Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[thehappypixi]

Could you get some sort of belly band or wrap arou d your belly to take a bit of the pressure off your cervix if/when you have to move about? I don't know if that sounds silly it it might be worth a go!

I got my scan date through, next Wednesday, half an hour before I planned to take the kids and my mum to the circus! Bum...

[Charlee]

Pixi - A belly band is a great idea actually! I don't know if it will really do what it needs to, but it sure will take the pressure off my poor abdomen. I'm getting bigger by the minute. Although, having said that, when she weighted me at the office I have lost 4 lbs since last month, not gained 4 lbs like I should be at this point in my pregnancy. But baby is measuring perfectly for dates so I guess the weight loss is just him taking what he needs from me since I'm not eating like I should be....

[Charlee]

myrainbowgirl - I'm so glad your parents were supportive! I know how scary it is to tell people because you dread the pity you are so afraid you will face.

So tell me more about Microsort? Isn't that only in Mexico? Or am I thinking about something else? 92% success rate and $5000? I can totally swing that! I'm going to research that right now!

[myrainbowgirl]

Charlee - Rest up!! I know it's hard. I was on bed rest with DS3 the last month or so, due to low fluid. Thing is, I felt great, so I didn't feel like I needed to slow down...but I tried, and it ended up helping my fluid levels. Anyway, you can do it!

Emily - Boo on the Vietnamese hospitals...but yay you get to stay with your family! I like Meeks' suggestion...maybe a neighboring country??

Happypixi - Yay for your scan! Do you even want to nub guess? Hope so...would love to take a look!

Mathilde - Yes, counselor sounds like a great idea. I may do the same, if I am having a tough time coming out of my funk, but so far, I feel like I'm making decent progress.

AFM - Looked a little more at Microsort...turns out, overall pg rates are only 12-15%, and not particularly recommended for someone who will be my age when I try again. Ugh. Don't think DH will be up for $5000 with only those odds (and I don't think I am either!) But, IVF/PGD is seriously daunting, with all the protocol, and no guarantee of a baby at the end, or how many cycles (and more $) it would take to get there. We *could* do the money, but really we don't have it just set aside for a rainy day, ya know?? While DH is willing, I am beginning to wonder if I am. At least with adoption, there's a guarantee of a baby in the end. BUT, it can actually end up being the most expensive option out there! Sooo...really beginning to ponder another sway. It is obviously SUPER risky, but I may hang around here just to see how the stats play out...and may just roll the dice again. Oh, but I just don't know if I can go through this heartbreak again. The one thing I would ABSOLUTELY change would be intense exercise. Didn't think I could do it, because I was too thin already, but obviously, I o'd just fine at a low BMI and got pg the first time. So, we'll see. An oops pg would also be a decent option, since there would be no obsessing. And of course, my final option is to accept being an all-boy mom and just choose to be happy with my 4 little blessings!

[thehappypixi]

I don't know whether to look or not!! I'm not sure I'm ready to give up my fantasy that there's a girl in there... ;D

[meeks32]

Charlee, re yesterdays conversation, we know you are an amazing mumma and you cant put life on hold entirely I totally get it. Didnt mean to lecture, but I care SO much about you and your healthy bub. Just wanted to make sure that stubbornness that allows you to move mountains and be amazing wasn't going to stop you from taking it easy if you need to.

I like what someone else said about being horizontal when you can, wherever you are. Sit if you can, dont do that extra one (or 10) things before bed, etc etc. I am also exactly the same as you and tend to do way more than the average person, and way more than I need to, then burn myself out and can't understand why I'm sick, or have a sore back etc. So I totally get it, trust me. I'm basically giving you the advice I'd want someone to give me in your position!!!! hehe. Fob off lots of extra things to DH, you have a great excuse and this may be the only time you can legitimately use it!!

So the bleeding has stopped now? When is that next appointment for the scan? Glad you are having movements and have such a great doc.

[meeks32]

To those considering Microsort, I dont know where it is now but I read a thing by that doctor in the US that does gender selection IVF and answers lots of peoples questions on this site, where he pointed out the issues with it. Apparently its potentially totally bogus. Similar to how the whole Shettles method is a bust because he was looking at capacitated and incapacitated sperm under the microscope and thinking they were XX and YX sperm, then making assumptions that one was heavier or slower or faster or stronger. This was 18 months ago I looked into it but the accusation was, how can it work if all sperm are equal weights, and in fact there was some worry about the lack of studies to prove its safety. The potential for birth defects, and low pregnancy rates were a concern.

Just do lots of research before forking out that money. Apparently gender selection in Thailand is a similar price. But again, reliability, potentially questionable.

[2lovelyboys]

Hi ladies, how is everyone? All looking forward to the weekend?

Pixi, I don't think you will be able to help yourself, I think you will be zooming straight in hee hee what time is your scan on Wednesday?

Charles, glad to hear things are improving, still a worry though. Like Meeks said I wold totally make the most of this situation, delegate all your jobs to DH and enjoy sitting with your feet up! How is little man? Still moving a lot?

Mathilde, time and talking things through are the best healers, being able to vent, shout and swear if necessary hopefully will help you find some rhyme or reason in this crazy time!

Ladybugs, how are you feeling? How is your little lady?

[thehappypixi]

2.30 I know I'm think I've looked at so many nubs over the years I'm bound to look, but Im not ready to know!

[Niva]

To those considering Microsort, I dont know where it is now but I read a thing by that doctor in the US that does gender selection IVF and answers lots of peoples questions on this site, where he pointed out the issues with it. Apparently its potentially totally bogus. Similar to how the whole Shettles method is a bust because he was looking at capacitated and incapacitated sperm under the microscope and thinking they were XX and YX sperm, then making assumptions that one was heavier or slower or faster or stronger. This was 18 months ago I looked into it but the accusation was, how can it work if all sperm are equal weights, and in fact there was some worry about the lack of studies to prove its safety. The potential for birth defects, and low pregnancy rates were a concern.

Just do lots of research before forking out that money. Apparently gender selection in Thailand is a similar price. But again, reliability, potentially questionable.

Meeks, I think you might be thinking of sperm spinning... That does rely on sperm weight to separate them in a centrifuge, and I've read too that it is probably bogus. But the Microsort is different -- it labels the Y sperm with fluorescence and then sorts them in a special machine. The reason they stopped pursuing FDA approval was monetary, I read... The clinical trials did give very good and consistently high gender ratio results! Pregnancy rates, on the other hand, may be a worry... Haven't researched that at all.