Part 2: Due January, February & March 2019

[shinay]

Simkan: congrats on getting your girl! Woohoo [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322]We have had many good news in DDG lately and I hope that it is a good sign we all will get our DG. I am sorry but how many weeks are you? Will you be telling family soon? I know everyone will be so thrilled with the news [emoji4] As for me, the surprised bridal shower will be at my house so I wont need to drive. I am not big drinker myself, but they will still at least expect me to have at least a few drinks hahaha. And lol about the cheese. I have been wanting some soft cheese, and I read that it is okay as long as it is pasteurized, is it true? I havent had any, but will be hard to stay away from it for 9 months [emoji33]

Pbn: good suggestion. If she asks, i might just tell her that. Maybe she will be so happy with all the guests and surprises that she wont notice a thing.

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[Throwaway_panther]

Simkan: congrats on getting your girl! Woohoo [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322]We have had many good news in DDG lately and I hope that it is a good sign we all will get our DG. I am sorry but how many weeks are you? Will you be telling family soon? I know everyone will be so thrilled with the news [emoji4] As for me, the surprised bridal shower will be at my house so I wont need to drive. I am not big drinker myself, but they will still at least expect me to have at least a few drinks hahaha. And lol about the cheese. I have been wanting some soft cheese, and I read that it is okay as long as it is pasteurized, is it true? I havent had any, but will be hard to stay away from it for 9 months [emoji33]

Pbn: good suggestion. If she asks, i might just tell her that. Maybe she will be so happy with all the guests and surprises that she wont notice a thing.

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You can have any soft cheese as long as it's pasteurized, and it's pretty hard to find raw soft cheese outside of specialty shops! I eat feta all the time and did all through pregnancy with DD!

[Throwaway_panther]

Sorry guys for being MIA. I will need to catch up with the posts. Have been busy planning and prepping for my friend's bridal shower and bachelorette party. I have to figure out how not to drink at the party without my friends knowing. Since it will just be the girls, I wont be able to change drinks with DH. It will be tough.

I have been trying to cope with the change. Most of my symptoms have gone away except for fatigue. I am so sleepy all the times. Besides working, all I want to do is sleep. I normally dont take naps, but I have been getting up later and nap at least once a day.

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What kind of drinks? I'm an expert at this point on hiding it since I'm a well known drinker amongst friends and family and have been perpetually pregnant the last 3 years! Especially since the antibiotics/not feeling well isn't something that works imo lol. Or at least no amongst my alcoholic friends and family

Beer: bring an empty bottle or can! Fill it with water when no one is looking!! This is the best one. There's still photos of me circling around friends holding up a can with no one the wiser!

Wine: Bring juice or sparkling grape juices to fill your glass when no one is watching (I've done a lot of bathroom glass fills!). White grape passes well or white wine, pomegranate is a great sub for red. If you offer to pour wine, you can get everyone distracted then go into the kitchen or wherever to put the bottle away/cork it then do your sneaky "wine." Or open it in the kitchen and pour your "wine" first then come out to pour everyone else's.

Liquor/cocktails: Red solo cups?! Easy! Put whatever in yours, EVERYONE assumes it's alcohol. I just did this last weekend at almost 16 weeks and still no one suspected until I told them this week! Nice cocktails in glassware? If premixed, make a "base" cocktail that people can add liquor too. So like a alcohol-free margarita mix or some sort of mocktail, say, "It goes well with vodka or rum," then just don't choose either. Alternatively, having just soda pop or something sparkling in your glass (especially with garnishes like olives, mint, lime, etc.) is usually enough to make it seem like you're drinking.

Shots: This is still my challenge round! People usually do these together so it's hard to hide and I usually would just say I'm driving or I'm already too tipsy from earlier drinks. I'd plan bathroom trips during shots and also have done, "I'll do the next round!" and gesture to my drink or convo I was having with someone and usually people would forget/be too drunk by next round lol

[Eighme]

What kind of drinks? I'm an expert at this point on hiding it since I'm a well known drinker amongst friends and family and have been perpetually pregnant the last 3 years! Especially since the antibiotics/not feeling well isn't something that works imo lol. Or at least no amongst my alcoholic friends and family

Beer: bring an empty bottle or can! Fill it with water when no one is looking!! This is the best one. There's still photos of me circling around friends holding up a can with no one the wiser!

