UK SMOG Wannabes - March

[indigoviolet]

Maybe- hope that you start to progress soon, there is a lot they can do to help things along and induction can take a long time, try to nap and rest as much as you can while you are waiting. It WILL all work out and tomorrow you will be holding your gorgeous baby boy! You are in the right place and will be looked after

[Petal]

Oh maybe, i know how you feel!! nothing happened after my first pessary either, but as soon as i had the 2nd one it was almost instant pain and contractions!! good luck hun x x

[pinga]

Maybe - hope things get going... especially as you have got yourself all pysched up to have baby. I never had any pessaries - they went straight to the drip and that took about 1/2hours for my 1st contraction to arrive - had nothing beforehand. You'll get there!!!!!!

Hmmm - male midwives. I saw one at one of my appointments with DS2. Really doesn't bother me. I wouldn't mind having one at the birth. I've had so many people looking at my bits (for various medical reasons) it really doesn't bother me if its a male I would however say I probably wouldn't feel so comfortable with a male midwife helping me with establishing breastfeeding.... that is a bit weirder!!!

Advice - has anyone flown in later pregnancy - I'm talking about 30weeks pregnant????? Am planning on going to Sydney for Easter.

DS1 is very funny - yesterday he announced - 'Daddy is at school' (DH is a primary teacher too) and then 'he's playing with his friends'. I love that he thinks DH goes to school to play!!!!

[Babymad]

How you doing Maybe??

[Sunset]

Maybebaby ~ thinking of you! hope they can break your waters today!

Kell ~ I have to admit i would not accept a male midwife.. i'm generally not comfortable with men anyway.. i even demanded to have a female driving instructor so there is no way I would want a male midwife down at the business end while i'm in labour. I'm just not comfortable with the idea of a strange man being part of such a private moment (unless he's gay haha) to me, although i know it sounds very sexist, i just dont get why men would want to work as midwifes :S

Chocolate ~ don't worry it's definitely normal 3 year old behaviour. My 3,5 year old is going through a phase himself at the moment and has got a right little attitude on him and has learned to talk back which it driving me nuts. For example if we walk past someone in the street and i say to him "watch out josh, let the lady pass" he'll then say "no i don't want to watch out" or if he's is naughty and i give him a warning he'll then reply "no i'm not going on a time out, river is" (his brother).. he is good 85% of the time and is the sweetest little boy, but when he starts, omg! it's so hard to know how to handle as well at times.. these supernanny theories are great generally but sometimes you only have 20 minutes to get ready for nursery so then you dont have time for warning and time outs... lol the joy!

[littlemisswilko]

DS1 is very funny - yesterday he announced - 'Daddy is at school' (DH is a primary teacher too) and then 'he's playing with his friends'. I love that he thinks DH goes to school to play!!!!

ahh bless

[littlemisswilko]

Kell ~ I have to admit i would not accept a male midwife.. i'm generally not comfortable with men anyway.. i even demanded to have a female driving instructor so there is no way I would want a male midwife down at the business end while i'm in labour. I'm just not comfortable with the idea of a strange man being part of such a private moment (unless he's gay haha) to me, although i know it sounds very sexist, i just dont get why men would want to work as midwifes :S

im exactly the same, i wanted i women driving instructer and my mam sorted it all out with BSM and told them i would only be okay with a female driving instructor and then on the day a bloke towed up. there excuse was that he only teached in my area and there was no female instructors anyways he was an oldish bloke and was a lovely guy so i stayed with him untill i passed. My reasons were that i dont think men can understand us women.

again when i went for my 7 week scan it was a male sonographer and that really felt awkward too. i didnt feel i could ask him things like i would if it was a woman. thankfully there was a woman trainee with him and she was very chatty and made it more relaxed.

Although i know im having a section with this baby and there will most likely be men in the room. from my previous experiences the women were the ones who chatted too you and gave you the baby and talked me through it. the men altho they were there i forgot about about them inserting the catheter etc.

[Kell]

Sunset it's not sexiest it's how I feel as well. And I know my oh would not be impressed either, if it came down to needing help I wouldn't care so long as me and baby were ok but in a normal vaginal birth I don't feel comfortable showing that side of myself to any male other than my dp, and even then it's quite embarrassing in parts lol
I might feel different if I'd seen male doctors for things like smears or infections etc prior but even that sort of thing has been passed from my male doctor to a female nurse.
Having said all that, I don't have a problem with men doing a c section. Maybe it's the fact that it's my sexual organs on show in labour.

I've actually been quite surprised at how many people are ok with it, I put a post on net mums about it as well and out of about 65 replies only a handful didn't like the idea of it.

[pinga]

I have had loads of issues with abnormal smears/treatments so have seen lots of male doctors for that. It kind of gets you over any embaressment. With labour you are in a different headspace but with a treatment you are 100% aware that there you are showing yourself in all your glory I've even had to show my bits to a non-english-speaking doctor in Poland!!

The WORST THING EVER that I have experienced (sorry this is a bit TMI) - after my spinal operation I had to lie down for 3 days - no getting up. They give you laxatives to get your bowels moving after the op. Well they were a little too effective. So the worst is having to get a nurse for that... who has to then wipe... SOOOOOOOOO humiliating!!!!! I'd rather have a male doctor/midwife looking at my bits anyday!

haha - sorry this is a bit of a gross post!!!

Off to bed now... so fingers crossed will see some news when I next get on from Maybe x

[Kell]

Lol Pinga! Nice thought for you as you go to bed! Sleep well

Indigo you've got a baby the size of a slice of pizza lol

Maybe hope your doing ok!