I second what the other ladies just said. My DD3 currently 20 week old simply adores DD1 who is 8 years older than her more than DD2 who is 4 tears older than her. Its all about personalities. Now even though i didnt plan it this way but having an age gap helped me a lot. My DD3 is practically being raised by dd1 and dd2. I can actually sit and relax or go about my house work knowing that the eldest 2 are looking out for dd3 and making sure she is entertained and out of trouble.
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Thread: Hesitant about ttc
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January 10th, 2018, 10:37 PM #11
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January 11th, 2018, 09:23 AM #12
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January 11th, 2018, 09:25 AM #13
Thanks Tp ! I deliver tomorrow so we shall see but i am not getting my hopes up.
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January 11th, 2018, 08:00 PM #14DD1 (2014)
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January 12th, 2018, 04:55 PM #15
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January 13th, 2018, 04:38 AM #16DD1 (2014)
DD2 (2016)
Oursway is getting into NOW or NEVER territory
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January 13th, 2018, 02:03 PM #17
Ok. I'm going to throw my 2cents out here which is:
Sometimes guys say "I'll support your decision" as a method of dodging the responsibility of the decision while reserving the right to hold you accountable for everything that happens after that. That's my take on it (and my experience as well) I'm not saying this is necessarily true for your hubby but it is something I have seen happen. It is a passive aggressive thing - "yes you make this choice" said out loud and then there is resentment when you make the "wrong" choice. So just be aware, again, not saying this is what is happening but I do feel that it happens and has happened to me personally.
I think it's really natural to have some hesitation TTC anyway and when you feel like your partner is not in it to win it, it adds to the ambivalence of the whole thing.
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January 13th, 2018, 02:06 PM #18
I completely agree with this. My 3 younger ones, 2 boys and a girl, are peas in a pod. Sometimes one of them is off by themselves, but it's almost always voluntary. Whereas my two older boys never really got along that well (even though they do now as adults). It's just the kids personalities that matter the most.
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January 14th, 2018, 07:24 PM #19
Thanks Atomic for your thoughts. DH is definitely the passive aggressive type. However he's not very malicious so I suspect his reluctance to really make a decision comes more from not wanting to rock the boat and not wanting to mess with something that's working. He actually really likes kids and is always very good with ours, perhaps he's just a little tired. On a side note too he told me yesterday that he'd raised this idea of another baby with DD1 and asking her thoughts so he's perhaps getting his head around the idea.
DD1 (2014)
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January 16th, 2018, 02:46 PM #20Dreamer
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Thank you! Yes I'm in Aus too. I think if we could do HT here in Aus I wouldn't think twice about it, however the cost of HT overseas has me questioning it all, but as I already have 1 failed sway I don't know that I want to rely on swaying again - but who knows maybe third time is the charm?
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