The TROUBLE with timing!

[Prayingpinkgirl]

I had a quick question. I am pretty regular and will ovulate Friday. My husband has been abstaining for almost 2 weeks. Should we bd tonight and tomorrow or just tomorrow. What do you suggest?I feel like the abstaining is the best thing were doing as far as swaying girl. Along with using rephresh 3 days ago and half today. Was planning on using aci jel before if need be. dh also has been taking cranberry pills drinking crystal light and lic root. And I have been drinking loads od crystal light and taking cranberry pills and folic acid.

[atomic sagebrush]

Just one attempt for pink is best. Here's a really long thread about it! http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...pink-blue.html

So you are trying for a cutoff all the way from Tuedsay to Friday plus all that other stuff?? That is fine if you wish to do it that way, just making sure. Be aware that's not giong to give you a very good chance of conception. Might want to stretch it one more day to Wednesday for 2 day cutoff instead.

[Princessclare]

Coming up next month my time to bd my hubby is 37 so abstain or frequent release??? X

[Prayingpinkgirl]

Hi Atomic, I was reading previous posts from year 2014 and you said abstaining did not sway much. What changed from 2014-2018. Has the percentage gone up since then? I did not have success this time. DH did an 11 day abstain with bd at first sign of +opk. Test is still Negative as of today 9dpo. Is there anything else you would suggest I do. I am 31 and he is 29 so I assume the abstaining is safe for us!

[atomic sagebrush]

Coming up next month my time to bd my hubby is 37 so abstain or frequent release??? X

oh sorry I missed this, FR for men over 35.

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi Atomic, I was reading previous posts from year 2014 and you said abstaining did not sway much. What changed from 2014-2018. Has the percentage gone up since then? I did not have success this time. DH did an 11 day abstain with bd at first sign of +opk. Test is still Negative as of today 9dpo. Is there anything else you would suggest I do. I am 31 and he is 29 so I assume the abstaining is safe for us!

No, it's still disappointingly low. I keep it in the mix because many want to use it but it's among the first things we drop to boost chances of conception.

I"m really not following your question about what changed from 2014-2018?

9 DPO does not mean you're out, you are testing too early.

May want to try abstain again but not so long this time, more like 7 days

[Prayingpinkgirl]

I assumed abstaining increases your chances for a girl. Is it just diet alone then? I see more comments and positive feedback about abstaining in 2017 than back in 2014....I am just lost now. The past 2 months we have abstained and 1 bd at first + opk with no luck. Is the abstaining portion not getting good results or is it just the 1 attempt that increases the chance of girl....So I should do 1 attempt with dh abstaining just 7 days?? Thank you!

[atomic sagebrush]

We all assumed that LOL but when we tracked our results they were disappointing, plus abstain has caused a LOT of stress/trouble for people and can cut odds of conception significantly.

I don't know where you're seeing any positive comments about abstaining. I let people do it now, I let people do it then, but I don't believe it does anything. Trust me, after 4 years of realizing abstain does nothing, I REALLY know abstain does nothing at this point but some people want to try it so I let them.

One attempt is what works. Abstain may do a tiny wee something (like if we took 100 couples, maybe we'd see a teeny bit more girls conceived with abstain) but it just isn't adding anything, plus it is cutting odds of conception with the one attempt which has been far more reliable for us.

[Prayingpinkgirl]

Thanks Atomic for clearing that up lol....So I started AF today, I will possibly ovulate 2/4/18. I have a 26 day cycle. I will do 1 attempt at +opk...what should DH do? Should he release every day, every other day etc. before that 1 attempt or be abstinent for just 7 days. I understand the 1 attempt portion. I just confused as to what DH should be doing?....THANK YOU

[atomic sagebrush]

It's up to you. Both abstain and daily release (every day for 7-10 days) is said to sway pink, but neither have gotten good result (for reasons we already talked about) So you may want to start off with them and drop them and start doing every 2-4 day release for DH with the one attempt.