TTC pink chat thread for November

[auroara78]

freas, i think diet has a part for sure in swaying, im not sure how big of a piece it is to be honest, cuz ive seen women eat really wholesome and organic and natural and concieve girls...that could be because of a similiarity to LE type diet, where are they naturally consuming less fat, etc, BUT even if they are consuming less fat, they are taking in really healthy nutrients as well.

I believe there is so much complicated reasons that go into why x or y sperm fertilizes the egg, that almost the more you try to discover the reasons, the more it's like peeling back the layers of an onion. it's hard to get to the center of it, lol.
I think swaying is definitely worth a shot, but I wouldn't do it unless I was happy to welcome an opposite, only because you gotta have your heart open...all the great ladies here have their hearts open to a healthy child, but still hope for the gender they desire.

Then sometimes I think conception is really is as simple as which sperm just get lucky enough to get there first, and that no matter how hard we try to sway the odds in our favor, it's just such a random process of a one certain sperm getting lucky. I don't think that often; but sometimes when I see tons of women with genders that defy what I know about female/male conceptions I think maybe I don't know anything at all, and this process of how gender is determined is not meant to be understood by us humans....

[Mochagirl]

Hey ladies - we made our attempt last night. My OPK was still negative, but all the signs of O were there, so we decided to go for it. I had used rephresh the day before, had dh release a few hours before we dtd, used a teeny bit of Sylk and jumped and dumped after waiting maybe 1 minute. I also drank a ton of Crystal Light and took a Benedryl an hour before. Hopefully that was enough. I'll keep watching and we'll probably have another attempt when/if I get that +OPK (hopefully today).

I'm still a little nervous O won't come in the end. I decided to take a FRER last night right before dtd to make sure it was negative, since I'd only been testing with ICs. I waited maybe just under 5 minutes and it looked like a BFN, so we went ahead and dtd. This morning I looked at it again and there's a very, very faint squinter of a line - so faint it almost looks like an evap. I guess that means I still have a little HCG in my system? I'm assuming I can't O until it's all completely gone, right? They should hopefully call today with the results from Monday's blood test so I'm hoping I hear a very low number (I think I've heard anything under 5 and you're considered not pregnant - anyone know if that's right?).

[Out of the Blue]

Hi, Jamie! Glad you’re joining us here…As Mocha said, it really took a while for this stuff to sink in. My head was spinning for about 2-3 mos (probably b/c I was still logging onto the InGender site which has some differing info)! I was a complete nut-case (and my DH can attest to that!). Then all of the sudden, things start to solidify and make sense. When that happened for me, it gave me a lot of peace and I was really able to relax. This stuff will make sense…if you find yourself getting too wrapped up and are stressing, step away from the P.C. and take a nice bubble bath and have a glass of wine.

Jen, my husband also has trouble "performing" if he thinks I'm not into it...I didn't fake an O or anything, but I had to start making sounds or acting like I was really enjoying it just to keep him going, although in my head, I was like hurry up, just do your thing already and get off me....LOL

My husband's the same way - I have to moan and pretend I'm into it or he just can't finish the job - in the meantime I'm planning my grocery list in my head .

…I know!!! Just do it already, DH!! DH knows I cannot get into it so he asks that I kind of squirm and grab his butt and make some noise like I’m really enjoying myself (sorry…TMI and DH would just die if he knew I were typing this …: ) When we do our frequent BD sessions, I’m seriously going to get so much done (in my head at least, lol). I think I’ll be doing a lot of meal planning. If I could only cook and clean while we do it…

[Out of the Blue]

I agree that we both really need this BFP - here's to hopefully being DD buddies again!

YES! My heart is aching to be preg again and hopefully it'll come soon for both of us. Just trying to send the universe a speedy BFP & some healthy baby vibes for us.

Jen - I think you said your body kept trying to O after your m/c but wasn't successful for a while (apologies if it wasn't you). On those unsuccessful times did you have all the O symptoms? Were you using OPKs at the time?

I don’t think it was me…I just started to transition into a fertile period and it happened. I wasn’t holding out much hope that I’d actually O until I saw 2 consecutive days of +OPKs and even then, I wasn’t sure. My body was showing the normal signs leading up to O but I was skeptical up until FF gave me solid crosshairs. I was kind of regretting not trying but mostly just relieved that things were moving in the right direction so I could give it a go soon.

I'm still a little nervous O won't come in the end. I decided to take a FRER last night right before dtd to make sure it was negative, since I'd only been testing with ICs. I waited maybe just under 5 minutes and it looked like a BFN, so we went ahead and dtd. This morning I looked at it again and there's a very, very faint squinter of a line - so faint it almost looks like an evap. I guess that means I still have a little HCG in my system? I'm assuming I can't O until it's all completely gone, right? They should hopefully call today with the results from Monday's blood test so I'm hoping I hear a very low number (I think I've heard anything under 5 and you're considered not pregnant - anyone know if that's right?).

