UK SMOG Wannabes - March

[Inglewood]

Maybe...good luck!! really isn't long now

Lavender, my SIL is a tattoo artist, so she opened a new bigger tattoo studio as she was doing so well!

Chocolate, my ds1 never had the 'terrible 2's' was such a placid wee kid, but OMG did he test us aged 3/4!! he would put anything down the loo, inc dh's £300 watch! and FLUSHED!!! he'd hold his breath till he passed out! So don't worry, it's all normal. My ds2 was a tantrum master before his 1st b'day, so they are all different. Ds1 is the sweetest, laid back kid now (aged 9) and thankfully i only had not even a year of temper tantrums... ds2 is now 5 and still a wee cheeky boy! but calmer.... it's tough!!! xxhugsxx

[chocolate]

Note to self: must hide the watches lol. Reassuring to know I havent got a criminal in the makings on my hands, I hope lol. Just thought that at this age he would know right from wrong, what goes through their minds to put things down the loo? He talks about sewers etc. will have to ask him tomorrow why, and see if I can give him some sort of explanation or answer to his thoughts.
Today I kept saying 'that behaviour is making Mummy really cross' in a cross tone instead of just shouting and it worked well all day until the 6pm toilet thing happened. New day tomorrow though and hope its better lol.

[zanacal]

Chocolate - I think he sounds like a normal 3 year old too! My DS2 is probably the most challenging. He's intelligent and loving and so sweet but OMG does he know how to push my buttons! I suspect the problem is we're too similar so we clash more - and some days I deal with the boys really well and we have a wonderful time but other days I can't help myself from shouting and just making it worse for everybody. We're all human - and hormones really don't help! DS1 seems really grown up after 1.5 years at school and DS2 is definitely getting there too (although pre-school and school have always told me how sweet and attentive and good he is anyway!). They don't have to be good for mummy all the time because they know you'll love them regardless - take it as a compliment!

[chocolate]

Thanks Zanacal, I guess I just dont hear these stories from my friends with boys or similar ages. I should just remember not to take it personally and accept its normal for his age and to just keep up the boundaries but also positive praise

[maybebabythree]

Still here, not dilated, not contracting, not engaged. Don't this is working - I hope I don't end with a section! Part oft wonders if I should admit were not ready and go home :-(

[indigoviolet]

Hugs Maybe, it is so hard waiting. I'm sure they will give you the best advice about what to do. Praying all works out smoothly and happily

[Kell]

Chocolate my ds2 sounds like the same child only a year younger! I know how frustrating it is! Hugs!

Girls I was wondering if you'd give me your views on male midwives?
At college we are doing a kinda dissertation in one subject that should relate to our future degrees. I've decided to look at how male midwives are viewed, both from the mother and from the partners point of view.
I've got a while to look into it yet but it's got me and dp talking and has been quite interesting thinking about it.

[Kell]

Hugs maybe, give it time hub, sometimes these things take a little while, potentially dave may have been there another couple of weeks so he possibly just needs a bit of a nudge in the right direction.
Hope things start soon x

[pebmcpd7]

Oh I had a male midwife for one of my births and he was lovely, I don't think you care when you are in labour, you would have the devil in if he would help you!!! LOL

[chocolate]

Maybe - really hope something happens very soon


Kell - not sure, I think if I was given a male midwife Id feel rude saying I wasn't happy with this, so therefore I think my labour would perhaps not be as relaxed so wouldnt progress as well? In the pushing stages I probably wouldnt mind, I had a male dr come in and I took a double look but only after DS2 was born and then shrugged it off. It would be those initial examinations which would make me feel awkward. I dont know, I think maybe you should be given a form as you go in asking if you would like female if available or if happy with a male. It would take away the awkwardness of having to speak up if you could just tick a box
I dont think my OH would really care?? Not sure what most men would think.