Part 3: Due January, February and March 2019

[hopper]

TP I'm glad things are somewhat better with your DH. I must look into that book you mentioned as my own DH is being super passive aggressive lately (he's just tired of me being so helpless with being so ill! As if I'm not!!) And I really agree with your reasoning for remaining Team Green this time around. I'd still have the scan though and stress to the tech you are not finding out! Good luck with whatever you decide xxx


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[hopper]

Kelbear just speaking from my own experience here but I went team Green on DS1. Wanted a girl. Thought he was a girl by listening to OWTs. I was so heartbroken finding out SHE was a HE when he was born. Quite honestly it ruined the whole experience and to this day I feel tremendous guilt over it.
We found out on DS2. I knew in my gut he was a boy before ever being told though so I didn't experience huge GD.
Fast forward to DS3. I was convinced he was a girl. I had done a super hard sway for months and changed my lifestyle til it was unrecognizable to before! I saw the boyish nub at my 12 weeks appointment which was my first scan and I felt so sick. I booked in for an early gender scan, even lying about my due date so they'd take me a week earlier. I got the scan at 15 weeks and he was all boy. In those 3 weeks I had taken the time to open myself up to the possibility that baby was indeed a boy so the blow was ever so slightly easier to take but OMG it was hard. GD stuck with me to the very end. I had been a super active poster on these boards but I couldn't face coming here any more. Almost everyone on my DDG had gotten their wanted gender and I felt so robbed. I was in a bad way.

So what I'm basically saying, is that it depends on whether you can address your GD now or after baby is born. Are you open to the idea of baby being a boy? Cause on DS3 I wasn't. It was a girl. I wasn't having another son. The idea never even entered my brain! But because of how severe the desire for a girl was I'm thinking it was easier for me to hear that he was a boy at 15 weeks than to go to 39 weeks thinking girl! I'd have been a helluva lot worse off mentally!
Good luck whatever you do decide to do. Thinking of you xxx

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[hopper]

Girls I'm joined to a private FB DDG from my DS2. We're a small group, of 20 but as with all groups of women you always find at least one you don't get along particularly well with. For me, we'll call her Josie. (No offense to any Josies out there!)
So We just have sick different styles of parenting. She toilet trains the second her kids turn 2. They can't have a pacifier or sippy cup or bottle beyond 12 months. She sends them to a minder at 6 weeks old despite the fact she's off work til they are at least 6 months old.
I just don't see eye to eye but in saying that I'd never openly criticise.
So today she posts about a friend of hers who just had a missed miscarriage. She was 13 weeks but there wasn't so much as a sac there when the tech scanned her according to this girl. Anyway, I commented saying I felt so sorry for her having the mc like that. And this girl replies saying that just cause you've got morning sickness doesn't mean you're safe. And I said what's that supposed to mean to which she replied that her friend had sickness and it's not an indication that everything is ok. I said I'd seen the sac and HB at 6 weeks and I'm sick as a small hospital. She replies "oh well you never know" It just got me so angry! Like, tell me. Is she trying to get my back up and make me paranoid? I had a mc last year which she knows about so surely she knows I'm sensitive to the topic, like most women are whether they've had one or not!
Anyway, don't be minding me. I had to rant somewhere. Sorry it's to you guys!!

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[Noemi2017]

Hi girls, im 11weeks1day, i had today my anatomy scan, all is ok, baby is healthy and very big i said i didnt want to know gender but doctor said many times he saw gender very well soooo im now sure i expect boy. Im not disappointed ofc i desired my girl my cute daughter but it is Gods decision and for some reason i will mother of boysD2023CD1-263C-4E82-96DD-C3F14B8962EA.jpeg

[Eighme]

Hi girls, im 11weeks1day, i had today my anatomy scan, all is ok, baby is healthy and very big i said i didnt want to know gender but doctor said many times he saw gender very well soooo im now sure i expect boy. Im not disappointed ofc i desired my girl my cute daughter but it is Gods decision and for some reason i will mother of boysD2023CD1-263C-4E82-96DD-C3F14B8962EA.jpeg

Beautiful baby, Noemi! I, unfortunately, am not any good with the nub theory to tell you my opinion one way or the other. You might post in the guessing section and see what everyone else says? If you care to know.

I'm so sorry if it does turn out to be a boy. But he must just have been meant to be for your sweet family. But I'm still rooting a girl for you!

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[ABC.2606]

Hi girls, im 11weeks1day, i had today my anatomy scan, all is ok, baby is healthy and very big i said i didnt want to know gender but doctor said many times he saw gender very well soooo im now sure i expect boy. Im not disappointed ofc i desired my girl my cute daughter but it is Gods decision and for some reason i will mother of boysD2023CD1-263C-4E82-96DD-C3F14B8962EA.jpeg

Noemi beautiful babe!!!! So happy for you!!!!

I really don’t know though how the doctor could be sure of the gender at 11 weeks! From everything I’ve read on here boy and girl “nubs” look very much the same at 11 weeks. Unless the nub was angled well up or there was clear stacking (which I don’t know if those are even possible at 11 weeks) I don’t think it’s possible to tell!! You could ask atomic but my guess is she might dispute what your doc said about being sure.

Either way though your baby is perfect!!!


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[Noemi2017]

Thx u Eighme, i still little hope for girl, i want to stay Team green but doctor was so sure and he was smiling when my husband said it is boy...i hope u will feel better and no more headache. My nausea finished one week ago. When will u know gender? I pray u will hear girl

[Throwaway_panther]

Noemi, there's no gender detectable in that shot at all! And that doc was reckless to say he knows gender so early -- even nub experts won't like guess at 12 weeks, let alone 11!

Hopper, I'm so sorry "Josie" said that!! I've definitely had nausea with losses, but to push you noting you had a good scan with "you never know" is really cruel. I get the anxiety for other people's pregnancies (I've full on distanced myself from BFPs posted, since I know how much can go wrong), but I wouldn't ever wish or say that stuff to a pregnant woman! I'd honestly wonder if she's in the "bitter over loss or infertility phase." I find when that is fresh for people, they'll say awful things and push boundaries. I once shared how devastated I was over one of my losses on reddit and a woman told me, "Well I've never even seen a BFP, so at least you have that." People can be so caught up in their feelings they miss what affects other people's

[Noemi2017]

Abc thx u so much. Doctor is expert about scans with my son he was 100% sure it is boy in the same week. Now i didnt want to know but when he said he saw it very well so we immediately thought he saw boy parts

[Eighme]

Thx u Eighme, i still little hope for girl, i want to stay Team green but doctor was so sure and he was smiling when my husband said it is boy...i hope u will feel better and no more headache. My nausea finished one week ago. When will u know gender? I pray u will hear girl

Well, I agree with the other ladies here. They shouldn't be able to determine anything that early. I didn't pay attention to what week you were. I wouldn't take what he says to heart or his "actions". How rude of him for even mentioning anything when he knows you don't want to know.

Im booking an early gender scan so I can know for sure and stop being in limbo. I should know in the next 3-4 weeks.

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