Part 3: Due January, February and March 2019

[hannahptrussell]

Hello ladies! I’m glad to hear I wasn’t the only one having a bit of a break from the board. I’ve read through and have such mixed feelings when I need to catch up with 5+ pages. I wish I could take you all to coffee and just encourage you!! To say I understand and just to listen.
Kelbear I’m so sorry to hear that the ultrasound didn’t go as smoothly as we all think they will. Praying for time to be on your side and that baby gets nice and comfy until full term!
TP, I absolutely hate to ready your turmoil. It drives me crazy to think that you deal with SO much on top of possible gd. My thoughts are with you! Also, just to agree with others, I’ve NEVER been able to tell gender from my scans other than a potty shot. And even then, my boys liked to cross their legs so their bits were hiding for quite a while during the scan. And I’m going to boast a bit that I’m a heck of an ultrasound reader after having 4 kids. I can point out exactly what is what at all time.
So that being said...I’m really second guessing my choice of team green. My scan is tomorrow afternoon and there’s a part of me that just wants to find out and celebrate or deal with the sex right now. Then there’s part that truly wants the surprise at birth. There’s a part that truly desires a daughter but then I find myself being open to another son. I mean, I definitely know boys! After 3, I know what to expect. But we would LOVE to hear girl. Ugh. But. After talking to a few friends, I am resolute that I will decide and then move on. Either way.


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[LMSM]

Hello ladies,

Hope you and your belly bubs are doing well.
Just wondering if any of you have heard from Kittendreams? She’s not responded to my last PM so am worrying and hope one of you might have heard???

Thanks!!!!

[Kelbear]

Wasn't going to find out gender til next scan In 2 1/2 weeks but got this potty shot from 19w scan. Only shot they had. Thinking boy (looks like willy to me in the middle) ? Need your expert guesses as I'm going out of my mind crazy as I'm not sure.

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[Throwaway_panther]

Thanks hannah, that means a lot to me. And my existing GD is part of why anything with DH seems so much worse -- I'm trying so hard to keep myself afloat and going, and his stuff just compounds it so much.

It helps to have heard so much of you say you couldn't tell gender with scans -- this second tech had even said (since she never made us turn our head, but the first tech did -- maybe because the first tech was younger and less experienced and the older tech knew it was harder to tell?), "Unless you know how to read scans, you're fine looking, I can't even see gender," during one of the times my husband asked if we should be seeing the scan. But I was a bit of a Hermione and felt like I'd seen so many scans that I totally could tell it was a girl. But I'm realizing now that I'm not as much of a know-it-all as I thought ;P I've seen some surprising nub shots lately, and I always sort of passively though skull theory was nearly as good as nub, and I've been wrong on several lately -- which hopefully is good! I thought my early scans were boyish skulls, but during this second anatomy scan when we could actually see profile I thought skull was so smooth and round! Ugh, always obsessing.

And I go through periods of actually feeling this is a boy, and obsessing over our history and my sway and second guessing so many things and just already dreading the waiting process before we can try again -- and REALLY dreading going through all of this again, because I can't weather anymore losses.

I had a dream of son the other night -- but he had special needs. Interestingly, I had had a dream with DD of her being a girl with down syndrome before I knew gender as well, though this dream my son didn't have DS but some other clear developmental issue. In the dream the doctor was saying we needed to do a procedure to put him back in me since he came so early? So that was strange. But also hasn't left my mind since now (if anyone is keeping score), I have had two dreams of a girl -- but never seeing a girl, just being told it's a girl by my mom (who guessed girl the other week lol). Two dreams of having a boy and actually seeing a boy, including my mom saying, "It's a boy, we needed a boy," in one of them. And then one dream where I looked down at a brown/auburn haired baby and they had a diaper on lol, but I felt in the dream, "Well great, this must mean it's a girl." In both boy dreams, I was in hospital early because baby came early -- I'm sure that's my thoughts on loss that have affected it, though believe it or not, much of that is not on my mind as much anymore (GD has definitely surpassed loss in terms of anxiety, maybe because I am practically at viability now). And I might be back here in December/January bemoaning not going into labor, but I have been having an inkling baby would come early and these dreams are making me feel that more. DD did come right on time and all my doctors/midwives thought she'd come early because of a lot of things that happened in the month before, so I guess we'll see...

@Kelbear: I'm not sure we're fully seeing genitals there (and maybe it's even cord), and I don't want to get your hopes up needlessly either (especially since I just read a whole thing about how 'three lines can show up on boy scans too'), but it looks hamburgerish to me IF what I'm seeing is genitals. Like swollen hamburger. But then I clearly also don't know what I'm looking at supposedly!