Wine: Bring juice or sparkling grape juices to fill your glass when no one is watching (I've done a lot of bathroom glass fills!). White grape passes well or white wine, pomegranate is a great sub for red. If you offer to pour wine, you can get everyone distracted then go into the kitchen or wherever to put the bottle away/cork it then do your sneaky "wine." Or open it in the kitchen and pour your "wine" first then come out to pour everyone else's.

Liquor/cocktails: Red solo cups?! Easy! Put whatever in yours, EVERYONE assumes it's alcohol. I just did this last weekend at almost 16 weeks and still no one suspected until I told them this week! Nice cocktails in glassware? If premixed, make a "base" cocktail that people can add liquor too. So like a alcohol-free margarita mix or some sort of mocktail, say, "It goes well with vodka or rum," then just don't choose either. Alternatively, having just soda pop or something sparkling in your glass (especially with garnishes like olives, mint, lime, etc.) is usually enough to make it seem like you're drinking.

Shots: This is still my challenge round! People usually do these together so it's hard to hide and I usually would just say I'm driving or I'm already too tipsy from earlier drinks. I'd plan bathroom trips during shots and also have done, "I'll do the next round!" and gesture to my drink or convo I was having with someone and usually people would forget/be too drunk by next round lol

TP, this is the best advice ever! I come from a.family who loves their alcohol and friends too! So this is great advice to have on hand until I'm ready to tell everyone

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[simkan]

What kind of drinks? I'm an expert at this point on hiding it since I'm a well known drinker amongst friends and family and have been perpetually pregnant the last 3 years! Especially since the antibiotics/not feeling well isn't something that works imo lol. Or at least no amongst my alcoholic friends and family

Beer: bring an empty bottle or can! Fill it with water when no one is looking!! This is the best one. There's still photos of me circling around friends holding up a can with no one the wiser!

Wine: Bring juice or sparkling grape juices to fill your glass when no one is watching (I've done a lot of bathroom glass fills!). White grape passes well or white wine, pomegranate is a great sub for red. If you offer to pour wine, you can get everyone distracted then go into the kitchen or wherever to put the bottle away/cork it then do your sneaky "wine." Or open it in the kitchen and pour your "wine" first then come out to pour everyone else's.

Liquor/cocktails: Red solo cups?! Easy! Put whatever in yours, EVERYONE assumes it's alcohol. I just did this last weekend at almost 16 weeks and still no one suspected until I told them this week! Nice cocktails in glassware? If premixed, make a "base" cocktail that people can add liquor too. So like a alcohol-free margarita mix or some sort of mocktail, say, "It goes well with vodka or rum," then just don't choose either. Alternatively, having just soda pop or something sparkling in your glass (especially with garnishes like olives, mint, lime, etc.) is usually enough to make it seem like you're drinking.

Shots: This is still my challenge round! People usually do these together so it's hard to hide and I usually would just say I'm driving or I'm already too tipsy from earlier drinks. I'd plan bathroom trips during shots and also have done, "I'll do the next round!" and gesture to my drink or convo I was having with someone and usually people would forget/be too drunk by next round lol

This is such great advice I wish I had an opportunity to use it!

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[simkan]

I'm 11 weeks now. My parents and a couple friends that I see all the time know. I'll tell everyone after the 12 week scan. I'm going in on the 30th for that.

