) have told you. It doesn't make much sense to me that something designed to help you conceive could potentially harm the baby. I think you should take time to think and talk to dh, but I would say this is probably a side effect of the femera because the change of mind was just so sudden and out of blue. There's absolutely nothing selfish about wanting to give your daughters another baby to grow with. Like Pbn said, I would rather see it as all good things to those who wait. Just take it one day at a time, don't give up yet. This could be the cycle!

[Mommy2apples]

Max, you definitely not alone in this, part of me feels like why can't I just be happy with babies I already have. And I am I cherish them, I just don't feel like our family is complete yet!


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[TtcBlue18]

Mommy- Thank you! I sure hope it works. I would like to get eod leading up to O but worst comes to worst I'll just get 2 at O and eod after. DH just needs to get over it. It's hard enough to get pregnant without throwing in the extra hurdles! I feel like limiting cycles is enough for him to get his way (no baby) so I shouldn't feel bad about sabotaging his "birth control" right?

[Mommy2apples]

You shouldn't ttc! Like I always tell my dh, but he isn't saying he doesn't want one this time. I always told him if you didn't want one then why aren't you preventing it? In the end they love their babies anyways!


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[TtcBlue18]

Mommy: I forget, When are you going to take your first test?

[Mommy2apples]

Ttc: going to test the first time on the 4th of July, will be 10-11 dpo. then if nothing will wait until the 8th to see if af shows her ugly race.


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[NACIREMADREAM]

Mommy2apples - How are you feeling? Do you have any symptoms ?