Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[myrainbowgirl]

Charlee - Well, all in all, that's good news! Will pray those contractions stay away, and little man stays put for a long time...keep us posted on the ultrasound!

2LB - Just went over there today, and almost done reading all 17 pages! Will post soon. And thanks for inviting me! Was planning on crashing it sometime soon anyway.

Dream - YAY for viability! So relieving, huh? Oh, and good luck with the move! OMG, I can't imagine that while pg...good for you, though, I am sure you are thrilled!

Niva - I looked at Microsort a little more, and it looks like total expenses now are around $5,000, but that is in large part due to the travel involved. The savings would be awesome, and their success rate for girls is 92%! That is such great odds! Doing that along with a light sway would really give an amazing chance at a DD! When I read all the protocol for PGD/IVF, I was just like, oh nooooo, SO don't want to go through that! Although, I could do it locally, and that could make a big difference for DH. In time we will discuss ALL our options, including adoption, or just being happy with our 4 boys. So nice to know another one is an option, though.

AFM - Told my parents tonight. They were amazingly supportive and wonderful. I thought I might be able to get through without crying, but um, noooo...that didn't happen. I told them the whole story, rainbows and all. They were 100% on board with my DH's comments! And when I told them how easily this baby was conceived (in spite of my pink sway AND in spite of my age AND in spite of my history), they were both amazed, and said this little guy must be special and so meant to be! Said they're looking forward to watching it all unfold. I gotta say, right now I'm feeling tons better. I think deep down I was worried about their reaction, to a fourth, to another boy. Obviously, I shouldn't have been. So grateful for them.

[meeks32]

Okay back from the doctor.... she did an internal exam and found out I'm dialiated to 2 cm already, which is where the blood and mucous is most likely coming from. Since I'm already starting to dialiate, I'm now on partial bed rest. She would like for me to be on full bed rest but knows that I won't be able to do it, nor would I if I could! LOL.... stubborn as always!

Anyway, she scheduled an extensive in depth u/s at the hospital for me just to make sure baby is okay and placenta is fully attached. I should find out by tomorrow when the appt is. The needed a day to process the paperwork from my doctor before they would schedule me.

So all in all, it's better news than it could have been. Being at 2 cm this early is not a wonderful thing, but it's much better news than I could have had. I'm not contracting either so premature labor doesn't seem to be a concern. I'll know more after my u/s....

I really love that I have you ladies to talk to No one else IRL seems to fully understand the ups and downs of the joys of pregnancy LOL...

P.S. I left my doctor appt (after being told to be on partial bed rest, and took my boys to the beach... I am terrible!) haha

Hon I'm glad everything is ok, and I dont want to scare you, but you need to listen when the doctor says bedrest. That is EXACTLY what happened to my stepmum with my half brother and he was born at 24 weeks (a week after they found she was 2cm dilated). She ignored the bedrest because she had no family nearby to help, and had a 4 year old already, but even to this day she regrets not resting more. I know you work, study, and have young boys, but do try to stay away from the beach and get any help you can. Even 4 more weeks of pregnancy is better than now in terms of risks.

That being said plenty of women can be 1-2cm dilated for many many weeks. They can do a stitch to keep it from going further, but that requires full bedrest. My cousin had to have that but it only saw her through to 32 weeks when she began contracting, they gave her the injection to stop them but from memory that only brought one day. She said bedrest was hell, they made her do it in hospital too, which was worse, but in the end all for a good cause and everything was completely fine.

Just don't be stubborn about this, from one stubborn woman to another, that is, haha!!

[Emily]

Myrainbowgirl glad you are feeling better. It is weird how we place so much impoertance on what others think and i am glad that your family pleasantly surprised you.

Charlee please try to rest as much as you can. If resting in bed is out of thequestion then rest like you are in a bed wherever you are. If you go to the beach prop your head up and lay down so you can see your boys play. Let them watch more TV than normal so you can rest. Too much TV and a few take outs / easy dinners will not harm them! Seriously, listen to the doctor. OK nag session over Really glad that things look like they are getting better than worse.

AFM i have decided to stay here for the birth as i just cannt leave Dh and DS1 for 12 weeks. Unfortunately i have been hearing such horror stories (power cuts, badly trained staff, mouldy walls etc ) that I know it is going ti be pretty horrific. My plan is to stay at home for as long as I can and then get out of the hospital the minute they cut the cord. DH gets good paternity leave and I will look into getting house calls from a doc if I need to.

[meeks32]

AFM i have decided to stay here for the birth as i just cannt leave Dh and DS1 for 12 weeks. Unfortunately i have been hearing such horror stories (power cuts, badly trained staff, mouldy walls etc ) that I know it is going ti be pretty horrific. My plan is to stay at home for as long as I can and then get out of the hospital the minute they cut the cord. DH gets good paternity leave and I will look into getting house calls from a doc if I need to.

That sounds sensible. Is there more than one hospital? Any private clinics? I agree with your plan for sure I could never leave the boys for 12 weeks. Were your previous births relatively uncomplicated?

