Part 2: Due January, February & March 2019

[Throwaway_panther]

I am starting to have a lot of anxiety about the gender the closer I get to finding out :/ I know I need to find out so I can work through my feelings during my pregnancy. My doctor knowing this has upped my anxiety/depression med and I’m feeling sick again while it regulates.
Next Monday I have my 12 week ultrasound and I hope to get a good nub shot and I’ve booked an early gender scan for 16 weeks. We haven’t told family yet and I just know what all the comments will be if it’s another boy. At least if it’s a girl I will be so happy that I won’t care about anyone’s opinions. I’ve been thinking if it’s a boy to just tell everyone we are waiting until birth to find out since it’s our last baby. Has anyone found out and then kept it a secret from everyone? Was it hard or did you ever accidentally let it slip?
I’ve felt so resentful lately about having all these boys around me and I can’t imagine adding another one. Then I feel so guilty and depressed about seeming so ungrateful. I want to enjoy my last pregnancy but it’s so hard, and I feel like it’s starting to put a wedge in my relationship too

Yes, we didn't share the gender with DD because I had so many issues with it. I never had any issues and secretly told only my best friends. DH occasionally slipped up in front of strangers!

[Noemi2017]

Welcome gafan, nice to see u here

[hannahptrussell]

Ladies, I know you're all further along that I but just wondering how did people take it when you told them you were pregnant? This is #4 for us. The reaction to #3 was less than stellar on all fronts. I know this news will be received similarly.
My mom called over yesterday and noticed that my anti anxiety meds were missing from the bathroom (she has eyes like a hawk) and she asked if I had weaned off them. I said I had over the last while. To which she replies " and there better be no more babies on the horizon. I know how your mind works!" (Ie, wean off meds and get pregnant straight away) I got really annoyed and refused to say anything about babies. Instead just saying that I've been trying to super slowly wean off them since Christmas and that I'm not my sister (who is taking a shed load of meds for anxiety, depression and everything in between and she will be for possibly her whole life) and that I don't want to be on meds long term.
We spent the remainder of the afternoon together. She made several negative pregnancy comments and then proceeded to tell my sister, who called with her partner of 5 months, that she wouldn't mind seeing another grandchild come from her. My sister has no kids, is in a very new relationship with a guy 7 years her junior and has said he's not at the point in his life of settling down and as I said above has obvious mental health issues (her meds would be potentially harmful to a pregnancy whereas the ones I was taking are the most "fetus friendly" you can get) It just hurt my feelings so much. I'm dreading telling her. My dad will laugh and say congrats. My sister will fake smile and then I'll hear all about how she went home and cried after hearing. My in laws - don't get me started. One SIL out of 5 said congrats on DS3.
I'm not doing any kind of social media announcement. I have a group of college friends who have a private FB group and I posted on it and was told point blank I must be crazy. All this negativity
Trying to tell myself all that matters is our family and how happy the kids will be when we tell them. I was shocked when I saw the BFP this cycle. We didn't think the timing had worked out at all. I don't think it's fully sunk in yet even and all this going on is making it harder to get my head around
Sorry for the essay and I'm sure most of it doesn't even make sense. I just don't know who else to talk to who might "get it". I'm such a positive person. I prefer to build people up even people I don't particularly have much time for. A firm believer of what goes around comes around but finding it all a bit blah at the minute.

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Girl....we could sit and talk for hours. We are pregnant with #5 and we’re given LoTS or push-back with #3. So we knew we were in for a sh%# show with family. We took our time and didn’t tell people until after 10 weeks. Then waited even longer to tell family. We basically said, “oh btw, we are 14 weeks pregnant!” That seemed to work. Our other kids helped share the news too. Because they were so excited, it made family hold their tongues. I know it’s hard. But be happy and stand your ground!! If you are excited, let that carry into your conversations. Yeah, big families seem crazy but we are SO incredibly blessed! I couldn’t imagine my life without my big family!


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[hannahptrussell]

Hello! I think I am going to have an April 3rd due date, but I'll join in here for now.

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So happy to hear this!!! Praying for a sticky little bean.


