Ladies due in Sept/Oct/Nov 2012, gather here!

[Hobbermittens]

Thats exactly how I felt when I had my scan, I think I'm having a girl too I could see the nub and it was clearly forked and I felt totally deflated and regretful. I should have left it at two and set myself back to square 1 with a new baby again especially one of a gender I don't want. I still feel really lost these days trying to figure out why this is happening and why it didn't work and why if you flip a coin you get an opposite easily but in pregnancy you can't. I'm just feeling sad I guess I know theres a chance that it could a boy for us like everyone says but when you've seen the scan and you have "that" gut feeling, its hard to be positive.

Yes, it is hard to feel positive. The whole time during the scan I felt okay, disappointed but okay, but as time has gone on it has just gotten worse.

Are you getting another gender scan, bumblebee?

[Hobbermittens]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. I used to really believe that saying about you won't regret the kids you do have.... but it took me a LONG time to get to that point with DD2. Honestly, as horrible as it sounds, if I had had a time machine any time during the first 8 month of her life, I would have gone back and not had her. I suppose knowing that, I am really a terrible candidate for swaying--especially since it appears my sway didn't work. So I spent all this money on supps, got fat, stuck weird things up my hoo-ha, and STILL made a girl? I could have done that without trying! It seems so unfair. There are so many ladies desperate for girls, and having an excess of boys... why couldn't I get a boy and the girl could go to a lady who wants it?

[Flava]

aurora I sure hope you will post the "feeling" .Even if it's a girl . (i think that anyway)Of course I hope boy but all I even heard before it's a girl.So to imagine they say it's a boy I can't even do that.
Funny I was so sure 5 will get a boy too!
I really hope mocha and purple and you get that girl! You have feeling for yourself?

[Flava]

Oh about my sway I did not posted yet because Im scared from a m/c...not sure when would be ok to post.

[Flava]

hobber- I had very bad GD with DD3 .oh lord it was so mean...not so bad with DD4. im just happy it's all over and sure hope I will never have GD anymore.

[Bumblebee]

Yes, it is hard to feel positive. The whole time during the scan I felt okay, disappointed but okay, but as time has gone on it has just gotten worse.

Are you getting another gender scan, bumblebee?

gosh yeah I totally feel the same, I'm terrified of finding out the sex I don't know whats worse GD in pregnancy or GD when you have the baby. I worried if I find out and its a girl I won't take care of myself for the rest of the pregnancy because I'll be so dissappointed so I won't care what I eat or do. If anything happened out of anger or negligence I would never forgive myself. But if I leave some doubt as to the sex I think I'll be good to myself just in case its a boy. I know it sounds stupid but its just me trying to work though it somehow and give it justification, the truth is I'm so lost and I feel really alone and that I got no one to talk to about it.
I think ultimately if I wait until the birth then I'll cope better and just get on with it and find closure but I just feel too emotional vulnerable right now to cope with any disappointment. I just want to get this pregnancy over and done with and progress with my life like I was before this whole thing started.

[Hobbermittens]

gosh yeah I totally feel the same, I'm terrified of finding out the sex I don't know whats worse GD in pregnancy or GD when you have the baby. I worried if I find out and its a girl I won't take care of myself for the rest of the pregnancy because I'll be so dissappointed so I won't care what I eat or do. If anything happened out of anger or negligence I would never forgive myself. But if I leave some doubt as to the sex I think I'll be good to myself just in case its a boy. I know it sounds stupid but its just me trying to work though it somehow and give it justification, the truth is I'm so lost and I feel really alone and that I got no one to talk to about it.
I think ultimately if I wait until the birth then I'll cope better and just get on with it and find closure but I just feel too emotional vulnerable right now to cope with any disappointment. I just want to get this pregnancy over and done with and progress with my life like I was before this whole thing started.

I totally get that. I keep wondering what I was thinking, trying to sway? Now I will have too many kids, we will have even less money, my parents and in-laws will be disappointed in us, etc. I really can't think of any good things about any of it. THe only positive would have been if the baby was a boy. Then all the negatives would have been worth it.

