JUNE/JULY/AUGUST 2014 DUE DATE CLUB- THREAD #2

[prayforprincess]

bunny- you actually look quite big for your first. I look like that now with my 4th and I'm only 11 weeks!
With my 1st i did not show even the smallest bump until around 18/19 weeks.

So...I was just looking at the girl sways board and its getting me really down. I feel like most everyone who swayed is having their girl and it makes me think that if this oops baby didn't happen, then I would have begun my sway and had a fighting chance at our girl. Honestly I just feel doomed that this is totally boy #4 and I just don't want to always wonder, "what if I hadn't gotten pg and actually swayed, would things have been different?"
I feel horrible saying this but cant help feeling this way.

[aidansmum]

My bump at 19+5. Horrible pic - can't take decent photos of myself! Does my bump look small for gestation, or is it me?

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You have a cute bump! How big your bump looks also depends on your body shape and weight. It looks like a healthy 20 week bump to me!

[aidansmum]

bunny- you actually look quite big for your first. I look like that now with my 4th and I'm only 11 weeks!
With my 1st i did not show even the smallest bump until around 18/19 weeks.

So...I was just looking at the girl sways board and its getting me really down. I feel like most everyone who swayed is having their girl and it makes me think that if this oops baby didn't happen, then I would have begun my sway and had a fighting chance at our girl. Honestly I just feel doomed that this is totally boy #4 and I just don't want to always wonder, "what if I hadn't gotten pg and actually swayed, would things have been different?"
I feel horrible saying this but cant help feeling this way.

Don't feel bad about how you feel, it's not like we can help it and no one here judges you as we are all on the same boat. My dh said to me that if I wanted to wait for our financial situation to improve a bit we could go hi tech and do sperm sorting, but I didn't want to, I am 40, I have no time to waste, and I always knew the result could be another boy, but hey, we can't control everything can we? Sometimes we just have to take a leap of faith and then embrace the consequences. Own it. I know I'll be disappointed if I'm expecting a boy, but I also know it will pass and I will learn to love him like I do all my other boys, they are so unique, so special in their own way. When I get myself feeling down and doomed to have 4 boys in my life I always remember the little everyday things that they do that make me laugh and how cuddly they can be and I feel better, like saying to myself 'hey, don't despair, that's not bad at all, is it?'. I try to remain optimistic but we can't be feeling 100% all the time. That's why I love it here, because we can come and pour our hearts out, we all know we'll feel better soon, but a few words of comfort go a long way.

[menlc611]

Bunny you look great for a first time mom! This is me at 17+4 with baby #4:

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Prayforprincess I completely understand why you feel that way and I would feel the same way too. I didn't do the LE diet simply because I suck at diets. Once I got pg it started to come back and haunt me. I couldn't help but think I ruined my sway by not doing the diet. But everything happens for a reason. Your bean was meant to be. I know it's hard.. But we are all here for you!!!

[Little Lunasa]

Girls your bumps are beautiful!
Bunny, yours looks perfect for a first baby at 20 weeks. Good to hear everyone is doing ok
xx

[GT77]

You guys are sooo lucky that you belly's look so tiny & very very lucky! Me on the other hand, I had the worst Csection of my life with my first, I got an infection and my incision was up and down so it never healed. I looked pregnant before I actually was pregnant and now I look like I am at least 7 months and i am only 21 weeks!! Uh, I really hope this pregnancy goes by fast, since my pelvic pain is already bothering me and I am a tad worried that i can't even sit down for a meal without me getting a massive pain afterwards!! So enjoy your really amazing looking tummy's!! You guys are very lucky!!

[aidansmum]

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Cute bumps girls!!! This is me at 15 weeks I'm a bit on the bigger side I guess. I also felt a tiny kick today, still unsure if it was the baby though.

I also didn't do the diet! I am shocking with diets, hate them! I was eating empty carbs, drinking tons of diet coke and cut down on read meat, that was pretty much it.

[menlc611]

Aidansmum I think you look great!! Such a cute bump!

[aidansmum]

IT'S A GIRL!!!!!!!!! I am having a baby girl!!!! I can't believe it! In tears and so, so, so happy!!!!!

And it's all low risk for all trisomies! Couldn't be happier!

[Mum3blue]

ok so i think that I have officially lost the plot - since the news of baby boy #4 at xmas I thought that I was dealing with the news reasonably well. I had convinced myself that this little boy chose us and I did as much as I could to sway the chances. We started talking about names with DH and buying baby boy clothes (retail therapy is my answer for everything) - but in the last week as I am approaching our next ultrasound I have been focusing more and more on the fact that maybe harmony could be wrong and have found myself revisiting the old nub photos and skull theory searching for any clues that this in fact could be a girl. I have been playing with my angel cards and all along I have been getting the answered prayer card when I ask about this baby being a girl. I know that its not a girl - i just know - why does my brain keep playing these games with me? Only 1 more sleep and I guess I will get that visual confirmation my pyscho brain needs. I wish that my symptoms and cravings, and belly size and gender predictions were not so different from my boys, I wish I wish I wish I wish ... I just know that I have not got my wish. I think I am well and truly mad!!