Swaying and dissapointment ?

[Flava]

Sorry for the bad choice of words. "fail" I've just read it on a few sites so thought thats what it was called.
You all have such a great outlook on it.
Very glad I found this site.

Oh no it's not you! we just hate that others call our sweet babys like that.

[Pangea]

I feel like I would be less disappointed if I swayed and got the opposite, than if I didn't sway. Because at least I would feel that I had done my best. I'm waiting to try at the moment, and I'm worried about getting pregnant by accident. Because I feel that if I do that it will probably be another boy and I'll be kicking myself for not doing everything in my power to try and sway the odds towards a girl.

[love being a mummy]

I feel like I would be less disappointed if I swayed and got the opposite, than if I didn't sway. Because at least I would feel that I had done my best. I'm waiting to try at the moment, and I'm worried about getting pregnant by accident. Because I feel that if I do that it will probably be another boy and I'll be kicking myself for not doing everything in my power to try and sway the odds towards a girl.

I'm starting to feel like this. Everytime I think I'll just ttc and hope for the best. Then I think I will be dissapointed if I don't at least give it a try.

[carmella_marie]

I have not had an opposite but I feel like I need to try my absolute hardest to sway, that way, if I get an opposite at least I can say I did all that I could to get my desired gender and God obviously had different plans in mind!

[begonia]

As blue-friendly as my lifestyle tends to be, I felt like I had to sway pink just to get myself to 50-50!!!

ITA with this! I think for those of us who are naturally keyed one way or another, swaying gets you to what might be considered "normal" odds. Which still leaves a lot of room for an opposite! And not to be all cheesy/preachy AS but God doesn't hate you; impossible in my mind. I mean, I definitely got angry with Him about this, but I don't think me not getting my way means he doesn't love me. I feel like my kids are the best way He's been able to show me that I don't actually control everything, as much as I tend to think that I do. Apparently 2 reminders weren't enough so he's hammering it home with DD3

Anyhow ... coming from someone who recently found out the sway didn't get us the gender we were hoping for, yes, absolutely, it left me disappointed. I have made no secret of that here BUT ... the disappointment is not in swaying. I know FOR SURE that my sway "worked" in that I had so many changes physically/hormonally that there was no doubt in my mind that I DID in fact sway myself towards blue. I was disappointed because I knew that my sway did work (it worked IMO bc my body changed, but didn't "work" in terms of getting me a DS) so I did have more hope for a boy, if that makes sense. If I hadn't seen all the changes I saw I don't think I'd have been so hopeful. So oddly I'd say I had a successful sway, because I did change my body, but the "dice" still landed on pink

[CapricornAquarius]

"Swaying is about trying not about winning or failing"

100% right!! This is what I need to stick into my head, thanks purplepoet.

Dd1 Dd2 & OMG Im

[My Fabulous Children]

"Swaying is about trying not about winning or failing"

Agreed.

[pinga]

I swayed for this bub (6w PG) and I know I will initially feel disappointed and sad if I get my third boy... but only because I think that will be our last and I won't get my girl... it has nothing to do with how I will feel towards my child if it is a boy. I agree with what others have said... swaying is simply trying to lean one way over the other but essentially it is still down to fate and I will be grateful and happy for whatever bundle of joy fate lands in my lap!!

[zanacal]

ITA with this! I think for those of us who are naturally keyed one way or another, swaying gets you to what might be considered "normal" odds. Which still leaves a lot of room for an opposite! And not to be all cheesy/preachy AS but God doesn't hate you; impossible in my mind. I mean, I definitely got angry with Him about this, but I don't think me not getting my way means he doesn't love me. I feel like my kids are the best way He's been able to show me that I don't actually control everything, as much as I tend to think that I do. Apparently 2 reminders weren't enough so he's hammering it home with DD3

Anyhow ... coming from someone who recently found out the sway didn't get us the gender we were hoping for, yes, absolutely, it left me disappointed. I have made no secret of that here BUT ... the disappointment is not in swaying. I know FOR SURE that my sway "worked" in that I had so many changes physically/hormonally that there was no doubt in my mind that I DID in fact sway myself towards blue. I was disappointed because I knew that my sway did work (it worked IMO bc my body changed, but didn't "work" in terms of getting me a DS) so I did have more hope for a boy, if that makes sense. If I hadn't seen all the changes I saw I don't think I'd have been so hopeful. So oddly I'd say I had a successful sway, because I did change my body, but the "dice" still landed on pink

This is exactly how I feel about my sway B - that I'm sure it worked to give me a better chance of a girl but there's still a big chance that the dice rolled boy anyway!

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks B!

It's SO much more than swaying that makes me feel God hates me LOL! That was just the cherry on top of the sundae haha. I know it's not rational to feel that way and it helps nothing tho. :/