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[hannahptrussell]

ABC, I am thrilled for you! That little girl is going to be protected, for sure!


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[Cassidy4]

Yes, we didn't share the gender with DD because I had so many issues with it. I never had any issues and secretly told only my best friends. DH occasionally slipped up in front of strangers!

Yeah I’m most worried about DH slipping lol he’s a talker!

[simkan]

Hopper I'm sorry you don't think you'll get the reaction that a new baby deserves. I know it's easier said than done to say it doesn't matter what other people think, it's your family and you are excited.
My parents knew I was trying to get pregnant, I think their issue was financial, prices here for everything are huge, and yeah probably will be a stretch to pay for 3 of everything but I'm a believer that things happen as you need them. I'm not worried about that and I always wanted at least 3 so don't think it makes a massive difference if they are born closish together in age or further apart it will cost the same in the end. But I'm also very straight forward with my family. They know better than to throw negative comments my way.
The most I got was- what if it's another boy. My response was usually a sarcastic - well then we will end up with 4 or 5 boys.

I'm actually looking forward to the comments of a third boy when we announce the pregnancy now that I know it's a girl. I'm not going to announce its a girl on social media, but people in our lives that we see often can know.

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[Cassidy4]

I'm 100% with you. I had my scan at 12 weeks this past Monday, and the nub shots can go either way. Its not as reliable at 12, as it is at 13 or after so I am also booking an early scan. I did see what I think is stacking on a few pictures, so I keep trying to brace myself to hear boy #3, when my heart is screaming for a DD. I also feel guilty, but this is the place to let it all out with less fear of being judged. There are so many of us who struggle with GD.

My husband wanted me to have an abortion, and I couldnt even think about going through with it. He had said no matter what I decided, we were in it together but when fights happened it was always "Youll be lucky I stay with you after its born." It was terrible. But, honestly if thats how it was going to be (It wont come down to that, he just has a really nasty temper. After 14 years I tell him to get over himself.) Id rather have my 3rd and raise it alone. Now that hes actually seen the pictures, hes softened and even started calling it Oops and making plans. It was a bumpy few months though.

I havent told many people, and dont plan to until I know the gender. 3 people know and my inlaws will when they come to visit in a couple weeks.

My scan will be between 12/3 and 12/6 based off my dates and dating ultrasound. I hope it’s a good enough shot! I keep telling myself it’s a boy to not get excited, but it’s getting harder the more time that goes on. I honestly have no feeling one way or the other which makes it easier to daydream the what if’s it’s a girl!

My SO knows I’m unhappy with being pregnant (we were gearing up to start diet and everything to sway for a girl). He was happy though. He kept saying in the beginning that it’s my choice and I could abort if I wanted to, but he knows I could never do that. I’ve been isolating myself and he’s feeling unloved and I’m hoping he’s understanding that it’s just me and what’s going on in my head and has nothing to do with him.

We’ve told friends and that’s it until I know the gender. SOs family will be happy no matter what, it’s my family that will have all the opinions lol. I never look forward to telling them.

[mummaofboys]

Hi ladies! I’m hoping to join you all on here. I’ve been quietly watching since the group was made. I had a MC at the end of last year and have been very hesitant in telling anyone about this new pregnancy. I’m currently 7wk6d and had my first scan on Monday. So far all is going well, Bub is measuring perfectly. I have a EDD of 8th March 2019. I have 2 beautiful boys at home and am hoping this is my DD. But overall I would just love to have a healthy baby.


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[Throwaway_panther]

Can I ask you ladies a TMI question?

Is anyone having loose stool issues?? I was constipated at the beginning of pregnancy and it's been weeks now of "sudden rush to the bathroom." I started realizing I might be lactose intolerant again after noticing what triggers it. Either that or maybe the heat?

With DD I lost my lactose intolerance during pregnancy and thankfully didn't get it back after (for that dairy while swaying!). Now I'm losing my tolerance?! Any experiences with this? Or even just loose bowels from pregnancy? I'm also nervous because I only had that in the week or two before labor with DD and worried it means something's wong...