September TTC Boy Chit Chat and Such Thread

[Hobbermittens]

Begonia, I really enjoy having you around, but I understand why you would want to take a break from this place... but I hope you pop in now and again to keep us updated! Especially when that baby is born. We will miss you!

[iluvmyman]

Well just got confirmation that I am having miscarriage #3.

I cannot keep doing this so we are done our family. As
sad as it makes me I cannot keep going on like this.

I wish you all the best.
Thanks for the support through all this.
You gals are great!

I don't know what to say but crying and hurting for you. I'm so sorry!!

[iluvmyman]

Thanks. But i think we are done unless we get some answers. my heart is broken and i am trying so hard not to cry in front of my girls.

This may be a weird suggestion but have you considered a hollistic practioner or naturopath. they look at things so differently than the medical community and might give you a different perspective. I totally think it's worth looking into, Princess.

[iluvmyman]

I have an Amby. I used it for all 3 boys and absolutely loved it, they all slept great as newborns too. I'm in two minds about whether to use it again - but actually I'd forgotten about the Snuza so that might help me make my mind up! It's definitely a great reassurance. It's quite funny when you forget to take it off though (I also found it reassuring to have on when carrying DS3 in a sling!) and you start wondering what the ticking noise is then realise it's your baby!! Confused a few grandparents and aunties too!

I think I remember that being recalled or a replacement part needed for that 1 when I was researching hammocks but could find them in the states. I had to order mine out of country. Crazy. My sis picked up the Snuza for me today from a couple who had premature twins and they really liked it too. I might never take it off of the baby. Funny w/ the grandparents. Who knows what our kids will have for their babies when it's time.

[iluvmyman]

Hey girls! Re: the comments, I guess the fact is I will probably just say "I love my girls" and leave it at that. After all, no one will be wrong when they say "Wouldn't you have loved a son?" So I'll probably just say "I love my girls. If I had a son I would have loved him too." And leave it at that. Because it's the truth right? I did TRY to have a son. I wanted a son. Heck, in my dream world, I would have had 3 sons. But I have GOT to leave that want behind now because I don't want a 4th child, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life (or really, more of my time, at all) wanting something I'm not going to have, and God forbid, leaving my girls EVER feeling that they are less than perfect to me. I'm glad I found this board and glad I swayed, if I had girl #3 w/o swaying I always would have wondered IF I had swayed ... would I have had him. But now I know. For reasons I don't know, DH and I weren't meant to have a son.

I posted this on the pg thread and am just going to copy it here ...
I'm torn as to whether it is good for me personally to be here anymore. I feel so tied to so many of you that I want to know what happens, I want you all to get your DG, but for me right now this feels like a place where I came when I had hope, and not to be all Debbie Downer but I don't have that hope anymore. I have my reality, and my reality is I'm never going to have the son I wanted for all of my life, my DH is never going to have a boy to raise. And that's hard, and while this is a place where I get support on those feelings, I also feel like it might be healthier for me to get on with my life offline and move forward. I never ever saw myself with 3 daughters. Even though I knew for sure it was a possibility and a strong one that our third would also be a girl, I just had that hope. I'm still really glad that I found out because not knowing was worse for sure. But now that my hope is gone, and I'm not having any more kids, I think I need to move on for my own mental health. I'll no doubt lurk here and there to check on everyone and maybe one day (especially once she's here) I'll be able to come back fully to catch up, but right now, I need to focus on what I have, 3 healthy girls, and coming here reminds me of what I don't, and that's not healthy for me. Like I said, I'm sure I'll pop on, but it's not going to be daily or anywhere close to it. All that to say, I'm out for awhile. I love this place, and love y'all, and wish everyone the best!

I'm just getting so bummed out right now. The 2 people I love the most are talking about leaving. I understand but I don't like it. Will miss you and Lola but I get it. I'm so hurting for so many of my fellow swayers here. We need a new place to hang then! I'm addicted to my online friends and care so much what happens to everyone.

[iluvmyman]

I buy new clothes at xmas and birthdays and also school uniform

Gymboree is the best and there clothes are such a great price if you shop right. I get $6 shirts often, I also go to the local resale events and love to garage sale for clothing. I love dressing my kids.

