Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[Charlee]

AFM, I have a doctor appt tomorrow and I might end up there today rather than tomorrow.... I've been spotting since last night called Dr this morning and she's worried as can be that my placenta might be detaching, which was the main concern after my terrible car accident. She said if it goes from sporting to bleeding to go straight to the ER. Spotting could be harmless, bleding is not. Baby is still active though which she says is a very reassuring sign. She also said that god forbid if my placenta is detaching, the survival rate of babies at this gestation is pretty good, especially because we have bone of the best NICU's in the country here at Sharp Mary Birch hospital. I am beyond worried of course... must one more thing to bring me sleepless nights

Sorry for the lack of personals... I am self consumed clearly

[Charlee]

Myrainbowgirl - CONGRATS on your healthy baby boy! I know it stings at first but you will be so in love when you finally get to meet him! As I've said about myself, God must think I'm one tough cookie to keep entrusting all these boys to me! LOL

Come to the opposites thread if you haven't already... I haven't been on here for a bit so I'm out of the loop

[Charlee]

YAY!!!! Congratulations...so happy for you!

Mathilde - Boo on the awkwardness...how much time are you able to take off? I quit my job back in May, so no worries here!

Meeks - Sorry you were frustrated by your dream...only a little while longer till you find out!! Surely the dream was a good sign.

AFM - Plan to tell my parents this week (they don't even know I'm pg), and will also be telling gender with the friends who knew I would find out this week. Dreading it. Told my SIL last night at DS2's birthday party, and started crying. Ugh...it just came out. Once again, had been a tough, tough day with the boys. DH had to work, so to get everyone out of the house, we went to church and then out to lunch. OMG. It was awful. Even the baby was tough. Wishing so bad I could fast forward the next 2 weeks to when DS1 is in school...just soooooo over the summer. Had another cry with DH last night...he is just so understanding and supportive. Don't know what I'd do without him!! I am blessed!

Speaking of DH's...mommies who are having another boy, do you think DH's sperm has anything to do with your failed sways? I know Atomic swears up and down that all men have 50/50 sperm, but I'm really starting to wonder! Anybody out there have DH get an SA and see that it wasn't 50/50? I don't blame DH at all...it's certainly not his fault, but I'm just wondering if it played a role. If we were to try HT, I guess I would find out. Just curious about your thoughts on it all.

We haven't had a SA but my little bit of medical knowledge mixed with gut instinct tells me that men do have 50/50 numbers... I have a friend IRL who just had her 6th baby , her 5th girl. And she had the first 3 girls with her first husband and 1 boy and 2 girls with her second husband... so clearly it's HER that's the girl maker, not the men.... kwim? BUT maybe some men have issues with their X sperm that makes it harder to fertilize an egg? I have no clue, just a thought.

[meeks32]

AFM, I have a doctor appt tomorrow and I might end up there today rather than tomorrow.... I've been spotting since last night called Dr this morning and she's worried as can be that my placenta might be detaching, which was the main concern after my terrible car accident. She said if it goes from sporting to bleeding to go straight to the ER. Spotting could be harmless, bleding is not. Baby is still active though which she says is a very reassuring sign. She also said that god forbid if my placenta is detaching, the survival rate of babies at this gestation is pretty good, especially because we have bone of the best NICU's in the country here at Sharp Mary Birch hospital. I am beyond worried of course... must one more thing to bring me sleepless nights

Sorry for the lack of personals... I am self consumed clearly

I replied in the opposites thread, but saw more detail here. How far along are you? I cant see signatures its very frustrating!

I am crossing everything for you, and you'll be on my mind all day. Stay in bed, get dh to stay home from work, do not move a muscle unless its to wee! Now is the time to be taken care of. I really hope its something simple like some old blood from the accident coming out, that's harmless. I'm so sorry you have this worry, its so hard to sleep when you are concerned for baby, and you are completely excused for thinking of yourself, anyone would be in your shoes.

xxx

[meeks32]

Emily I knew it!!!!! I just did! LOL... I've been saying it for 2 months now, out of all us long termers I just knew you'd hear pink! And now of course I'm going to say the same for Meeks... you lucky ducks! I am so envious and sooooo happy for you all at once

CONGRATS!!!!!

Thanks for saying that, but all I have is a girly EARLY 12w nub, I don't know if its a girl or boy yet at all. Even atomic said it was too early to tell, and I DID have a 11w boyish looking scan and blue result from intelligencer.

[myrainbowgirl]

Charlee - BIG HUGS to you!! Praying your spotting means nothing...and yes, babies at this age absolutely can survive! But will pray that he stays put as long as possible. And thanks for the congrats. Yes, I know time will heal, and right now I'm in the thick of it. I plan to join the opposites thread soon, think it's still just sinking in, ya know?

Meeks - I would totally go with the latest sign...your girly nub. Intelligender isn't accurate, and potty shots at that gestation are crap. So, girly nub it is!

AFM - Managed to hold it together today when a close friend came over for lunch. She knew I was supposed to find out soon, and of course she asked, so I told her. She was supportive and encouraging, so that was nice. We talked for a long time about how I'm feeling and everything that goes along with having another boy, and I didn't cry once! I was proud of myself. Progress!

[Niva]

Waiting4Daisy - A "bit" of an angle doesn't necessarily mean boy...needs to be over 30 degrees. Can you post a pic? If it actually is a boy, will you try for #5? In my low moments, and I have (insanely) thought about it! In my better moments, pretty sure we're done, regardless. The crazy thing is, DH is open. I kinda wish he wasn't, that way, I wouldn't even have those thoughts! Pretty sure I couldn't handle another, but just wondering if you have thought about it!