[Kelbear]

Thanks hannah, that means a lot to me. And my existing GD is part of why anything with DH seems so much worse -- I'm trying so hard to keep myself afloat and going, and his stuff just compounds it so much.

It helps to have heard so much of you say you couldn't tell gender with scans -- this second tech had even said (since she never made us turn our head, but the first tech did -- maybe because the first tech was younger and less experienced and the older tech knew it was harder to tell?), "Unless you know how to read scans, you're fine looking, I can't even see gender," during one of the times my husband asked if we should be seeing the scan. But I was a bit of a Hermione and felt like I'd seen so many scans that I totally could tell it was a girl. But I'm realizing now that I'm not as much of a know-it-all as I thought ;P I've seen some surprising nub shots lately, and I always sort of passively though skull theory was nearly as good as nub, and I've been wrong on several lately -- which hopefully is good! I thought my early scans were boyish skulls, but during this second anatomy scan when we could actually see profile I thought skull was so smooth and round! Ugh, always obsessing.

And I go through periods of actually feeling this is a boy, and obsessing over our history and my sway and second guessing so many things and just already dreading the waiting process before we can try again -- and REALLY dreading going through all of this again, because I can't weather anymore losses.

I had a dream of son the other night -- but he had special needs. Interestingly, I had had a dream with DD of her being a girl with down syndrome before I knew gender as well, though this dream my son didn't have DS but some other clear developmental issue. In the dream the doctor was saying we needed to do a procedure to put him back in me since he came so early? So that was strange. But also hasn't left my mind since now (if anyone is keeping score), I have had two dreams of a girl -- but never seeing a girl, just being told it's a girl by my mom (who guessed girl the other week lol). Two dreams of having a boy and actually seeing a boy, including my mom saying, "It's a boy, we needed a boy," in one of them. And then one dream where I looked down at a brown/auburn haired baby and they had a diaper on lol, but I felt in the dream, "Well great, this must mean it's a girl." In both boy dreams, I was in hospital early because baby came early -- I'm sure that's my thoughts on loss that have affected it, though believe it or not, much of that is not on my mind as much anymore (GD has definitely surpassed loss in terms of anxiety, maybe because I am practically at viability now). And I might be back here in December/January bemoaning not going into labor, but I have been having an inkling baby would come early and these dreams are making me feel that more. DD did come right on time and all my doctors/midwives thought she'd come early because of a lot of things that happened in the month before, so I guess we'll see...

@Kelbear: I'm not sure we're fully seeing genitals there (and maybe it's even cord), and I don't want to get your hopes up needlessly either (especially since I just read a whole thing about how 'three lines can show up on boy scans too'), but it looks hamburgerish to me IF what I'm seeing is genitals. Like swollen hamburger. But then I clearly also don't know what I'm looking at supposedly!

Thanks TP, I know it's not a good potty shot and have been obsessing and looking at potty shots all day and also read about lines on boys potty shots. I am trying to resign myself to the fact that it's likely a boy, have cried so much today. Really held a hope this was my girl after not seeing any clear boy bits on the scan but obviously I'm not as good at telling ether!
I hope your dreams are just that and that Bub is born right on time and 100% healthy.

[Eighme]

Wasn't going to find out gender til next scan In 2 1/2 weeks but got this potty shot from 19w scan. Only shot they had. Thinking boy (looks like willy to me in the middle) ? Need your expert guesses as I'm going out of my mind crazy as I'm not sure.

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Kelbear, this made me scratch my head so I pulled out my ultrasound from my pregnancy with my son. You can VERY clearly see has a boy at 18 weeks. Yours really has room for doubt, in my opinion. That very much does not look (like mine, Anyway) as boyish as I would expect to see but again I'm no expert either.

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[Noemi2017]

Kelbear dont be sadi was also crying first day of my scan but nothing is sure till the birth. I already count with other boy, my husband is telling to everybody we expect other boy but deep in me there is small hope... and i didnt stop to pray for my daughter

[Raining]

Kelbear,

That almost doesn’t look like a potty shot, but a shot from above looking down. Is that even possible? Just something about how the legs look. Also it doesn’t look as “boy” as my boys ultrasounds. With them there was really no room for questioning by 18 weeks!

[Girlswaylondon]

Kelbear that really has me scratching my head! It doesn’t look like my girls scan photo but it also doesn’t look like my sons! There was no mistaking my sons potty shot it was clear as day! But your scan photo I really can’t tell either way! X

[Girlswaylondon]

Also when I zoom in I can see 3 lines!?