[iluvmyman]

I like to buy as much Gymboree brand as I can. I notice a huge difference in how long it wears. Most of the clothes have went threw all the girls (some is still too big for the youngest). I also don't dry their clothes (or my good clothes) all the way....just long enough to steam out the wrinkles and then line dry.

I also buy and love gymobree especially for my son. I also don't dry my clothes I bought new and hand dry. My dad has great fruit trees that serve as wonderful clothes lines.

[My Fabulous Children]

Thank you MFC! I won't LEAVE ... I'm like, totally stuck here, especially since all of you are the only ones who know my secret

I posted this on the pg thread too, but am going to share it here since a big reason I'm glad I found out is so I can make sure DH's expectations are good:
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Ok ... round 1 of lowering DH's expectations complete, LOL! And as you'll see he really was already pretty low... in a good way given what I know now. He's still at work (going to have to pay for 3 colleges plus weddings, now ) so we were just talking on the phone.
Me: "Ok so I had a dream last night that we had a girl. And she was born, and we had no name. At all. We called her Three."

Him: "I've been telling you for 4 months now it's going to be a girl; we don't make boys. So yes, we should probably pick a name."

Me: "I know. I just kept thinking, since I've had 2 boy dreams (that is true by the way) that we could maybe bypass it this time. But it definitely could be another girl and I guess I need to get ready for that."

Him: "It is what it is, and whoever it is God chose for us, and it's going to be amazing to have it in our arms next year. But you can't rely on Him to pick a name so yeah, you better start thinking about it. And seriously, just go buy something pink and expensive, you know you want to!"

He really is the best. It's a shame he won't have a son but I couldn't ask for a better man to raise my daughters. And yes, I am crying

Hey B, Your hubby sounds like an amazing man

[My Fabulous Children]

MFC, when are you testing? Do you feel like the Clomid worked??? I am excited for you!

WP, we did get the SA results in the mail. His morphology was only 18% also, which I've read is not that bad in reality, although the standard "normal" results are 30% and up.

Flava, glad your spotting stopped!

Begonia, that is such a sweet story....you have a fantastic attitude about it all, and she is going to be an amazing kid! Your DH is a champ, too. You just need to come up with a comeback for the comments....that's what made me feel better when I got them for that brief time in April (the "hoping for a boy?" crap). And by the way, I am so not a mean person, but when people say idiotic stuff to me, I feel much better when I come back with a good line to subtlely put them in their place. When I was pg with DD2, I got a couple of comments and was so annoyed that I said something to the tune of, "Yea, I know, it is such a drag to be having another healthy, beautiful girl. I should just sell her on the black market and hey....maybe I can trade her for a boy?" People would be so shocked, it was lovely. I love me some shock value.

B, I understand about your not wanting to post here anymore, because I don't feel like much use either. Hell, I can't even get pregnant and probably never will, and I definitely cannot sway anymore. It's kinda pointless. I am about to start reading on the girl threads and see how they lost so much weight so fast. I am just sick to death of having gained 35lbs for absolutely nothing. But, I will stick around, I want to see how everyone turns out. I feel like a drag, though.

Hey Hun, I'll be testing soon. I'm sitting here just hoping that I get a +OPK soon. How do I know if the Clomid is working ? I have some hot flashes and had heahaches.

And please don't go anywhere stay here ..I know how you feel I really do. I'll be praying for you. I really hope you get your BFP very soon.

[My Fabulous Children]

Hi girls

fab-I did use some ew like 2ml in a syringe. I had ewcm but used a little anyway lol

ttc5- I really have no clue when is my EDD because all my cycles was different since I used FF this year! So I put in that it was 26 days long and it give me June 4. I don't really care DD4 was almost 2 weeks late anyway LOL

And thank for the comments about my ticker I think it's cute too hehe

begonia- your HD is nice! I would love to see some pics anyway!
And I really hope I did not get fat for nothing because I did last time! Not liek it's for nothing because I have a baby and DD4 is the only one with blue eyes and she look like me BUT to get a girl I could just stay size 1 and have a fun night that's it!

What kind of eggs did you use? And what was the pH of the EW?