Ladies due in Sept/Oct/Nov 2012, gather here!

[Hobbermittens]

I hope you can make her dreams come true, PP!

[Mochagirl]

Yes, I suppose DH is a bit spoiled, but I think I made it out to be worse than it is. He works...HARD. The thing about being a professor is there's no such thing as 9-5 - you pretty much feel the pressure to work around the clock. He's published two very well received academic books already and he's only 37, which is young in the academic world. He also already has tenure, and he's very young for that - he's just worked his ass off to get ahead.

I'd say 80% of the time he's in his room he's working, and if he's not working it usually means it's evening and the kids are asleep anyway. In a sense I'm glad he has his own space because we are COMPLETE opposites in what we watch on tv, so this way I have total control over the tv in the living room I also prefer my personal space - I'm a bit of a loner and really enjoy spending time on my own.

One thing I won't excuse him for is his lack of attention to the kids. He likes to be the fun dad and play with the kids, but whenever things get tough (a fight to break up or something like that) he disappears into his room (to do work). I probably do about 90% of the kid-related stuff, and 100% of the not fun stuff. He does read them books, play games with them, etc., but I'm the one who bathes them, changes diapers, brushes teeth, gets them ready for bed, get them packed for school and so on and so forth. I also do all the cooking and all the housework - not sure how that happened since I was raised by a feminist mother....

[Hobbermittens]

I probably do about 90% of the kid-related stuff, and 100% of the not fun stuff. He does read them books, play games with them, etc., but I'm the one who bathes them, changes diapers, brushes teeth, gets them ready for bed, get them packed for school and so on and so forth. I also do all the cooking and all the housework

Me too. My DH helps at bedtime when I am home, and since I started a very part time job in the evenings a few nights a week, he is supposed to get them in bed before I get back--but somehow it never happens. I get home around 8:30, and they are always up watching TV ( something grown-up, not really kid stuff). I find it really annoying!

He only changes diapers if I am not home, and complains a ton if he has to change a poopy one. He also never gets up at night if anyone has a bad dream, pukes, etc.

He does cook some of the time, which is awesome, but he has never vacuumed or swept in the entire time we have been together. And the only laundry he has ever done is his own (and the times that has happened, I can count on one hand).

[begonia]

Auroara!!! I'm glad you don't seem too tortured at this point and hope you're able to keep your cool tomorrow morning as well

Wow Mocha your DH did get tenure early! That's fantastic. My DH is in the less-than-helpful category but I really don't mind a bit; it works for us. He works a ton during the week (and will often go to the office on weekends) so he is here to say good morning and goodnight and that's about it ... when the girls are older we'll probably have dinner together but for now I've got them bathed and in bed by 7:30 at the latest, and he's usually home 7:30 or 8. That said I'd still say he's a great dad. For example he was at the office all day on Sunday, so took off Monday afternoon in time to surprise the big girls after school with a trip to the zoo. And if I ask him to do something around the house he does it. But he's usually not here for me to ask Like you Mocha, I'm kind of a loner and don't mind being on my own. He's out of town tonight so the TV is mine, LOL!

Hobbs that would tick me off about the TV watching at 8:30 when they're supposed to be in bed!

[auroara78]

I was better off at work today...now at home it's really hitting me.....but no matter how much I try, I cannot just hear the words "it's a boy"....I cannot....I keep hearing "it's a girl" in my head and nothing I try to tell myself is changing my mind on this....grrrr...I am more worried not about raising another boy, but more of trying to adjust my mind frame if it is a boy, KWIM? I cannot shake this from my mind, hehe.

[Mochagirl]

Yep, begonia - he was 35 when he got tenure - the youngest in his department!

I love it when I have the house to myself! When dh is out if town, I put the kids to bed, order in some food for myself, then curl up on the sofa to watch a girly movie. Love it!

[Mochagirl]

Best of luck tomorrow, auroara! I really feel from the bottom of my heart that you'll hear girl!

[Hobbermittens]

Good luck tomorrow Auroara!! I hope you hear girl!! Please take all my pink dust!!

[rainbowflower]

Just a quick one to say good luck for today Aurora!

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[Butterfly Spirit]

I was better off at work today...now at home it's really hitting me.....but no matter how much I try, I cannot just hear the words "it's a boy"....I cannot....I keep hearing "it's a girl" in my head and nothing I try to tell myself is changing my mind on this....grrrr...I am more worried not about raising another boy, but more of trying to adjust my mind frame if it is a boy, KWIM? I cannot shake this from my mind, hehe.

I too hope it's a GIRL Aurora sweetie! Please come tell us pronto!!!