September TTC Boy Chit Chat and Such Thread

[ELP]

So sorry your so down Lola If there was bfp tokens out there I'd send you mine in a heartbeat, I just can't wait for your announcement whether its this month or in the very near future, just hang in there ok

[Flava]

OMG!! My arm hurt for 2 days!! Should have just made her stick me in my butt!! lol

They always stick my butt! But then you can't walk

[LolaInLove]

Hey, thanks everyone, you ladies are so sweet and encouraging! I got another negative this morning at 11dpo, but I am pretty zen about it today. You all are probably right, I need to chill out about it all maybe and just see if I get some luck that way...but won't be leaving GD for sure! The thing is, I have a SUPER full life....I run the largest performing arts organization in my state, and love every busy minute of it....and I've got the kids and a great husband now....and am involved in so much going on in the arts in my city....so my passion is really my family first, and then my work....BUT this ttc thing has taken my mind away from work a lot. I would say I am at about 80% of what I normally put into it, which is not great sometimes, but a good portion of my life has been taken over by all the ttc. I think you all know what I mean. So, I think it is time to put some more into work and find a nice lasting zen place with this ttc. I have 36 dancers coming back to the studio tomorrow for our official first day and a busy and exciting season for the next 7 months, so hopefully I can keep it all balanced. But again, thank you all for your love!!!!!

What's hard is that I just can't for the life of me figure out what on earth I could do BETTER, ya know? I know there is still some possibility that I could still be pregnant, but I am going to just move forward and assume I'm not. It's time for a semen analysis, like I said. Then, if there is a problem, we can deal with that head on. DH and I talked about the what ifs yesterday.....there is no way we can afford like 15-20K for IVF, but we decided it's important enough to us to have a baby together, so if we have to, we can harvest my eggs and freeze them in case I don't make any good ones anymore by the time we can save up for IVF- which may be 2-3 years. I am going to call my doc and talk to her about possibly seeing an RE and also what she thinks we should do now. I don't want to waste my full run of Clomid for nothing.

[Hobbermittens]

Lola, I heard a whole thing on the radio about egg harvesting and saving them for the future. Apparently, a lot of women do it with great results! I think that is a good solution if you end up needing to go the IVF route. I am glad you and your DH are able to talk about all this stuff and to be on the same page. You are really lucky to have a DH like that. I can tell you my DH would not be on board for IVF or anything. I once mentioned adoption, and he was completely against it, and wouldn't even hear my side of things.

Putting more energy into your job is also a good idea. It will definitely take your mind of TTC for a while. Let us know what happens with the SA.

[LolaInLove]

Thanks, Hobber! I am glad you said that about the egg saving working out for a lot of people! That may be way unnecessary, but you never know. Thing is, I just gotta see what the deal is with the sperm here. If there is an issue, there is no point in us continuing to ttc unless we have a solution. If there is no issue, well, then we just keep trying indefinitely or just decide to give up. I worry about the ttc indefinitely, though. Anyway, this is the story that makes me worried about sperm, and also be perplexed: my bff's sister ttc for like 2-3 years, and finally, they started the infertility process. The DH's SA came back as "non-capacitating" sperm, meaning his sperm wouldn't shed their helmet and penetrate the egg. So, the only option they had was IVF. First round works, and they have B/G twins. When the twins are 6 months old, she discovers that she is pg naturally, and they have a girl. They are all so adorable, by the way, almost like triplets. Anyway, my bff told me recently that they got pg the month they got this new sex toy which, well, let's just say it vibrated everything, even the balls. (I ordered it yesterday, LOL!) So, I don't know, I get nervous hoping my DH doesn't have some issue that can only produce a baby via IVF, but then I get hopeful thinking that we still have some time and gotta just wait and see what happens. Thanks for saying that I am lucky to have my DH.....that is nice to hear. I do agree, I am lucky to have him, and I think it's a nice way for me to end up since my 1st DH was a complete nightmare. (:

[Hobbermittens]

That sex toy might have magical TTC properties, huh? Even if it doesn't, you'll have fun!! Anyway, try not to worry too much about what could be wrong. WHo knows what the SA will show. It may be something really easy to fix. I hope so!

[Flava]

Lola -I don't know temps are still looking good. When would AF due? I don't think you can only have a baby with IVF you was already pregnant with your DH right? Are you taking DHEA ? Maybe it can help. Im taking 50 mg and hoping it works.
Also painting the baseboard here so the challenge will be done before ttc lol

[WashingtonPromise]

Lola: You are sooo lucky to have such an awesome DH. I don't think mine would be quite so understanding unless we had been trying for 2-3 years. Glad to hear your dancers will we back and in full swing again. Can't wait to hear about the SA. My SIL's DH (hubby's brother) had a SA don't when they had been TTCing for 3 years and it came back not so good....they pretty much told him he needed to quit smoking because his sperm seemed to be taking a smoke break too!!! He tried to quit but never fully did and they got pg 3 months later when on a TTC break (from FF, opk, and htp tests) they were 8 wks pg before they tested and they have went on to have 2 more children since then all very close together in age....and her DH still smokes (not that I think that is good), but anyway.....maybe a break from all the stressful part of TTCing is good.

Glad to hear you are doing a little better....I am not the type to stay under a rock too long either

[LolaInLove]

Thanks, ladies! My temps usually don't dip until the day before I get AF, which would be tomorrow, technically. I usually get AF on 14dpo (am 12dpo today). I'm having a few little cramps, so I bet it'll be here soon. I'm kinda over being bummed about it, but I do want to see if there is a sperm problem. WP, thanks for sharing that story! My DH smoked for a LONG time until I made him quite a few months ago (believe it or not, almost all dancers smoke!), and I've been stuffing him with sperm-boosting supps for many many months now, so hopefully they are ok. I think I'll have him do it on Friday, thinking I'll take another test in the morning, and if it's negative, I'll be pretty sure I'm out. Anyway, thanks again everyone. You all make me feel so much better!

WP, excited for you to test soon! And Flava, how you doing? Your try is coming up soon, yea? How about you Hobber?

[Hobbermittens]

Lola, good that you got your DH to stop smoking. I wonder if it is just taking a while for things to build back up?

My attempt will be in October... so this cycle is my last non-ttc cycle. I am starting to stress about getting everything right. There isn't much time left! I'm excited, but nervous. I wish my DH was doing his part better, but oh well. I m starting to wonder if I can handle 4 kids...