Ok, question on boobs...any of you not have major boob growth?? Mine have, but they're really not huge at all. They've never gotten huge during pregnancy before, but of course, I have all boys. I was still bf Ds3 when I got pg, and was soooo skinny that when my milk dried up, they were even SMALLER. Now, they're bigger, no question, but they just aren't that big. Starting to wonder if it's a boy sign. My regular size is a sad little A cup, so I have never, ever had big boobs. Maybe those of you with big boobs already had bigger ones?? Aaahh, trying not to overanalyze. Have looked this up before, and it seems to be different for everyone...sometimes women get huge with boys, too, sometimes not so much with girls (and of course vice versa). But, just wondering what your personal experiences were! I read somewhere that a baby boy's testosterone production can somewhat inhibit breast growth...theoretically, that would have to be after they begin to produce testosterone, which I read was about 11 weeks?? Thoughts, anyone?

What a good question -- my boobs have grown this pregnancy, but they never did during pregnancy with my DS until my milk came in, apart from the overall weight gain. And like you, I've always been small, and when I finished nursing DS, they shrunk even smaller (no fun!). Now I swear they are nearly as big as when I was nursing, and it isn't all from weight gain -- I've only gained 8 lbs so far. Interesting thoughts about the testosterone!

[Niva]

Crazylady - Welcome!! Haha, test when you like!

AFM - I got my MaterniT21 results. It's a boy. The good news is, his chromosomes are healthy, so obviously, I am happy about that. Not that I was shocked to hear boy, I wasn't. I am still devastated, though. I really, truly believed that God had promised me a daughter. Those of you who believe, may understand...those of you who don't, well, I completely understand you thinking, "Why in the world would you think something so crazy??" Because it does seem crazy. Especially now. But, there is some history there in what I believe was God's promise to me...started before I got pg with DS3. I had a miscarriage after 8 months of trying...shortly after, I saw a very vivid rainbow. Immediately felt in my heart that God was communicating with me that I wasn't going to have another miscarriage. I can't explain it...I just knew. Saw another very vivid rainbow a few days later. Again, immediately felt that God was saying I was going to get pg very soon. Saw another one a few days after that...felt that God was saying I would have a girl. The first two came true...got pg the next cycle, didn't have a miscarriage. The third one, obviously did not. Fast forward to when we started considering TTC#4. Started seeing lots of rainbows. Began to think...ok, I think maybe now we're going to have a daughter. If you've read my sway, you'll see all the other rainbow connections (saw one on conception day!), including the name we had picked for a girl...it seemed to really be God speaking to me. So, truth be told, I didn't even consider the fact that we could have another boy, until AFTER we were pg! I even bought nice pink girly bedding before I knew we were pg. So, yeah, that's why I'm devastated. I just don't understand how I could have made all that up in my head.

I had told DH about all the rainbow stuff from the very beginning, so he was well aware of it. Prayed with me that this would be a girl, etc., etc. We had a good, long talk tonight about it all. He, amazingly, fully believes that I am not crazy. That we will have a daughter. Said he doesn't know how it will happen or when, but that it will happen. He basically said money is no object, because who is he to stand in the way of God fulfilling His promise to me? OMG, I just cannot believe that he is so open and willing. I had mentioned to him before that I would not do this without a guarantee...and I won't. Too much heartache. So that leaves either adoption or HT. I am open to both. Of course, as I mentioned before, I don't know how in the world I'm going to handle 4 boys, so having a 5th child is beyond my realm of comprehension! But anyway, I married an amazing man, is all I can say. He even said that he thinks we should keep the pink bedding! I am trying to wrap my head around it all.

Ok. Enough talking about myself. At least now I know. And I am so happy that he's healthy. I am crossing my fingers for all of you who don't know yet that you are blessed with your beautiful little girls! Can't wait to hear all the upcoming news!

Rainbow, you have an awesome DH! I'm sorry you didn't hear girl, but I hope you feel better about ds4 soon. And who knows, maybe you can do semi-high tech if DH says money isn't an issue? If my current pregnancy isn't a girl, we will probably try to do Microsort (only available in Mexico, but not nearly as expensive as IVF) for #3. Would that be a possibility for you?
Anyway, I hope you can stay excited about this bubs regardless... When you have him in your arms, maybe you'll truly feel how much he was meant to be.

[Niva]

Ladies it is a girl!

i am absolutely over the moon. Will post pics when I can. The tech seemed sure but I will have to watch the DVD a million times to be sure. I saw nothing that looked even vaguely like male or female parts but i am sure she wouldn't just make it up for fun.

Whoo hooo! I'm so thrilled for you, Emily! I can't even imagine how happy you are feeling! I had a strong sense you had a girl in there... Yay!!! Congrats!

[Niva]

AFM, I have a doctor appt tomorrow and I might end up there today rather than tomorrow.... I've been spotting since last night called Dr this morning and she's worried as can be that my placenta might be detaching, which was the main concern after my terrible car accident. She said if it goes from sporting to bleeding to go straight to the ER. Spotting could be harmless, bleding is not. Baby is still active though which she says is a very reassuring sign. She also said that god forbid if my placenta is detaching, the survival rate of babies at this gestation is pretty good, especially because we have bone of the best NICU's in the country here at Sharp Mary Birch hospital. I am beyond worried of course... must one more thing to bring me sleepless nights

Sorry for the lack of personals... I am self consumed clearly

Charlee, I'm holding my breath for your update. I think there's a good chance your placenta is okay if the spotting is slight, or at all brownish (indicating old blood). It's also good to hear your OB is so optimistic about survival at your gestation if the worst was happening. Let us know as soon as you can!