[Mochagirl]

Mocha, I still feel 150% your baby is a girl. I just feel it very deeply that it is true! If coldwater gave you 85% then I think that sounds good. I don't know whats better or worse to be honest with you....I am going into this *trying* (that being the operative word) of staying positive and really enjoying and relishing the idea that I could have a daughter, and all the purples and lavenders I'd buy for her, etc, all the things we could do. If I hear boy at 19 weeks, THEN I'm going to deal with my feelings then, once I know for sure. I don't know which way is better, getting prepared to hear boy before you even hear it (or I dont' think you will hear it), and feeling antsy and lost about it being a boy, or living in La-La Land like I am doing.

I don't know! I hope we both have girls so we don't have to find out! But on the same token, I dont know why this is so important to me, but I really, really don't want to experience what I did with DS2. If this is DS3, I realy want to feel happy and excited and at peace with my new little man. I long for that experience of being pregnant and not feeling bummed out to hear boy...because I was bummed with both DS1 and 2, though obviously they mean everything to me now. I guess it's like I'm seeking closure and I long for that happy, I am over the moon excited pregnancy I can't believe I'm having a girl!!!! feeling.

Yeah, sometimes I think maybe it would be better to let myself daydream about having a girl since this is the last time in my life I'll have that luxury since it's my last baby. If and when I find out I'm having a boy, that door gets shut forever. I did let myself stroll through a baby girl section at a store yesterday, and it felt so exciting to see those little outfits and think maybe, just maybe I could start buying those in a few weeks. The thing is, this baby is going to be an opposite season baby to all my others, so no matter what I'm going to have to buy new clothes...I just really, really hope I'll be able to finally shop in the girl sections I've always rushed through while averting my eyes.

Auroara - thanks for sharing your 'feeling' that this baby is a girl. I really hope you're right! Only 2 weeks and 2 days until I find out! I never really get strong feelings about others' babies other than what I wish for them, but I really, truly hope with my whole heart that you and everyone else here will get the gender of their dreams. We all deserve it soooooo much after all we've gone through to get here.

Hobber - I definitely think you shouldn't count yourself out yet, though I think all the things you're feeling right now are perfectly natural and normal. You are so early that most techs wouldn't even be willing to guess a gender yet anyway. Don't nubs only start to rise around 12 weeks? Even if that was the nub you were seeing, there's every possibility it's now on its way up. I have my for you!

[Hobbermittens]

THanks, Mocha. I hope you are right. THe tech said my baby measured a little ahead, so more like 12 weeks (not sure how that is possible, since I know basically when I O'ed) so I hope the nub could still rise, or is it done by then? I don't know. I probably shouldn't get my hopes up.

I hope you get to shop for girl clothes soon.

[purplepoet20]

I don't have a feeling yet about you!

So far I have these feelings:
TTC5- boy
Mocha -girl
Purplepoet - girl

She is already known to confirm a girl, but when I read happyheart's sway, it really spoke to me and I felt it real deep that she was having a girl, and then once it was confirmed, I felt good that my deep gut feeling had been right!

There was a swayer who I won't name who is pregnant with a boy tho she had swayed girl, and so when she heard boy, i felt for her, becuz I know how bad she wanted a girl, but I was too chickent to share my feelings before she found out because I didn't want to upset her.

I tell my husband all the time about it. He just thinks I get lucky with my gut feelings! Of course, I don't always get it right, I have been pretty concivnced of some here and there that did have opposite of what I felt, but I'm pretty good at sussing out my feelings, but I really need to focus to get an answer.

I know this sounds hokey, but it's something I've developed in months of being here. The other thing that can cloud it is desire...if I desire a person too badly to get a DG, I can be blinded by that, just like I cannot trust my own gut feeling about this baby because of desire. For the record, I will say that my gut feeling is that i'm carrying a girl, but i find it hard to trust that instinct because of desire.

Flava, when I feel something, I'll post it or PM you. I am trying hard to suss out my feelings for you and a few others, but some of ya'll are so newly pregnant I haven't gotten it yet.

I like to hear people or websites say I am having a girl... It makes me feel better but I still have a tear of hope!