As a side note, would your insurance pay to send you to another nearby better country for the birth? That way you wouldn't have to go for long maybe? Even Thailand may have better international hospitals...??

[2lovelyboys]

Rainbow girl, glad to hear you are feeling better!

Charlee, at least the bleeding has slowed down and they now know why it is occurring! I do agree with the other ladies, I know bed rest must seem like an impossible task at the moment but where possible try to spend as much time off your feet, will be worth it in the long run! Hope all goes well with the u/s!

Emily, 12 weeks away from the boys is an awfully long time! Hope you mange to find somewhere you feel comfortable to have your little lady!

[Mathilde]

Charlee: stay on your back whenever possible!
Emily: I totally agree with your choice, and would do exactly the same, gave birth to no two in a shitty hospital, but midwives were super
Rainbow: glad to hear you're feeling better, I'm in denial, being kind of numb.. Think I'm pushing my two friends away with my cold talk of this little one..
Went to mw today with DH, told her of my GD and she has recommended me going to a councillor..will see if I do, hb is 150 and my tummy is below average, but in the norm.
Mathilde

[Emily]

That sounds sensible. Is there more than one hospital? Any private clinics? I agree with your plan for sure I could never leave the boys for 12 weeks. Were your previous births relatively uncomplicated?

As a side note, would your insurance pay to send you to another nearby better country for the birth? That way you wouldn't have to go for long maybe? Even Thailand may have better international hospitals...??

I am only looking at private hospitals - my vietnamese is non- existent at the moment and we have great insurance. There are 3 main expat hospitals - one very old and the other two under a year old. I will start visiting them soon but want to get our stuff delivered and then think about January.

Thailand is a definite possibility if I hate the hospitals but would still have to be away a fair while. Not sure if the lady we are hiring t help out has a passport either.

Mathilde get the counselling it will do you the world of good to be listened to without feeling you have to self censor or apologise. I was lucky enough to have a very honest Aussie mate who said "I am bloody p***ed off that I am having a boy are you? I feel like a total bitch too!" when we both found out that we were both having boys. It was such a relief to be able to be honest with someone and even laugh about it - she kept on going on about how she couldn't face being weed on every nappy change etc etc. If you were feeling depressed about anything else you probably wouldn't worry about going.

[Charlee]

Charlee: stay on your back whenever possible!
Emily: I totally agree with your choice, and would do exactly the same, gave birth to no two in a shitty hospital, but midwives were super
Rainbow: glad to hear you're feeling better, I'm in denial, being kind of numb.. Think I'm pushing my two friends away with my cold talk of this little one..
Went to mw today with DH, told her of my GD and she has recommended me going to a councillor..will see if I do, hb is 150 and my tummy is below average, but in the norm.
Mathilde

Mathilde- I'm a counselor IRL and let me tell you how much of a difference it can make for your peace of mind! I'm a drug and alcohol counselor so I deal with different issues than this, but grief and anxiety are all the same no matter where they come from. Talking things out with someone who will not judge you, and even offer coping mechanisms will really help... I PROMISE IT WILL. If you have a friend IRL who can do the same for you then that would be a good alternative too... but we counselors are trained to do exactly that, help people through their darkest times. Trust me, there are ways to cope. I spent entirely too much money and time in University to learn this stuff... hahaha

In the meantime, this forum and the wonderful ladies here can be an amazing help too. I know they have carried me through my darkest GD days, and my days continue to get brighter (aside from the nonsense that's going on now with baby LOL)

BIG to you

[Charlee]

AFM, I know you are right Meeks and Emily.... I should listen to the doctor and rest and BLAH BLAH BLAH.... hahaha! I'm making light of a serious situation and maybe I shouldn't. But here's the thing, I walked around at 3 cm for the last month of my pregnancy with DS2 and I still didn't go into labor until I was induced at 38 weeks. So I guess I'm feeling a little like this is what my body does.... a weak cervix maybe? I don't know... I am going to take it easy though, I promise. I am one of those people who is constantly on the go, so staying put is really hard. But I will do for this little guy, because despite the GD, I am so in love and only want the best for him always

Thanks for the lecture... I needed it apparently. HAHA

[I Love Ladybugs]

AFM, I know you are right Meeks and Emily.... I should listen to the doctor and rest and BLAH BLAH BLAH.... hahaha! I'm making light of a serious situation and maybe I shouldn't. But here's the thing, I walked around at 3 cm for the last month of my pregnancy with DS2 and I still didn't go into labor until I was induced at 38 weeks. So I guess I'm feeling a little like this is what my body does.... a weak cervix maybe? I don't know... I am going to take it easy though, I promise. I am one of those people who is constantly on the go, so staying put is really hard. But I will do for this little guy, because despite the GD, I am so in love and only want the best for him always

Thanks for the lecture... I needed it apparently. HAHA

We want to be welcoming your new man in December, so relax at the beach, chill out at home....and continue be the awesome momma we know you are!!!