Yes I've also heard pasteurized is fine. During my last pregnancy I went to a cheese factory for a friend's birthday and it was all pasteurized and I figured.... hey they're making it here. It couldn't be more fresh so I had some. I did panic after

Simkan: congrats on getting your girl! Woohoo [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322]We have had many good news in DDG lately and I hope that it is a good sign we all will get our DG. I am sorry but how many weeks are you? Will you be telling family soon? I know everyone will be so thrilled with the news [emoji4] As for me, the surprised bridal shower will be at my house so I wont need to drive. I am not big drinker myself, but they will still at least expect me to have at least a few drinks hahaha. And lol about the cheese. I have been wanting some soft cheese, and I read that it is okay as long as it is pasteurized, is it true? I havent had any, but will be hard to stay away from it for 9 months [emoji33]

Pbn: good suggestion. If she asks, i might just tell her that. Maybe she will be so happy with all the guests and surprises that she wont notice a thing.

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[shinay]

TP: you really do get this thing down. Thank you for all the details. This is amazing and super useful. We will most likely do cocktails, beer since it is too hot outside and maybe some wine. The beer bottle with water is great idea. No one would be able to tell. Anyway, how have you been doing lately? Did you mention before you did the NIPT test? I forgot if you decide to find out gender with NIPT?

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[shinay]

I'm 11 weeks now. My parents and a couple friends that I see all the time know. I'll tell everyone after the 12 week scan. I'm going in on the 30th for that.

Yes I've also heard pasteurized is fine. During my last pregnancy I went to a cheese factory for a friend's birthday and it was all pasteurized and I figured.... hey they're making it here. It couldn't be more fresh so I had some. I did panic after

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It will just be a little more than a week now. How exciting! Cant wait to see more scans. I have a hard time keeping secret here. I just want to tell our whole family already, and get some advices from my mom but I am afraid my mom and MIL wont be able to keep the news to themselves and tell EVERYONE. It will be their first grandchild after all. But you see, it makes me stressed out more thinking how I will have to tell everyone if sth goes wrong (knock on wood). How do you guys tell family and make sure they dont tell a bunch of people?

Btw just got myself "What to expect when you are expecting." Cant wait to start reading when I get home. Heard lots of good things about the book, so I hope it will be a good guide for me through this 9 months journey.

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[Throwaway_panther]

Haha, I am so glad the advice is helpful everyone! For both (hopefully) successful pregnancies, I've been met with, "But I just saw you drinking" by a few people each time we revealed! That's when we give our winks and say, "DID YOU?" Haha -- people are persistently surprised because I throw them off like this.

Shinay -- we did NIPT and thankfully at least whatever was tested in that was normal. Still nervous since our chromosomal abnormalities were rarer ones (like Trisomy 8), but so far so good I hope. And no, we didn't find out gender -- didn't even check to get it tested and put in an envelope since I didn't trust the place where we get scans done for the midwives haha





Now in continuing, "TP is never happy," a sort of surprise occurrence happened and we did end up telling my in-laws. My FIL was predictably an asshole and literally didn't even look at me. My MIL was ecstatic though since she was familiar with some of the losses (and hadn't been the one to be super insensitive before -- she had defended FIL when he had said horrible things). My SIL who I love was so happy since she knew about almost all of the losses and had experienced many herself (I swear, it's the men in my husband's family, since she's married to my husband's brother).

Now, both my MIL and SIL admitted they thought it was a boy. But then my SIL said, "But I'm always wrong about other people's kids." So that sort of bummed me out? Then when I gave my MIL hand me down clothes from DD for my other SIL (who had a girl a few months ago), my FIL sort of yelled, "But what if you have another girl?" I pointed out that even if we did, we wouldn't be needing these clothes for a good year anyway, so at least she could use them, which MIL was very gracious about.

Lol, but now I've gone from, "No one is guessing because they think it's a girl!" to "Well people are guessing boy and still putting caveats making me feel bad!" I am never happy! (Though admittedly -- SIL was right about DD, and she was the ONLY person who thought DD was a girl!! Everyone else thought she was a boy haha).

[Noemi2017]

So some symptoms already started. Im hungry every half an hour and if i dont eat i dont feel sick but i dont feel good. I also cant drink hot drinks just cold water i cant decide what food i like because i dont know it myself