Due in January, February & March 2019

[Pbn3]

That's a great number Abc [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322] As for the progesterone what does your ob say? Are they going to test it again otherwise how will they know if it falls to 15 and is therefore worrisome?

[ABC.2606]

Girls I need some help...
The initial excitement of my bfp is wearing off and though I'm trying to stay positive the gender anxiety I s creeping in day by day! I know so many of you are feeling the same way so I'm hoping we can comfort each other.
I just can't get it out of my head that my timing was perfect for a boy- we dtd just hours before o after a 4 day abstinance- this is textbook shettles I know and he's debunked but I just can't stop panicking that I should have just done a cut off! This is my last chance and I was so blasé about it!
Please please give me some hope that my beautiful daughter can still happen even with bd on o day!

I've seen atomic say many times that studies show that it's roughly 50% boys/ 50% girls conceived on every day of the fertile cycle and at least one study showed *slightly* more girls on O day - so I don't think you have messed anything up at all!! I also saw her say recently that when you conceive on O day there are going to be less sperm ready at the egg b/c it takes time for the sperm to capacitate. You ABSOLUTELY have a chance! Especially with Clomid, diet, exercise, 1 attempt, etc!

BUT - I know how you feel & I totally get it. Since getting my BFP I've picked at myself over and over about my diet.... that it wasn't good enough, that I wasn't on it long enough after my last miscarriage, etc. I think that's the nature of GD... we're also going to find things that we're convinced ruined the sway!

[ABC.2606]

That's a great number Abc [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322] As for the progesterone what does your ob say? Are they going to test it again otherwise how will they know if it falls to 15 and is therefore worrisome?

No she said they test it three times and if all three numbers are above 15, that's that. I don't know. I think on Friday when I do the ultrasound I will see the RE (I hope so at least) so I'm going to press her about it again. But I really wonder if it's the eating thing... Like last Tuesday I ate a very small breakfast at least 2 hours before the test and today I was eating a bunch as I was running out the door an hour before the test. Wouldn't have done that if I had known they were going to test progesterone again.

Do you think I should call my OBGYN and get his thoughts though and see if he thinks I should use the suppositories? I would think if it was dropping b/c the pregnancy was not going well my HCG wouldn't have increased so much, yea?

[Pbn3]

Kittendreams it's scientifically proven that xx and xy sperm swim the same speed. Just remember that shettles was looking at uncapacitated sperm as xy sperm and capacitated as xx. Based on that alone shows he simply did not have the technology to understand what he was seeing. The amount of shettles opposites would be close, equal or more than the amount of hoped for gender as his theory really amounts to nothing more than pot luck. The reason its so hard to dismiss is because its was the only gender sway technique around for such a long time and therefore everyone had heard of it...

[kittendreams]

HCG update.... went from 2,532 on 7,837 today!! 44 hour doubling time according to those online calculators. So relieved - I had a terrible feeling all day today that it was going to be a bad number.

But... my progesterone keeps dropping. 36 last Tuesday, 26.6 on Friday, 23.3 today. Ugh. I asked the nurse about it and she said it fluctuates and they don't get concerned unless it drops below 15 and that my HCG is rising appropriately. I ate more before the Friday test and today's test than I did before Tuesday's so I'm wondering if that has to do with it (apparently after you eat progesterone levels drop). I'm wondering if I should use the progesterone suppositories that I have (was prescribed them by OBGYN with previous m/cs) - thoughts?? I just don't like that it's going down! TP - are you doing progesterone? I feel like you've mentioned it before.

So I'm still stressed, but, happy about my HCG!

Wonderful news abc!! I don't know anything about progesterone levels but I do know stress won't help so just stay positive this is your healthy baby xxx

[kittendreams]

I've seen atomic say many times that studies show that it's roughly 50% boys/ 50% girls conceived on every day of the fertile cycle and at least one study showed *slightly* more girls on O day - so I don't think you have messed anything up at all!! I also saw her say recently that when you conceive on O day there are going to be less sperm ready at the egg b/c it takes time for the sperm to capacitate. You ABSOLUTELY have a chance! Especially with Clomid, diet, exercise, 1 attempt, etc!

BUT - I know how you feel & I totally get it. Since getting my BFP I've picked at myself over and over about my diet.... that it wasn't good enough, that I wasn't on it long enough after my last miscarriage, etc. I think that's the nature of GD... we're also going to find things that we're convinced ruined the sway!

Thank you so much for taking the time to calm me down abc especially when you have far more things to worry about xxx you are so kind xx

[Pbn3]

Abc I think you need to do whatever you feel will give you the most peace. So either wait and ask your RE or check with your ob via phone call. Whatever will give you that extra peace of mind. If there's no harm in using the suppostries and it makes you feel better then ask if you can do that. Or ask for another 2 prog blood draws over the next couple weeks and fast from 9pm onwards nd get the draws first thing in the morning so you can take food effect out of the equation? Some may think that it's over the top thinking but I believe if it's a concern to you then you need to address it and feel confident in the outcome [emoji173]

[kittendreams]

Kittendreams it's scientifically proven that xx and xy sperm swim the same speed. Just remember that shettles was looking at uncapacitated sperm as xy sperm and capacitated as xx. Based on that alone shows he simply did not have the technology to understand what he was seeing. The amount of shettles opposites would be close, equal or more than the amount of hoped for gender as his theory really amounts to nothing more than pot luck. The reason its so hard to dismiss is because its was the only gender sway technique around for such a long time and therefore everyone had heard of it...

Thank you as always Pbn
I have so much pressure from my mum to use shettles as she got three girls with it I'm just too scared to even tell her I'm pregnant because she will ask about the timing and tell me it's another boy. I feel sick that I'm so obsessed with this when a healthy baby is all I should be worried about. I hate that I am so ungrateful for my boys. I just hope when the time comes I'm at peace either way.

[ABC.2606]

Thank you so much for taking the time to calm me down abc especially when you have far more things to worry about xxx you are so kind xx

No problem! Apparently the theme of this due date board so far is all about taking turns calming each other down with all of our various freak outs So you're in the perfect place!

[Pbn3]

Thank you as always Pbn
I have so much pressure from my mum to use shettles as she got three girls with it I'm just too scared to even tell her I'm pregnant because she will ask about the timing and tell me it's another boy. I feel sick that I'm so obsessed with this when a healthy baby is all I should be worried about. I hate that I am so ungrateful for my boys. I just hope when the time comes I'm at peace either way.

Gosh that bugs me when people think they have the answers... I wouldn't tell her until you know gender. Also you are not ungrateful for your boys!! That sounds like what people say to try and guilt you into feeling you should be thankful for what you have. Well of course you are thankful!!!!! Doesn't mean you're not allowed to dream and hope for more!! "At least you have your boys, think of the people that cant have kids" was said to me by my mum after my losses which pissed me off no end at the time. I know she meant well and was not sure what to say but people need to understand that sometimes when you don't know what to say it probably means you should say nothing at all lol. So hope away kittendreams! We know you love and are grateful for what you have and completely understand your hopes and dreams of adding some pink to your cherished family [emoji173]