Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[I Love Ladybugs]

Emily....that would make the decision so much harder. Lots of hugs to you in making the choice....what country again where you in with DS1 birth? What options did you have there vs. Vietnam? Is there any chance your family could help financially in bringing DS1 back with you?

Myrainbowgirl...I posted over there...and I wish you a pink one...those nubs throw me off when they are curled.

My trip is booked, my bags are packed...and baby is kicking right now. Mommy needs to go to bed...be back in the am.

[Mathilde]

Bugs: great news on brother! All the praying from a surtain secret community of crazed women must have helped
Emily: what a choice!
Rainbow: too many of us know how you are feeling.. Hope you cope as gracefully as the others(that's excluding me!!)
AFM: told the boys yesterday and they were very excited, my heart is still not in it though went to dr to have blood drawn, wheighed 66.8kg!! Am 1.74m.. Urine ok, hospital booked and BP very low(it is usually as well) at 83/48!!
Going shopping today for cute baby winter woolen stuff.. Hope that helps.. Have begun thinking of no 4 now.. Possibly ht? Have a nice day/night!
Mathilde

[meeks32]

I would be gone for at least 12 weeks. It is so long. I was all gung ho about giving birth here - i am not fussy when giving birth but now am a bit concerned. DS1 was also born in a 'non-confinement' country and had serious issues from a botched delivery. He is still affected cosmetically so I know that it is the baby I have to think of too - it isnt just a question of not caring about water births, ball and gas and air.

My friend that gave birth in the international hospital in Bali said her doctors were better than the ones she had at home in Australia with her other child. So do look into it before making the call. The facilities at that hospital were amazing and she was more than happy with the outcome despite a long labour and few stitches. She had gas and air but they didn't do water births there. She said she was offered an epidural but didn't want one.

12 weeks is a very long time.

[meeks32]

Emily....that would make the decision so much harder. Lots of hugs to you in making the choice....what country again where you in with DS1 birth? What options did you have there vs. Vietnam? Is there any chance your family could help financially in bringing DS1 back with you?

Myrainbowgirl...I posted over there...and I wish you a pink one...those nubs throw me off when they are curled.

My trip is booked, my bags are packed...and baby is kicking right now. Mommy needs to go to bed...be back in the am.

Good luck hon! Can't wait to hear. Please go shopping after all the appointments are over and you know gender for sure. Just as a little perk up and excitement for baby after all this drama.

So so glad your brother has walked! With all the swelling I'm sure that it is normal to have pain, but its a great sign. They can insert a catheter if his bladder isn't emptying and most bladder surgery is fairly simple if he needs that.

[meeks32]

Evening ladies,

Sorry I couldn't get the video up any earlier, but I have had problems with uploading it and then I've been busy all day.

Anyway, here it is:
Scan080813_zpsc91f5c07.mp4 Video by roddypiper_photos | Photobucket

I am trying to get my head around this being a little boy, but would love to hear your honest opinions. Please if you think it looks more boy just say so. I won't be offended.

So this is exactly what the doctor saw... okay in a bit better quality as I had to compress it to upload it and minus the camera shake and little hands.

Gecon I think this is a boy. At just before 3min30 in the vid, bubs is sort of sideways on an angle and I definitely saw penis and balls. Then she freezes it on an odd shot, but before that you can see them. Also after when she goes for the potty shot, you can see it again before she freezes on another odd shot.

I hope that helps, it must be a bit of a shock to hear boy so far along, I'm sure you will love him like crazy and he will be an amazing addition to your family. Feel free to vent or celebrate, however you wish, we are here to share. X

[GeCon]

Meeks, thanks for taking the time to reply. I think I can see what you mean. Oh well two boys it is for us then. I am sure he will be a wonderful little addition to our family.

[Emily]

Meeks, thanks for taking the time to reply. I think I can see what you mean. Oh well two boys it is for us then. I am sure he will be a wonderful little addition to our family.

GeCon for some reason i thought you already had two boys. Well, if this does turn out to be boy #2 for you i can honestly say from experience that you will not regret it for second. The relationship two same sex siblings have is amazing. My boys love each ither so much (even when ripping each ithers heads off) and can relate to each other in a way that neither Dh nor I can. DS2 added something amazing to my family. I will look at your vid when I get home.

Thanks for your advice ladies. We move every 4 or so years due to DHs job (and mine before DS1).

DS1 was born in morocco in an amazing private hospital. Unfortunately docs get paid per birth so the ob hurried things along so that she would get the cash notthe next shift. She performed an unnecessary ventouse too early in teh delivery resulting in ripped neck muscles and other complications. These were not picked up by the paediatrician despite my frequent nagging as he was her best friend and did not want to implicate her.

I am going to chat to a lady who gave birth here to see what she thought of the whole process. As we would only have to pay for DS1s flight it would not be a problem for him to come back but he would miss a lot of his new school and DH wouldnt be able to be there fir the birth unless we had the baby induced to ensure the date. I would really prefer to have him / her here.

[meeks32]

Meeks, thanks for taking the time to reply. I think I can see what you mean. Oh well two boys it is for us then. I am sure he will be a wonderful little addition to our family.

I agree with em, my ds2 is just the light of my life and balanced our family out so much. I had some GD with him after our 20week scan but now I am so so glad he was a boy and arrived when and how he did. I can't illustrate enough just how nice it is having two boys play together. Xx

[meeks32]

GeCon for some reason i thought you already had two boys. Well, if this does turn out to be boy #2 for you i can honestly say from experience that you will not regret it for second. The relationship two same sex siblings have is amazing. My boys love each ither so much (even when ripping each ithers heads off) and can relate to each other in a way that neither Dh nor I can. DS2 added something amazing to my family. I will look at your vid when I get home.

Thanks for your advice ladies. We move every 4 or so years due to DHs job (and mine before DS1).

DS1 was born in morocco in an amazing private hospital. Unfortunately docs get paid per birth so the ob hurried things along so that she would get the cash notthe next shift. She performed an unnecessary ventouse too early in teh delivery resulting in ripped neck muscles and other complications. These were not picked up by the paediatrician despite my frequent nagging as he was her best friend and did not want to implicate her.

I am going to chat to a lady who gave birth here to see what she thought of the whole process. As we would only have to pay for DS1s flight it would not be a problem for him to come back but he would miss a lot of his new school and DH wouldnt be able to be there fir the birth unless we had the baby induced to ensure the date. I would really prefer to have him / her here.

I agree I can't imagine dh not being there. Obviously your choice will be what is best for the family and only you can decide that. See if you can chat to more than one mum who has given birth there, you never know, just one opinion could limit the view. Great plan though. Also maybe find out how the ob's get paid and see if you can speak to one armed with a list of just such questions. Also make sure to tell the ob all your concerns about your first birth to give him or her the opportunity to say how they would do things differently.

My first birth was botched majorly even in a western hospital, so it sure can happen anywhere.

[Emily]

I agree I can't imagine dh not being there. Obviously your choice will be what is best for the family and only you can decide that. See if you can chat to more than one mum who has given birth there, you never know, just one opinion could limit the view. Great plan though. Also maybe find out how the ob's get paid and see if you can speak to one armed with a list of just such questions. Also make sure to tell the ob all your concerns about your first birth to give him or her the opportunity to say how they would do things differently.

My first birth was botched majorly even in a western hospital, so it sure can happen anywhere.

Exactly! Knowing my luck if we flew back DH would miss the birth and I would end up giving birth on the overstretched NHS and end up with another botch job!