worried I already ruined my chances of XX!

[Rcpsfate]

Well. Here I am. Just found out I’m pregnant. I’ve been off this forum for many months and am now coming back to it. I was hoping for some calming words and support....here’s my story:

I have 2 wonderful boys. The oldest is 3 years and the youngest is 18months. I was really trying with them-taking all sorts of vitamins and drinking teas and having lots and lots of sex, and obsessing A LOT about my ovulation and timing of sex etc etc etc. I was eating a ton of protein. Meat at every meal. Things like that.

Last March I decided I would try my hand at the LE diet. And I told myself I wasn’t going to obsess over getting pregnant this time. No ovulation strips, no charting, none of that. I did LE successfully for a long time. I dropped red meat and starting going mostly veggie, though admittedly not super successful on that. I would have turkey and chicken. I stopped eating 2 eggs per day (dropped to maybe 2 per week), starting drinking lots of coffee, skipped breakfast on the majority of days, drank fiber, and increased my alcohol intake by quite a bit (went from maybe once a month to drinking wine 4 or more evenings per week). I couldn’t do the exercise but decided I just needed to live my life and not get super crazy about this.

Then the holidays were upon me and I was getting nervous about gaining weight and I did something I didn’t realize would be detrimental to my efforts: I started the isagenix diet. Then the holidays hit. More wine, but also more food. I still stuck with lots of coffee, skipping breakfast, and little meat. We went on vacation early January for 2 weeks where I did a lot of walking every day. I wasn’t really all that great about the isagenix diet while on vacation, but I was using the shakes to avoid eating too much food. Sooo. I got back, and googled isagenix and ttc a girl....and I immediately stopped the shakes and went back to the LE diet as best I could. Started drinking the fiber again......aaaaaaaaand now I’m pregnant. Within the same cycle. So. I can only assume that this baby will also be a boy. I won’t lie...I’ll be slightly deflated if it’s not a girl but only for a second because I really would just love another baby. I decided I was only going to have another baby if I wanted another baby regardless of gender.

We had sex every 4 days through what I believe was my fertile period, but I wasn’t keeping track, and I don’t recall any copious amount of cervical mucus. The sex that I believe is the one that knocked me up was missionary without an orgasm, and it was coincidentally preceded by a hot shower for both of us. I dunno. I’m grasping at straws! I know since I was on isagenix for 2 months, it probably decreases my chances of a girl, but I’d still like some thoughts from everyone. I appreciate you reading this. I’m happy to be pregnant again, even though I think I’m most scared about disappointment from my family...I think that’s what is driving me to want to try for a girl in the first place. My parents and in-laws made it abundantly clear they wanted my second son (who is so loving and funny and has the softest cheeks in the world) to be a girl.

I just....need some kind words....thank you

[MrsEnglish]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

I don't know what isagenix diet is, but it sounds like with your first 2 kids you were swaying boy with eating a lot of meat, and you dropped that this time, so I think that would help a lot. Just me speculating, but I think you have over a 50% chance of having a girl this time.

That sounds really hard having your parents and in-laws openly show disappointment. I don't know what your family dynamics are like, but could you or your DH gently tell them that expressing disappointment would be unappreciated? Would something like "Hey, we're pregnant again and don't know the gender yet. We'd be happy to have either, and we're asking you to please not make any negative remarks if it turns out to be a boy", go over okay?

[Rcpsfate]

That’s a great idea. My parents would do well with that but his parents can’t help themselves. I’ll give it a try. As it is, we won’t be telling anyone until I’m over 12 weeks since I had 2 miscarriages between my first 2 boys. We have a little time to figure out how to approach it all but I do like that idea. Thanks!!!

[ksmom]

You always have a chance at a girl, swaying or not. I know how hard it is to have family that feeds your desire for a daughter. My mom mentions it often and it just makes me feel bad to be honest. I think the best thing you can do is just try to tune them out, as hard as that may be. Your happiness matters, not theirs because they're your kids. Congrats on your pregnancy and I hope you hear pink!

[atomic sagebrush]

You can't assume anything, some people have gotten girls on Isagenix, just because I don't think it's the most reliable way to get a girl that doesn't mean it isn't possible! In fact if memory serves one of our blue sway opposites was in a lady doing Isagenix. It has some vegetable based fats in it and those may sway pink.

Good luck and pink dust!!