Newbie's *pink* pink dreams

[sunstars]

Thank you so much for quick reply! Yeah, I'm, not ready to give up everything "pink" yet. I'm just puzzled why it is taking so long to get pregnant this time, could it be just bad luck each time interfering (bad timing, sicknesses, etc.) or some really big problem arisen these past two years. My cycles now are more predictive than they ever were, 25-27 days, with pos opk at cd 11-12.
I do continue e4d way after positive opk, and then close to the end of the cycle just random bd, which is more frequent than e4d.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes it may just be bad luck, but try laying down after BD for part of the time on your tummy in addition to on your back if you aren't already. That has seemed to help some of us conceive when we hadn't for a while.

[sunstars]

I'm pregnant, Atomic! So far confirmed by bfps.
Thank you so much for your encouragement, besides everything else
To say the truth, I wasn't good neither at diet or BD pattern this month. I did skipped breakfast, but still had mostly 3 meals, had 2 cups of coffee, used a little bit of alcohol, put on at least 2 kg for past few months, took Femara. As for BD pattern, I was going to do e4d +1 again, but somehow I messed up both with opks and BDs, usually I had +opk on cd11-cd12. So we BD cd7, cd9, cd11, cd13, cd15, I hope that the last two BDs doesn't count, so I kind of had two real attempts.
Now I'm trying to find new doctors and hospital, and prepare myself for another little baby, but still hoping very much for a girl.

[Parying4agirl]

Congrats on your pregnancy

[atomic sagebrush]

good luck and pink dust headed your way!

[sunstars]

Unfortunately I miscarried at 9/3 weeks, a week ago on ultrasound everything was fine, I started bleeding and ultrasound showed large hematoma and "cervical weakness", doctors put some efforts in form of giving me various medicine, but eventually I miscarried and had D&C done. That was two days ago. Today I'm surprisingly pretty determined and hopeful and in a mood to "keep fighting". I started the day with skipping breakfast and drinking coffee.
Here doctors say to wait for min 3-7 cycles, have everything checked/tested, get treated (they mainly think it's possible infections, which I think is not my case), before trying. I'm willing to wait for the next cycle, mainly to let the possible scars after D&C to heal and have some time to be back to LE diet (I was feeling pretty hungry while pregnant, so really messed up with everything). When they say that miscarriage also sways girl, do they mean before AF comes or next cycle after AF? I'm a bit worried about healing to start that early, am I right?
I was taking Femara (for swaying initially), but ended up taking for 5 cycles (one chemical and a month pause after that). Can I take it again next month, or it will be too much?
I got pregnant this last time unintentionally doing something close to EOD (I'm pretty sure it was three BDs before ovulaton, and just 2 actual attempts. Previously I got pregnant doing e4d+1, when I had chemical). So I assume I should keep doing e4d+1, or at least BD every 48-72 hours after cd7 (usually I ovulated at cd11-12).
I wanted to update you and hear you advises on how to proceed further.
Thank you so much for your understanding and patience and time!

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh no I'm so sorry.

Waiting 7 cycles is unheard of. Even 3 is overly conservative unless they know something I don't. I suspect the "cervical weakness" was because your body was pulling the plug on the pregnancy due to the hematoma, but even if it was legit, they can easily do a cerclage to fix that.

I would absolutely wait at least one cycle and possibly 2. Don't worry about the effect on the sway, you need to be sure you're healed.

Any pregnancy and loss will tax your system for at least 1-2 months or even longer after having it. We don't know how long losses will tend to sway pink, just don't have that data available

WEre you taking any high doses of blood thinners? Cranberry, aspirin, fish oil/DHA/flaxseed/EPO, bromelian, anything else that you can think of?

Femara is fine to take again but I really do want you to wait at least 1 and preferably 2 cycles. If your cycle takes a while to come back you can wait one, but if it happens boom, boom then do wait 2.

[sunstars]

Thank you so much for quick response!
I actually was wondering if I should have taken blood thinners, some doctors said I should, and some said I don't need to (I had pretty bad varicose veins which progressed with every pregnancy and after the premature labor with twins in one day I developed thrombi and had surgery to remove them and some veins, so the doctor who did the surgery is sure the problem is not my blood, but bad varicose veins I had). Anyway, I just looked up my prenatal vitamins, so I was taking about 170 mg of DHA every day. And now as I look more carefully, it turnes out I decreased intake of folic acid from 2 mg to 1.3 mg per day. Actually I kind of felt weird about these vitamins during last two pregnancies, can't explain why. I won't take them next time.
Also usually during pregnancies I was drinking at least 2 L of water, and this time I didn't.
Also do you think lifting my boys (13-16 kg) for a minute, sex, or some kind of work at home can lead to hematoma?
The other thing I can think of is I started to wear suggested support stockings after good US scan, could it have pressed my belly somehow... Ah, just trying to find a reason behind all this and maybe avoid it next time.

[atomic sagebrush]

Most of the time things just happen. It's nothing you did or didn't do, but just bad luck. The reason I ask is simply because I"ve seen some people who had hematomas who were taking large amounts of blood thinners and not because I thought you had done anything to cause it. We all did things like lift our little ones and I've never drunk that much water in any pregnancy. It just happens sometimes.

[sunstars]

You know, some doctors here are sure one should avoid sex, heavy lifting, active activities, etc. and make women think it's their fault. I brushed it off of course during all my pregnancies, but now started to wonder maybe somehow I became one of those "high-risk" and "fragile" ones It's just the fact that a week ago at 8/2 everything was perfect (heartbeat, sizes, placenta, etc.) and then it took such a dramatic turn make me think more about possible contributions.