12 weeks 2 days scan- Boy or Girl???

[TTC5]

What is a hysterotomy? big hugs and prayers again xxx

[TTC5]

I googled it, it's okxxxxxxxx I'm sorry you have to go through all this :'(

[maybeoneday]

Oh sorry, I misred your previous post. I hope you have a lot of supportive friends and family that can help you and you have a super speedy recovery. I also hope your doctor will be able to answer your questions when they call. Will be thinking of you. x

[nuthinbutpink]

Hi, Well yeah I've wondered the same thing. I asked why they didn't pick up the brain issue at the 12 week scan, and the doctor said because at 12 weeks, the brain only has a few simple structures laid out, and that the problem hadn't had time to develop yet.

But I had always had a funny feeling about the guy who did my scan because you're right, the video and pictures were really blurry and he didn't seem really familiar with things, which is strange because it's one of the most hi-tech specialist centres in Brisbane.

So there'll always be that 'what if' factor.. And obviously I just keep going over in my head, what have I done, did I eat something wrong, what can I do to prevent it next time. All I've ever wanted is a big family and I just have no idea how I can continue that wish on

Most issues like this have nothing to do with anything you or DH did or didn't do. Nothing. It's a random occurence and I would just ask if there is any testing you need to have done but we have even seen babies with serious issues from HT that required an early termination so it just happens. No reason. It does seem like issues with major organs should have been seen earlier though. I'm sorry.

[DoulaMama]

Thinking of you, Joanna. I honestly can't imagine my thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through such tough times. xoxo

[purplepoet20]

I am so sorry. That is horrible news!

[JoannaK]

I've just had a call from the specialist, and they've got the amnio results in. Basically the baby is triploidy, meaning it has 3 sets of chromosomes instead of two, and that's been caused by 2 sperm attaching itself to the egg. It's amazing that the pregnancy has lasted this far and that I didn't miscarry early, but there you go..

What it means is that given what the baby is missing in the brain, it is just not compatible with life, meaning as soon as it's detached from my body, be it at 20 weeks, or full term, it's going to die. The specialist said if I were to continue the pregnancy, I would be putting my health in jeopardy, and I'd be at serious risk of hypertension.

He also mentioned that in Australia, we do things differently to that of Europe, just like Europe would do things differently to America, and so on, so we have different procedures for different regions of the world, and this is just the procedure that's done here, I know no different than what I've been told, and I'm trusting my doctor.

The good news is that triploidy ISN'T genetic, so it's nothing that my husband or I have done, though my husband has gone downhill quite badly since getting the phone call, because he believes it's his fault because it was two of his sperm that got to my egg etc.

But the dr said all things going well, 3 months after the procedure is done (and he wants it done asap, it will probably happen mid to late next week), we can try again, and are encouraged to do so, should we wish. And I would love to, whether or not I'll have the guts to is a different story, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it



Thanks again to everybody for the beautiful words, that have helped me and my family so much, and I don't think I'd be managing to the level I am at the moment without your support

xxo

PS, irony of everything, the bub is a boy! lol. so I've had about 35 people look at my 12 week scan and say girl, so there you have it. I actually feel slightly "better" knowing he's a boy, because even if I was told the gender of the baby had nothing to do with it, if the bub had been a girl, I know I would forever be terrified of trying for a girl again and getting the same outcome

[TTC5]

Big big hugs, and glad you got your answers/results. Wishing you a speedy recovery and sending healing loving thoughts your way xxx

[JoannaK]

Thanks TTC5 xx
I just want whatever needs to happen happen, and move on to trying again, I just want another healthy pregnancy and baby, I love being pregnant

[DoulaMama]

Joanna- Wow, that is so much to take in I can't imagine the emotional pain right now. It must be nice, in some way, to know that it wasn't your fault in any way. Most times it isn't anything we do...but I can imagine the "what-ifs" that go floating through your mind. It must be torture I'm so sorry that you hubby is feeling that way. Is the recovery faster than a section? Did your Dr's give you an idea of how long you should recover before trying again? I hope that everything goes well with your surgery and I will be thinking healing thoughts for you, Mama~ xo Much love to you~~