September TTC Boy Chit Chat and Such Thread

**Flava** · September 27th, 2011, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by princessap

Wow you are a stronger woman than me. Did u get any answers for any of your losses? what are they doing differently now with this pregnancy? I hope in time i can be strong enough to try again but it just hurts so much to have two healthy pregnancies and then have 3 miscarriages in a
row!

Im not so strong at all...I got angry I guess . Had no answers because they wanted to do test if i would lost teh next one too and it was DD4. ( I didn't have all 7 in a row)
This time I plan to go back to the birth center not to the doc. I switched there with DD4 when I was 35 weeks and got a home birth because they wanted a c/s for me. And I said no.

**Tink18** · September 27th, 2011, 01:24 PM

I am so sorry for you loss, Princess.

WP- I finally ovualted, I am currently 4DPO. I did the BSF all 3 times, my ph was a 8.5 and Dh was a 9 without doing anything. He rocks hard. We did it DS all 3 times as well. SO I have my FX big time!!

Begoina, I wouldn't worry about what anyone thinks about you having a 3rd girl. I am convinced I will have all girls. And so be it. Babies are such a blessing. There is so much pressure from DH's side of the family to have a boy since DH is the only one that can carry on the last name. We told DH's parents that we were done and they got so upset. Funny thing is my SIL just had her 3rd boy last week and they are upset with her for getting pregnant again.. No matter what gender of a baby i get I will be thrilled. People don't seem to get this. Because we have a little girl, they assume I will be devistated if I have another girl. I wont, also why we haven't told anyone about the Gender swaying. I think you are doing what you need to do and Fuck what anyone else says...Excuse my french. XOXO

How is everyone else. I need to keep my mind off what DPO I am or I will go nucking futs.

**princessap** · September 27th, 2011, 02:04 PM

Originally Posted by Flava

Im not so strong at all...I got angry I guess . Had no answers because they wanted to do test if i would lost teh next one too and it was DD4. ( I didn't have all 7 in a row)
This time I plan to go back to the birth center not to the doc. I switched there with DD4 when I was 35 weeks and got a home birth because they wanted a c/s for me. And I said no.

do u mind me asking how far along u were with your losses? Mine have all been 3 in a row since my daughters. I didnt sway only did timing to get pregnant. I can see myself getting angry and trying again but right now I am so sad.

**Flava** · September 27th, 2011, 02:11 PM

I think the earliest was 5-6 weeks and I had on at 15 weeks late.

**3Pink1Blue** · September 27th, 2011, 02:24 PM

B- love your attitude but don't you dare leave! Love dh's attitude too! Mine loves his girls to bits too, he had no interet in trying again that was all by my begging. Boo for no pics, mine was wildly uncooperative at my 16wk u/s and sadly wasn't much better at 20 lol

Lola- I love that answer lol I used to ask them back "why on earth would I want a boy?" this was extra fun when they had a heard of boys with them. Sometimes being shitty is the only way. You are never a drag darlin' and get the hopeless feeling but am confident you'll get your stcky bfp! Join another site but keep us I'm the loop

Prinncess my love, big big hug. Don't give up hun, I have enough faith for both of us.

Hobber- I did get my finger wet but yes too much will hurt. It'll also dry out the outside something awful and leave crusty white stains in the panties. Fun stuff lol

Deb- I try to have things trickle down but with kids growing differently and different seasons there's always some holes to fill. I'm a big fan of Target, things hold up well and aren't pricey. I've had pants that lasted through 4 winters on two kids before knees popped through. I've got tall lean kids and their clothes tend to cater to that.

Tink- I was positive I'd have another girl, always hoped but never actually thought I'd hear boy.

**begonia** · September 27th, 2011, 02:38 PM

Hey girls! Re: the comments, I guess the fact is I will probably just say "I love my girls" and leave it at that. After all, no one will be wrong when they say "Wouldn't you have loved a son?" So I'll probably just say "I love my girls. If I had a son I would have loved him too." And leave it at that. Because it's the truth right? I did TRY to have a son. I wanted a son. Heck, in my dream world, I would have had 3 sons. But I have GOT to leave that want behind now because I don't want a 4th child, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life (or really, more of my time, at all) wanting something I'm not going to have, and God forbid, leaving my girls EVER feeling that they are less than perfect to me. I'm glad I found this board and glad I swayed, if I had girl #3 w/o swaying I always would have wondered IF I had swayed ... would I have had him. But now I know. For reasons I don't know, DH and I weren't meant to have a son.

I posted this on the pg thread and am just going to copy it here ...
I'm torn as to whether it is good for me personally to be here anymore. I feel so tied to so many of you that I want to know what happens, I want you all to get your DG, but for me right now this feels like a place where I came when I had hope, and not to be all Debbie Downer but I don't have that hope anymore. I have my reality, and my reality is I'm never going to have the son I wanted for all of my life, my DH is never going to have a boy to raise. And that's hard, and while this is a place where I get support on those feelings, I also feel like it might be healthier for me to get on with my life offline and move forward. I never ever saw myself with 3 daughters. Even though I knew for sure it was a possibility and a strong one that our third would also be a girl, I just had that hope. I'm still really glad that I found out because not knowing was worse for sure. But now that my hope is gone, and I'm not having any more kids, I think I need to move on for my own mental health. I'll no doubt lurk here and there to check on everyone and maybe one day (especially once she's here) I'll be able to come back fully to catch up, but right now, I need to focus on what I have, 3 healthy girls, and coming here reminds me of what I don't, and that's not healthy for me. Like I said, I'm sure I'll pop on, but it's not going to be daily or anywhere close to it. All that to say, I'm out for awhile. I love this place, and love y'all, and wish everyone the best!

**skrimpy** · September 27th, 2011, 02:38 PM

We love our Amby too!

**cemas** · September 27th, 2011, 03:17 PM

Dear B,

i am happy and sad for you. happy for ur healthy girl! and sad to see u sad

I totally understand ur not wanting to be regular here.....i went thru the same.....just ttc though....i see new people come and go and makes me sad. But there are so many friends here that it makes me happy to come once in a while and get an update on people.

Will miss u B

**begonia** · September 27th, 2011, 03:29 PM

OH Princess, my heart aches for you so much. I am so profoundly sorry for your loss. I hope your doctors can give you some answers.

And thank you guys for understanding where I'm coming from. Truly the blessing is in having the baby, and I know that ... but coming here right now I do lose some of that perspective. I know I'll pop in here and there. Tink, as ever, you have a way with words that I love

FX for you!

**Foxy** · September 27th, 2011, 03:33 PM

Begonia - I think everyone understands your need for a break. I did the same with DD#4. I wish life didn't have to be like this

I know you will love your sweet baby girl once she arrives though. Take care hun and I hope you will give us updates on how you and your little one is doing!

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