Due in March/April/May 2013 Roll call!

[Lassie1982]

mrshoneyz

I think you have a very strong frame of mind about it all

Like you, if this bubba turns out to be a boy (which my gut says it will be) i now that i wont be disappointed in HIM, but rather, disappointed that I will never have a daughter (DH's limit is 2, id go back for 3, but he is dead against it)

Never say never - you don't know what surprises future may bring...and maybe it will bring you a daughter one day.

Either way i think your outlook is a very healthy one and you should be proud of that

I know that life sometimes appears so unfair, and i myself find that I look at people who have both genders, and think 'what did they do to deserve it' (i especially think that about a particular individual who is sadly a terrible mother, and has had social services take away both her children - how come she got to have one of each - yet other mothers that would give their right arm to have that opportunity, don't) But everything happens, or doesnt happen, for a reason and we just have to trust in that.

Whenever my gender desire peaks and try and remind myself of my mum, she had 3 girls, then a boy...but she never ever wanted any girls (dont know why, neither does she) she always wanted 4 or 5 boys. She had major GD with me (i was the 3rd daughter) And then she finally got the son that she had spent her entire adult life wishing for - and sadly he has been nothing but sadness and trouble - I wont go into all the details, and of course she loves him, but it does make you wonder....looking back, she regrets that the desire took over her life, she regrets the GD that she couldnt put herself past, and she wonders wether maybe she should have let the gender desire go, rather then force and wish for something that was just not happening. Her situation reminds me that everything happens the way it should - and we need to try and find contentment in that.

Hope DH comes round soon, and whenever you need to vent thats what we are here for

[Tiffani3]

Big hugs to you mrshonyez I'm sorry it's not your dd.
congratulations he does look ever so cute.
Having 3 ds's is truly lovely they are such good friends, well most of the time lol. I'm sure your little man will be the light of your life and loved so much.

Let out all your sadness to us sweetie we all completely understand.

[mummypink]

Congratulations Mrshoneyez! What a super cute little boy, the scan sounds fantastic!
I totally understand how you feel as that is exactly how I feel, I know if this baby is a boy I will love him to pieces and wouldn't change him for the world. It doesn't take away your longing for a daughter though. We definitely won't be having anymore as we just don't have the space or the money, we have no family nearby so I'd be worried that I wouldn't have enough time to give to each of my children. Plus I always had a rule in my head that once I got past 35 I wouldn't have any more and I'm 35 next year - just a personal decision I don't have any probs with older mums!

I think the finding out is the worst bit, I hate the limbo at the moment but also like the fact that I can still dream about having a girl as I don't know for definite yet. I know I need to find out at the scan though so I can get my head around it and not feel any disappointment about not having a daughter when he arrives.

Now go out and buy some new cute baby boy things to cheer yourself up, this little man is going to be super special! xxx

[mummypink]

Had a really bad night sleep last night and I feel awful and sick today as a result. Bleugh! I feel like just curling up and going to sleep but I have so much to do!

On a more cheerful note - just seen my baby is the size of a peach now! x

[suregena]

Ditto. I've come down with a bug, which my son also has, and I just had to call in today. My first call into work, but I still haven't told my supervisor. She wanted details on what I'm sick with but all I could say was that I had a fever through the night and feel 'very unwell.' Argh. I had a temperature last night and then was on the couch when my husband got home, shivering and shaking and then feeling like it was time... I was wanting to throw up so bad, it was horrible, by far the sickest I've felt so far. And then it carried on throughout the night. It was just horrible. It's like I've got a bug + morning sickness so I just feel really bad. My son woke up and had horrible diarrhea and was upset and screaming and I was trying to wash him down but I had the same problem myself, my stomach was in cramps and knots because I needed the toilet but was cleaning him up. Just awful.

They're more strict this year then last time I was pregnant, but as she doesn't yet know, this can technically follow the usual protocol... but technically it is a bug that's just made everything else feel ten times worse, so what can I do? I'll either try to go in tomorrow but if I can't I may just go to the GP to get a sick note and just tell her over the phone I'm pregnant. Either way - double-whammy BLAH.

[Tiffani3]

Oh suregena that sounds awful hope you feel a bit better today xx

[homebirthing princess]

aw ladies im really starting to panic about my scan tomorrow i know alot of you will say dont because of my nub shot but ive seen a few 100% girl votes turn out to be boy.....i know i will love him to peices im not worried about that im just so worried about the 'disapointment' i will feel im dreading it i can'not imagine ever having a girl and im convinced this is a boy, im not sure if ive convinced myself to protect myself iykwim? im dreading all the pitty ppl with give me!!
mrshonyez i hope i handle it as well as you have!!! this is our last baby because the drs have already told me if i go on to have anymore i would HAVE to have blood thinning injections everyday of my pregnancy as having 4+babies increases your chances of blood clots which is what caused my mum to have my sister stillborn..so when she fell preg with my little brother i had to watch her go though hell because of these injections plus my bro has autism which we r convince is because of the heparin, i cant do it!!!! im so worried
i feel truely blessed to be given the chance to have this baby and i love her/him already and i just want them here healthy, but that desire never fades!! i hate GD it sucks!!!!!

[NCBeachyGrl]

It was way more personal too than going in to an office I think! I'm much better than I thought I would be, I mean I'm sad I may never get a girl but I'm happy to finally know for sure that its a he. He was so cute and was holding onto his boy parts at kne point lol.

Congrats on your precious boy!Your pictures are so cute!!!!! I look at my boys every day and wonder why it is that I want a girl so bad when I have the sweetest boys on earth.

[homebirthing princess]

I look at my boys every day and wonder why it is that I want a girl so bad when I have the sweetest boys on earth.

thats exactly how i feel!!! xx

[NCBeachyGrl]

HBP - GD sucks so bad.Why can't we all go through gender scans with no worries or fears? Why does it have to be so hard for us?

Try to relax and enjoy seeing your baby. We will do all the worrying for you! Can't wait to see your update!!