UK SMOG Wannabes APRIL

[Sunset]

sunset this was me four years ago - I had to drive past my first two choices to go five miles away to a school in bad estate. I would gp on direct gov uk and look at every school within ten miles of you and get your name on their waiting list asap. You can then pick and choose as places come up. Apeals at this age are very hard to win. There is a lot of movment in the waiting lists so make sure you are on the list for all three of your choices. I went to appeal and only one out of 15 won as her dd was under a child protection act. Let me know if you need any advice, but seriously get on the phone now to get on waiting lists (if your council works like ours - I hope) aslo I am on the border of three counties so I applied across all three. Let me know if you need any help

Thank you!! it is so hard to know what to do in such a situation as this and especially since it's my first child in school and i have no experience with the school system here. hubby however is english so he's a bit more in the 'know'. from what the school has told us to which he attends nursery at the moment their waiting list is a year apparently, but i know of a woman who's lives just around the corner from the school and has been trying to get her daughter into the school for the past 2 years so i can't see how the waiting list can be a year?? i just feel so helpless and frustrated with it all... it's just so wrong the whole thing.. he's 3 years old, has been to nursery now for over a year and has established friendships with the other children and trust bonds with the teachers there, so to me that all the kids are gonna be split up and uprooted like this is unbelievable! they should have priority to the school because they attend nursery there, it's as simple as that! aaargh! but thank you so much for your advice, i will contact my second and third choice of school as well and put him down on the waiting list

[charlieispy]

pinga huge hugs x i am the same making out I dont know what I am having.........cant bring myself to say it havnt even told my sisters......am dreading having to announce HIS arrival

Hugs to you deaks too x I know we will love our LO but it isnt the same as that icing on the cake of it being a girl - even harder if it is your last baby and last chance too. Are you still looking at buying the farm house sorry if i missed anything on that x

waves to all x am so bloody tired at the moment ds3 is just WOW lol

[deaks66]

Hi charlie, it really sucks feeling like this day in day out, just wish someone could wave a magic wand and make me not care less for a dd! I have started dropping it into conversation that i am having a ds but only if someone says oooo maybe you are having a girl. I just cant stand the thought of them feeling hopeful for me.

As for the farmhouse, no we decided living in the countryside isnt for us after all, at least not until our kids are older. I am seriously contemplating putting the money towards pgd but it feels like an immense thing to go through... all the secrecy, the potential disappointment and money loss would be hard work. But i only have one more shot after this at a dd and part of me wants to do everything i can as the alternative is some kind of swaying again and keeping our fingers crossed...but i dont know if i can go through this heart ache again. I told dh that our summer holiday next year is to america or cyprus! He didnt say no way but i wander if perhaps he is just humouring me to get me through the harder days!

[2monkeyboys]

Hi everyone,
Massive congrats auroara, bet you are still on cloud nine
Hugs to Pinga, Deaks, Charlie, Babymad and anyone else in need. Would be so nice if we could be hypnotised or something into not wanting a dd as life would be so much easier and far cheaper than pgd!
Xxxx

[indigoviolet]

(((hugs))) pinga, some days are like that. Hope tomorrow is a better day.

Chocolate- how are you doing? miss you and your encouraging/wise words.

[pinga]

Hey all

Thank you for your kind words. Feeling a bit brighter today. Sometimes I think I just need a good cry. It was one of those days yesterday. Yesterday I put some random music on and sat down to do some baby blanket crocheting... always calming... and then on came the song that we had at my dad's funeral and I was blubbing again. Decided my hormones were raging a bit yesterday. In a way it wasn't so bad because I sat there and thought about my Dad and that made me think about my sons and how he is in all of them. So that made me smile.

Anyways - better go and entertain my little chaps. Its pouring here in Melbourne. Wish I had wellies for both of them... they'd love that! Ah well... indoor day today!!

[deaks66]

Pinga, its raining here constantly at the moment, and im sure this kind of weather makes emotions even worse. Roll on some lovely summer days for us and bright winter days for you! The crocheting does sound very calming... my problem with crocheting and knitting for that matter is i find it very difficult to solve mistakes and also my tension gets looser and looser! I guess it takes practise but im much better on a sewing machine!! Like indigo said, i hope things are brighter for you today, not too long now! X

[indigoviolet]

Pinga- glad you are feeling a little better today. Like Deaks said, raining constantly here and I agree, does NOT help with the mood. Was SO grumpy yesterday, feeling I won't cope when baby born, feeling irritable and such a short fuse with the boys. I'm sure a bit of Spring sunshine would do us all good. Pg hormones don't help either. It is hard work being pg and we should be easy on ourselves. ((hugs)) to us all

Hope everyone else is having ok days.

Maybe- how is the feeding going now?

[charlieispy]

yes the rain is peeing me off - our garden is a mudpit so even when not raining its sooooo muddy i ended up with 2 loads of washing on saturday from them playing outside. We have a new build and the ground is so compacted it doesnt drain i WANT sun

I too am crafting for the baby - making a blanket but quilting/patchwork by hand will have to upload a pic soon x its taking me a long time but its my labour of love if that makes sense x hugs to all you lovely ladies x

Deaks - PGD is something i should have considered this time looking back in hindsight - we wouldnt have the money but if i had waited till we did.......although realistically it wouldnt have happened. I will never not want my baby girl i think i need to accept it will only be a dream though am struggling with 3 and soon will have 4!! Indy is such a lil git at the mo :S

Pinga - huge hugs for the hormonal day i hope the rain has stopped for you and you are feeling better

2monkeys is DH still behaving???

am 30wks (monday or tomorrow) depending on who you ask hope the next 10wks flie by and that baby comes ooooh 38wks would be nice - can wish!

[charlieispy]

indigo - we definitely NEED sun x am sick of rain and hailstones x hope you are having a better day x x