Sora TTC a Boy Sway Attempt

[Throwaway_panther]

Oh glad to hear that, it's a bit reassuring.

I used to try and have bananas at first but don't like them much and my girls kept stealing them to snack plus my doc did say any fruit was fine and I happen to like mango more. Hate candy and as for cookies/cakes I stopped them when I started the diet, knew I would gain anyway through meat and fruits and didn't want to add more weight on top of that. So bye cakes, maybe one day

4000 cals ! Nah I couldn't, , rest assured I won't ever go near that amount even for a DS ! When you know that in France a healty non-preg woman is told not to go above 1200 cals, 1800-2000 already seems like Mt Everest to me

They're recommending 1200 calories as a normal daily amount?!?! No wonder we have so many French blue swayers :P

[Sora]

Ah yes, same with vits and supps, the amounts are very light compared to what I've read on the forum. When I saw at first the recommandations for a blue sway, I was scared because it's what is given to professionnal athletes here.

It goes that way -> 1200 for a non-preg woman
Unless she does sports regularly or has great metabolism, then she can have 1500.
More than that and you're called a hungry fatass (lots of body-shaming here sadly, hence why a lot of French girls are no heavier than 116lbs whatever their age and number of kids).

Over 1500 cals a day is for -> 2000 if they have a history of miscarriages or other health probs.
And even then, they are monitored and told they can't gain more than 2-4 lbs a month during pregnancy.

1800-2000 is recommended for teenagers cause growth, puberty, yada yada... And athletes of course, maybe more depending on what sports they do (swimming for example is often 4000 cals).

Side note : We did have lots of boys births though, especially these last few years, mainly to vegan parents -> my guess is they do get their 9 servings of fruits and take lots of supps so baby boys.
Also, while we're on the subject of supps, vit D is very often forgotten here. You get a bit of folic when you say you want TTC, a bit of vit C + iron and then you're basically on your own.

[atomic sagebrush]

OMG OPK+ can't believe it !!!!!! We already kinda BD yesterday though, hope DH will be ok ?

WhatdoIdowhatdoIdowhatdoIdo ? Wonder if there's something more that I could try. Didn't find preseed but I don't think it would have helped, DH says I'm already all kind of slippery so don't want any sperm to fall out

Soo at least 3 attempts right ? That night, morning after and night after ? And maybe day after if possible ? And then 2WW.

Hey, I got 4 boys and never used Preseed! Natural EWCM is best anyway.

Yesterday's attempt will only help, esp. given that good EWCM.

Yep 3 attempts if possible, if you can only get in two that's ok (that's where yesterday attempt will really help!) And then if you can go again the day after O that's great, then every other day if possible to guard against delayed ovulation.

[Sora]

Ok thank you atomic !

[Sora]

Started bleeding today and it hurts. I think it's AF. Not overly surprised but disappointed.

I've been a bit remiss in the diet during 2ww especially since it was a bit hard on our finances, buying all these fruits and meat with the other bills we had to pay.

Do you think I hurt my sway ? I wonder if I may try this cycle again. After that idk but if it doesn't work it's possible we will put our project on hold for maybe a few months. I'm already overweight and I put on some pounds with HE diet so maybe I should try and loose a bit before ttc again. I don't want to be TTC while loosing weight and getting a girl instead.

[atomic sagebrush]

No it's totally fine to fall off a bit in the 2WW with HE Diet. Jsut as long as your blood sugar is up otherwise.

I think it's fine for you to try this cycle; remember there may be a peak of boy conceptions in Sept-Nov. so we are coming into that season now!

[Sora]

Thank you atomic !

Yes I remembered about the boy peak of autumn yesterday. But DH and I realized that since O was delayed, it will now happen at a time when he will not be home for August/September so TTC this cycle won't be possible after all. We agreed to try during October/November. I will use the time to pick back weights and maybe add CoQ10 and probiotics to my supps.

How much of these should I take btw ? I used to take a small amount of probiotics from time to time but I see there are much bigger ones.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh bummer, but that's ok, I like to think this is just God/the universe's way of making sure you can have the best sway you can.

I would try to stop weight gain and pick the weights up and see what happens. If a small amount of weight sneaks off, it is ok. We have not found small amounts of weight loss to be predictive of whose sways work.

100 mg coq10 and then the probiotics, just get a name brand you feel comfortable with and take that. They're all formulated differently and we don't know if a higher dose is better than a lower one.

[Sora]

Okay thank you.

Yes in some way I'm a bit okay with having more time to refine my sway. Still a bit sad it didn't work though especially since we tried so hard despite the heat and the delay. Even though I know it's one in four chance, I can't help but feel like this is my fault somewhere somehow, especially since DD2 happened SO easily when we didn't wish for another pregnancy too soon. DH is still a bit traumatized about how quick and easy it was (took 8 months+ for DD1).

I wonder if muscle gain even counts as weight loss (read, the body picking it up as a signal of danger and bad times) seeing as you're just replacing pounds of fat with pounds of muscles. Too much may not be good, sure, and it can throw the cycle off but otherwise you're more healthy when you're more muscular than fat so...

[atomic sagebrush]

We know that it's ok to lose fat and gain muscle because we have a good study that shows even in times of famine, the women with the most muscle mass have the most boys. Plus, a lot of us, myself included, got boys when we were weighing very much the same as when we got our daughters, just more muscle when we got our boys. So muscle is all good for TTC a boy.