May 2018 TTC & 2ww thread

[emshe]

Oh sunstars I am so sorry for your loss, it's such a difficult time & I can understand you wanting to get back into it, planning and moving forward was my way of coping (or maybe just keeping the mind busy). I think what your body is quite used to exercise wise shouldn't hurt. When it comes to ttc let your instincts guide you. Take care of yourself and I will see you in the ttc threads and seeing you get your sticky little one soon.

[emshe]

Well kinda CD1 today, or not, bit unsure... So Ill be actively back! I must admit my trying to keep away from here was very difficult. I missed you all!!!!! It's amazing how this forum allows us such to develop such connections despite never having met. Hope you are all feeling positive and hopeful.

[Pbn3]

Emshe sooo good to have you back!!! Really hope it is cd1!!

[Pbn3]

Abc how are you?

[gafan]

Sunstars, I am sorry for your loss. I had a D&C in December and was advised to wait to least one full cycle until TTC. They didn't put any limits on exercise or protected sex, so I think whatever exercise you are used to and whatever you feel like with sex would be fine. I didn't exercise for awhile, and I didn't feel like having sex much. I was kind of surprised by how long it took for me to stop bleeding, and I heard it is normal for some women to bleed awhile, stop, and then bleed again without it being AF yet. Slow down a bit, if you can, to slow grieving, and be extra kind and gentle with yourself. (Many of us have felt irrational guilt with pregnancy loss, but of course it was not your fault.) Take good care.

Hi again, hope all of you are doing fine, and are close to getting your bfps!

I'll be back to ttc next month probably, I had a D&C a few days ago, miscarried at 9/3 weeks.
I know some of you had similar terrible experience, could you please tell me when it is OK to get back to normal life, like exercise, DTD, etc., doctors here like to recommend pretty long wait intervals, which I don't think is necessary, so I wonder about more realistic and safe time frames.

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[Eighme]

Hi again, hope all of you are doing fine, and are close to getting your bfps!

I'll be back to ttc next month probably, I had a D&C a few days ago, miscarried at 9/3 weeks.
I know some of you had similar terrible experience, could you please tell me when it is OK to get back to normal life, like exercise, DTD, etc., doctors here like to recommend pretty long wait intervals, which I don't think is necessary, so I wonder about more realistic and safe time frames.

Sunstars, I'm so sorry for you loss! Sending you healing prayers and vibes and hoping your BFP comes when you're ready again.

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[ABC.2606]

Sunstars - I'm so, so sorry. Please take care of yourself - it's so terrible going through this kind of loss especially after you think things are going well and then suddenly, they aren't. My OBGYN and RE basically advise waiting a full cycle and until you have a "normal" AF again. My OB also told me I could resume exercise whenever I was ready, but I didn't have much bleeding so I'd say make sure you feel physically ok before starting again. We're here for you!

Gafan - Sorry about DH That's frustrating. I can't really relate as my DH is still very much wanting a 3rd and it's actually me who keeps asking him if we really should keep trying or not since I pretty frequently now feel like I'm ready to give up. Not that I don't want a 3rd as much as him (and I def want a girl more than he does), but this past year has drained me more than him. I know a lot of ladies on here though have struggled with their DHs in terms of continuing to ttc so you're in the right place to vent!!

Kikurose have you tested? Hopeful have you tested? Anyone else close to testing? Kitten do you think you've def ovulated yet? HGMama any news on your end?

Pbn - thanks for asking... I'm... eh, ok. I think I O'd late on Monday or early on Tuesday and since then I've been hit with a lot of feelings of regret about TTC-ing this cycle. I don't know that I was fully emotionally ready to try again and now I have really mixed feelings about possibly being pregnant. I feel like I don't want to go through it all again - getting a BFP, watching the FRER lines, getting betas done, worrying about the gender... possibly miscarrying, etc. etc. I also feel like I didn't give myself enough time back on the diet after my m/c and I have this strong sense already that if we got pregnant it will be a boy. I was really excited before O to try and have our attempt and since then it's basically been all regret - wasn't expecting to feel like that. I've also gotten horrible sleep all week, waking up a lot earlier than normal every day too so I know my temps aren't accurate. I have a cold or a sinus infection and DS2 has had a high fever since yesterday so it's just been a weird week. Thinking I wont test until Friday - feel like I'll be able to hold off longer this time since again I don't even know if I want a BFP.

[ABC.2606]

Oh and emshe YAY!!!! Glad to see you back!!!!!!!!

[HGmama]

Sunstars- I'm sorry for your loss. ABC and I both had our d&c's this year. My doc wanted me to wait until we confirmed it was a non-molar pregnancy and that my hcg levels dropped to a hpt was negative. It took a little bit longer (3 weeks) for me since I was 11 weeks by the time of my d&c. I would have been able to dtd protected until then but had some irregular bleeding so I had to hold off a bit longer. I'm learning that everyone's healing process is different and there's lots of different opinions on when to try again. Although we are actively TTC, I don't think my body truly got the hint so I'll be calling the doc on Monday.

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[HGmama]

Got the Saturday blues. Didn't even test today. We are traveling this weekend. 3 hr drive last night, 2.5 hr this morning, sleeping at SIL. And we'll be going to a soccer game tomorrow 1.5 hrs away and then we will have a total of 7ish hrs of driving tomorrow. To say the least, sleep is screwy, and intentionally forgetting to test today doesn't bother me. I guess I've already decided that I'm calling doc on Monday morning.

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