Oh my! AF returns after over 2 and a half years - starting my girl sway planning...

[suregena]

What's compressed frequent release?

[atomic sagebrush]

1) Being vegetarian is fabulous for pink but just be sure to cut back on the protein as well. Aim for 40-50 g of protein - you may need to cut way back on legumes or eliminate them all together. On my Low Everything Diet, vegetables are allowed, with an emphasis on the less-nutritious ones. The diet breakdown is, 1500-1800 calories a day, 40-50 g of protein, 20-30% fat, 700-1000 mg sodium and a MINIMUM of 2500 mg of potassium. I don't think potassium sways (but it is a part of the IG and FGDs) and so for most pink swayers on the LE diet, there is no need to even count potassium, but if you're trying to include mineral ratios in your sway diet, please get 2500 mg of potassium at the very least.

you will want to cut back/eliminate as much healthy fat as possible and also choose fat-free dairy whenever possible. (altho you may not choose to do this while BFing, I feel that it's safe because your body takes what it needs to make your milk with.) Also, a fiber supplement like Chitosan or Metamucil may help absorb fats and sweep them from your body before they're digested.

2) I took vitex while BF both DS 3 and 4, 2 W on, 2 W off. I believe it to be safe to take while breastfeeding, esp. a 20 monthy old (I would not take it if breastmilk was my child's only source of nutrition or until they were at least 9 months old). But you have to go with what your heart tells you on that.

3)I don't think you need to cut out caffeine at all. The only reason why the IGD and FGD have a restriction on caffeine is because they think it causes calcium to leach from your body, which is an urban legend that has been pretty much debunked (you would have to ingest fatal amounts for that to happen). Plus, I'm not at all convinced that calcium = girls anyway. I've talked to literally dozens of girl moms both here and on IG that were total caffeine addicts. And caffeine in large doses can actually reduce overall fertility, which sways pink.

You do need to be aware that coffee and tea do have antioxidants that may sway slightly blue but as an overall part of a Low Everything diet, they are perfectly fine because you'll be reducing the level of nutrients you take in from other places anyway. Also, sometimes I find that caffeine fuels the "testosterone beast" and makes me more competitive and tenacious about things, so if that is true for you, it may be something to consider cutting back on.

4)I wrote an essay that should answer all your q's about frequency of BD http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...-pink-and-blue Let me know if there is anything you still need to know.

5)I think licorice root is the best supp for DH to take. If he can do aspartame, that might help a little but the licorice root is the best thing. Baths are great too or if you can get him to ride a bike, that helps as well.

6)Pros and cons of douching (and how to) can be found here. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...ching-TTC-Pink

7)The FGD and IGD do not allow herbs and spices because they are alkalinizing. They are allowed on the LE diet. My Low Everything diet and also recipes from my cookbook-in-progress are in the Dream Members section.

8) Swiss is the "best" cheese for pink because it's low in sodium, but regardless of what cheeses you use, do keep to the 1500-1800 cal, 40-50 g protein, 20-30% fat guidelines of the diet and you can use whatever cheese you want. In my cookbook I frequently use smaller amounts of strongly flavored cheeses like fresh parmesan, feta, and blue cheese because you can use a tiny amount and get a lot of flavor.

9)Diet and losing some weight will really help lower your testosterone levels naturally. If you want a quicker fix, you can use saw palmetto BUT you can't use that while nursing and you'd ahve to wean.

[atomic sagebrush]

What's compressed frequent release?

That is explained here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...-pink-and-blue

[suregena]

Thank you so much for that breakdown of everything for me, Atomic! THANK YOU! That is very helpful. I think I'll do the vitex but won't do the Palmetto, as I do not want to wean my son.
Thank you again, ladies.

[suregena]

Now I think I might have to change the plan I am trying to formulate! :/

Any feedback would be helpful. I know diet is the most important thing, so I'm leaning on that and the fact that both me and my husband are vegetarian, anyway (though we loooove our beans/cheese/fat... so that will have to change, at least for me, entirely! I'm leaning on going as vegan as possible, I think, for this...)

But I do want some sort of timing plan in place, I guess. I was going to abstain but now it's clicked about the slight increase of birth defects in men over 35 (my husband is 36... 37 in January when we'll likely being to attempt...) and I am almost 26. I don't want to make it so bad it's... well, a bad idea!

I suppose I would be doing everything everywhere else that timing wouldn't be as much as an issue, and perhaps frequent release with a cut off would be more ideal? I've mentioned this multiple time in several threads, but hubby already wears tight jeans, is happy to take hot baths right before DTD, doesn't usually wear boxers but boxer briefs, etcetera. He is happy to take Licorice root. And even drink some stuff with aspartme in it. His diet won't change as much as mine will.

