Pink swayers' December thread

[Jamie86]

So I'm not sure if this is a good place to put this but I really need a place to have a little vent. I normally don't vent about my DH because he is a wonderful husband and father but I'm feeling a little annoyed and want to know if I'm being ridiculous (and don't worry you can be honest). My husband plays golf every saturday and usually once during the week because he works 6am-230pm and there is still a pretty good amount of time to play. This last week because it has been raining and he is working outside he didn't have to work monday (my in laws watched the kids and went Christmas shopping) and then every other day he got off early. Yesterday he asked if I minded if he went and played golf (he loves golf and will play in the rain) and gold a haircut and I said no problem. Well the golf course decided to close due to the rain so instead he went to a golf store and hit balls in the simulator and then got his hair cut and got home 1.5-2 hours before the kids went to bed. I'm basically saying all this to say it's not like he has had very little free time recently other wise I might not be upset.

Well late last night I found out I passed my final section of the CPA exam YAY! I feel like he just doesn't understand how big of an accomplishment this is and doesn't' even try to. Today he texted me at 10am saying he was thinking of playing golf after work but would see how things were when he got off. He came home for a few and made it very clear that he was just going to be in one of those pouty moods (he wasn't angry just pouty) if he didn't get to go. I said he could do what he wanted and I know I should communicate with him why it bothered me and he's going to say I should have just told him but am I wrong for being upset that it didn't even occur to him 1st of all that I had been home with the kids all day yesterday without him while he went out and 2nd that today was kind of a "special" day and it would be nice to get some acknowledgement.

Again I'm sorry if you girls don't want me to put this type of stuff in here I'll be more than happy to take it off but I just wanted to get it out and maybe get some opinions.

[zanacal]

I'm with you on all of that Jamie - it's good to have an outside interest but there has to be a balance with family time. My DH is rarely home until just before or after the children have gone to bed but that's because he's working. I would be so cross if it was because he was doing something for pleasure!!

[Jamie86]

I'm with you on all of that Jamie - it's good to have an outside interest but there has to be a balance with family time. My DH is rarely home until just before or after the children have gone to bed but that's because he's working. I would be so cross if it was because he was doing something for pleasure!!

Yeah DH has been blessed with wonderful work hours that allow for him to help a lot with the kids and he is usually really good about it. And he is a very good golfer who has a dream of playing in bigger tournaments than the ones he currently competes in. I guess that is one of the main reason I am so upset, I am very supportive of his dream that many would not be supportive of but he doesn't acknowledge my accomplishments and my dream beyond a "good job babe."

But also hats off to you as well as so many other ladies because I think I might go crazy if DH was working that long each day.

[zanacal]

Oh I'm definitely crazy!! I too forgot to say a big congratulations on passing your exams! What is the subject?

[Mochagirl]

In the summer I sometimes feel like a single parent because my dh works all day then plays in two different baseball leagues that amount to about 3-5 evening games (often over supper/bedtime) a week. I definitely get annoyed!

[Jamie86]

Oh I'm definitely crazy!! I too forgot to say a big congratulations on passing your exams! What is the subject?

It was my last section of the CPA exam, there are 4 sections and I have previously (in the last few months) passed the other 3 and I just passed the audit section. So now after gaining enough working hours I will be a certified public accountant.

[Jamie86]

In the summer I sometimes feel like a single parent because my dh works all day then plays in two different baseball leagues that amount to about 3-5 evening games (often over supper/bedtime) a week. I definitely get annoyed!

I understand that last spring dh decided to play in a softball league as well as 2 gold leagues and had a class he was taking for work one night a week until 9pm. I thought I was going to go nuts!

[HopeandDreamG]

Jamie~ First, I think this is a great place to "vent" and I think I can speak for everyone and say that no one would want you to tale it down! 2nd- HUGE CONGRATS..thats quite an exam what a great accomplishment. You should be very proud. I think we all have different tolerance levels and it seems that often DH's need more relaxation and can tolerate more if they get it. That being said I think your needs of wanting celebration, recognition, and consideration are just as important. We are more likely to get our needs met when we meet others needs. But you need to let others know what your needs are!! If that makes sense!

[zanacal]

I didn't know what CPA was because I'm in the UK! I'm an Accountant too and I did my studying and exams whilst working full time - I have no idea how I'd ever do it with young children! That's a great achievement and definitely worth celebrating

[Jamie86]

I didn't know what CPA was because I'm in the UK! I'm an Accountant too and I did my studying and exams whilst working full time - I have no idea how I'd ever do it with young children! That's a great achievement and definitely worth celebrating

I always forget to look where others live when I'm on message boards. Yes I knew it would be incredibly difficult to do it with the children and while working so I decided to do it in this time in my life before I started working full time. I actually worked last tax season part time and will be starting a paid internship in January. I guess I'm a little frustrated because no one in my life seems to understand how difficult it was and I'm being a little childish and just wanting some recognition.