YAY!!! Nice job, M.J.!!! I heard the same thing…5 or under is considered not preggo and you can then O. I’m hoping w/all my heart that you O this time and get your BFP Christmas prezzie!!! If O comes this time, YAY!, if it doesn’t, try not to worry b/c it’ll come and your BFP will come too! I know this waiting is terrible (and it has just torn me up inside!), but trust in your LO coming exactly when she is supposed to come. I really believe that! Just look at Doula!

[Out of the Blue]

out of the blue, thank you so much. I guess I have to feel okay with it. We are both sad, though. While we aren't saying no yet (DH will have a vasectomy when we do), we are definitely going in the direction of not having more children. We want to give our kids things we didn't have, especially a paid-for college education. We aren't so much focus on material things as we are about solid futures. I hope that makes sense.

fresas, if you and DH are meant to have another sweet soul come into your life she will and it’ll be the right time. Life is really funny and can change instantly. I completely understand about trying to give your kids things you didn’t have. When I start thinking about saving for higher education, etc., it really stresses me out!

I read your story about losing your beautiful daughters. I am so sorry. I cannot imagine that type of loss.

You know, most of the time, I still cannot believe it happened…it’s like a dream. I’m trying to stay positive for a healthy baby this next time but I have to be ready for anything. It’s scary but it’s much, much more scary never TTC/having a third child. Thx so much for your kind words. Overall, we’re honored for the experience, as sad and terrible as it has been.

On a totally different topic, I was at work today and observing a few of my least favorite female co-workers. They all either have boys or are pregnant with boys, they all smoke worse than a chimney (the pregnant one is STILL smoking), and have the worst diets in the world. I don't know about their husbands or their lifestyles outside of work, but at work, they have a very girl sway friendly lifestyle. I just thought I'd share.

Just when I think I’ve got what gender people should be having all figured out, I see the opposite happen! I always do this in my head when I see strangers, as well as people I know…I’m sway-crazy but this stuff is so interesting to me! There are just so many variables out there, especially when everyone’s make-up is so different.

[Out of the Blue]

freas, i think diet has a part for sure in swaying, im not sure how big of a piece it is to be honest, cuz ive seen women eat really wholesome and organic and natural and concieve girls...that could be because of a similiarity to LE type diet, where are they naturally consuming less fat, etc, BUT even if they are consuming less fat, they are taking in really healthy nutrients as well.

I believe there is so much complicated reasons that go into why x or y sperm fertilizes the egg, that almost the more you try to discover the reasons, the more it's like peeling back the layers of an onion. it's hard to get to the center of it, lol.
I think swaying is definitely worth a shot, but I wouldn't do it unless I was happy to welcome an opposite, only because you gotta have your heart open...all the great ladies here have their hearts open to a healthy child, but still hope for the gender they desire.

Then sometimes I think conception is really is as simple as which sperm just get lucky enough to get there first, and that no matter how hard we try to sway the odds in our favor, it's just such a random process of a one certain sperm getting lucky. I don't think that often; but sometimes when I see tons of women with genders that defy what I know about female/male conceptions I think maybe I don't know anything at all, and this process of how gender is determined is not meant to be understood by us humans....

This is totally how I was able to relax…Knowing that there’s no magic bullet, no guarantee and that I’ll just do what I am able to do, what makes sense to me and then make peace w/it all. If I can do that, it’ll make me feel so much better if I do get another boy…At least I will know for the rest of my life that I did what I could at that time to try for a girl. It’ll give me so much peace, even if GD is still there.


SORRY FOR ALL MY POSTING BOMBS JUST NOW!!!

[Mochagirl]

I don’t think it was me…I just started to transition into a fertile period and it happened. I wasn’t holding out much hope that I’d actually O until I saw 2 consecutive days of +OPKs and even then, I wasn’t sure. My body was showing the normal signs leading up to O but I was skeptical up until FF gave me solid crosshairs.

Hmmmm....maybe it was Glittergirl who told me that. How long after your m/c was your O? I haven't done an OPK yet today, but I'm going to soon (I've been holding my pee all morning). that it's + today!

[Mochagirl]

I just tested and got another -OPK . In fact, this time I bought some non-digis, and the test line is barely visible. Seriously, my cervix could not be any softer or more open and I have TONS of EWCM. I guess I'll wait and test again later.

[Out of the Blue]

Hmmmm....maybe it was Glittergirl who told me that. How long after your m/c was your O? I haven't done an OPK yet today, but I'm going to soon (I've been holding my pee all morning). that it's + today!

I O'd 26 or 27 days after my m/c. My Ovulation Chart You may O earlier since you weren't quite as far along maybe. Sending you TONS of +OPK vibes!!!

I have no clue when I'll O since my cycles were crazy before I conceived last time so who knows. We'll probably start BD on Fri but it may be a long while before I actually O. Maybe I'll have to have a big O the first few times b/c I won't make it w/15 days of BD w/out having any fun!

[Out of the Blue]

I just tested and got another -OPK . In fact, this time I bought some non-digis, and the test line is barely visible. Seriously, my cervix could not be any softer or more open and I have TONS of EWCM. I guess I'll wait and test again later.

I hadn't seen this when I posted before...Just continue the testing and I'll continue to think + thoughts for you!