Do you think, given the factor of his age, but with my younger age (I've always managed to get pregnant first month trying... though lost my first two pregnancies early on), that perhaps abstinence may not be the greatest idea?

Thanks for always answering my questions... you ladies are marvellous. I've just finished my second period, post-partum (my son is now 21 months!) and so far everything is more regular than it was before I had my son! My cycle so far is sitting around 29 days. (before my son, it was always about 32 day cycle...)

[zanacal]

Your husband sounds like a star and all those things he's willing to do will help! Regarding abstinence or frequent release, have you read this?

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...-pink-and-blue

[suregena]

Your husband sounds like a star and all those things he's willing to do will help! Regarding abstinence or frequent release, have you read this?

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...-pink-and-blue

Yes, I have. Ha! That's why I'm confused--I just don't know! With his age, and being that I had two past miscarriages before my son, I wonder if abstaining would not be good for me or for him like I originally planned on.
Part of me thinks that because my body has now done it that it will know what it's doing now. But miscarriages will happen for a variety of reasons, regardless of anything I did. I'm trying to prep myself for that eventuality as well. I might be lucky and the first resulting pregnancy will be fine. One can hope.

My husband doesn't want me to obsess about it, and he'll go along with it as long as it doesn't become some stressful thing, and I've assured him I'd be totally happy with a boy, but I thought might as well try for a girl for the second kiddo for fun. He is curious about it, anyway, to see what happens.

[atomic sagebrush]

Now I think I might have to change the plan I am trying to formulate! :/

Any feedback would be helpful. I know diet is the most important thing, so I'm leaning on that and the fact that both me and my husband are vegetarian, anyway (though we loooove our beans/cheese/fat... so that will have to change, at least for me, entirely! I'm leaning on going as vegan as possible, I think, for this...)

But I do want some sort of timing plan in place, I guess. I was going to abstain but now it's clicked about the slight increase of birth defects in men over 35 (my husband is 36... 37 in January when we'll likely being to attempt...) and I am almost 26. I don't want to make it so bad it's... well, a bad idea!

I suppose I would be doing everything everywhere else that timing wouldn't be as much as an issue, and perhaps frequent release with a cut off would be more ideal? I've mentioned this multiple time in several threads, but hubby already wears tight jeans, is happy to take hot baths right before DTD, doesn't usually wear boxers but boxer briefs, etcetera. He is happy to take Licorice root. And even drink some stuff with aspartme in it. His diet won't change as much as mine will.

Do you think, given the factor of his age, but with my younger age (I've always managed to get pregnant first month trying... though lost my first two pregnancies early on), that perhaps abstinence may not be the greatest idea?

Thanks for always answering my questions... you ladies are marvellous. I've just finished my second period, post-partum (my son is now 21 months!) and so far everything is more regular than it was before I had my son! My cycle so far is sitting around 29 days. (before my son, it was always about 32 day cycle...)

Suregena, TBH, I NEVER think abstinence is the best idea except maybe in a 18 year old. LOL. It may sway very strongly but there are other things that sway too and I just think err on the side of caution, ya know? Plus, knowing men , there's just no way that all the women on the face of the planet were conceived with these long abstains, so it is in no way a prerequisite to conceiving a girl.

HUGE :agee: to vegan!!

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, I have. Ha! That's why I'm confused--I just don't know! With his age, and being that I had two past miscarriages before my son, I wonder if abstaining would not be good for me or for him like I originally planned on.
Part of me thinks that because my body has now done it that it will know what it's doing now. But miscarriages will happen for a variety of reasons, regardless of anything I did. I'm trying to prep myself for that eventuality as well. I might be lucky and the first resulting pregnancy will be fine. One can hope.

My husband doesn't want me to obsess about it, and he'll go along with it as long as it doesn't become some stressful thing, and I've assured him I'd be totally happy with a boy, but I thought might as well try for a girl for the second kiddo for fun. He is curious about it, anyway, to see what happens.

I think there is something to your theory that your body may know what it's doing now. I used to work for a dog breeder and it was not at all uncommon for the mama dogs coming into heat the first time, would lose their first litters or else they were very small, and go onto have normal and large litters afterwards. This happened so often that my boss quit breeding them in their first heats.

Esp. since you will be happy with another boy personally I would not do the abstain but as always, that is totally your choice!

[suregena]

Okay, I'll change tactic then. I think!

I was playing with the idea of buying that miracle noodle stuff and have that for dinner every night (to save me from trying to figure out a meal all the time) and just alternate safe "sauces". What are your thoughts on miracle noodle?

I'm definitely going to try to go as vegan as possible without making myself starved considering the diet is so restrictive, more or less, anyway. At the very least I'll cut out the dairy I probably OVER-do in my normal, every day vegetarian diet. I mean, this household goes through blocks of cheese in a couple days it seems. Maybe doing the opposite will make my body go, "WHAT THE!"