Opinions needed please!

[atomic sagebrush]

It's not annoying to me, it's just that I worry that the more you fret and argue with yourself about what to do and add, the worse it is for your sway because of the control freak factor (which sways more than a lot of sway tactics.)

None of the things that have reduced sperm count appear to have worked with the exception of J and D. So if you want to do a J and D, that's fine. (and any sway tactics you want to use are also fine, just pick them and do them without the inner debate the whole time because that's worse for your sway than any of this stuff.)

First cycle off BCP is better than abstain. WAY better, I suspect, although we don't have the kind of data we need yet to prove that.

2x in 6 hours, just to be clear, is NOT compressed FR. What you're thinking of is hurry up FR and for that to be effective it really needs to be within 1 hour or 3 hours. 6 hours is the outside limit of what I consider to be hurry up FR and is NOT a goal to be aimed at but is more of an "OMGosh what do I do if hubby can't BD right away?" kind of thing. I just feel like you are adding all this detail oriented stress for something that is likely not even doing anything, so my advice is pick a plan of action and stick with it. What you're doing in overly focusing on details that are unimportant, is undermining your sway for things that don't even work anyway.

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Sorry I thought hurry up fr was another term for compressed fr. I understand now. I really can't see my dh being able to dtd 2x in 3 hrs (or less) so I will just j&d if I O before Wednesday. If I O Wednesday or Thurs I won't do either one. Thanks for all the help and patience. I honestly don't feel stressed about it I just wanted to know asap bc I might o soon.

[atomic sagebrush]

No that's fine, I just wanted to clarify because compressed FR is a totally different thing that takes several days to do.

You don't even have to feel stressed out about it, it's just best to put that plan in place and then stick everything on autopilot. You're on target for a good sway here, just don't want you to be thinking about it too much.

[RaisingGentlemen3]

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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes! Good luck and pink dust headed your way!

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Yes! Good luck and pink dust headed your way!

Thank you!

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Atomic, my temps went down and my test was negative so I'm thinking no spermies made it to my egg! I am 12/13 dpo so I am just waiting for af now. My question is I was thinking of taking bcp for a cycle and then trying again? Or taking it for 1.5-2 wks then stop and track o with opks and temps...? I just really feel like bcp sways so much more and of course I'm on the diet still and all the stuff I did before minus the sylk...i had put .5 ml of sylk up there before dtd. What do you think? I really don't want to miss a month bc of bcp but I want the best chance for a dd! I'm so disappointed bc I have had some many cramps, back pain, and round ligament pain the past few days so I was pretty sure I was pregnant!

[RaisingGentlemen3]

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[atomic sagebrush]

Why, though?? just for swaying??

That is not enough time on the BCP to sway and would only potentially mess up your cycle for no real benefit. About 65% of people have gotten girls with BCP - that's less than diet, exercise, one attempt - so it's really not adding anything beyond the overall success of the site and most of those people were on it for months and not only for a couple weeks.

The reason I mention BCP/Mirena swaying is not because I want you guys to start playing around with it because it really does make cycles crazy irregular and cuts odds of conception. It's just because I want people who are already ON the BCP to hopefully reap any benefits from that. And I am just not convinced that a couple weeks will do much of anything.

But, it's certainly not a dealbreaker in any way, if you did want to give it a whirl, we'll all be waiting to find out how it goes!

Also be sure you're not using any of the herbal supplements on the BCP - no peppermint, vitex, or saw palmetto!

[RaisingGentlemen3]

Yes it was just for swaying. Im not sure what I will do yet but I will pray about it and talk with my dh. Im guessing it's pretty likely I'm not pregnant since I used an frer? So bummed