Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[meeks32]

I am sure there is no mistake but how lovely to get all those paranoia squashing scans!

Its because in Australia if you have private health insurance, your care is provided by an obstetrician, not a midwife, and the private obstetricians have ultrasound machines in their offices. So I have monthly appointments and see bubs each time. The anatomy scan happens at 18-20 weeks and is done at a proper ultrasound clinic because its in far more detail, everyone has that. The NT scan i had to pay a lot for, including bloodwork it was almost $400, which is ridiculous since I believe it should be covered at least partially by our government like the anatomy scan, because the cost to the economy of a child with the disorders they are scanning for is far far greater than the cost of providing the scan, and although many people would continue the pregnancy, it at least gives families a choice.

But anyway, that's why all the scans!!

[meeks32]

pixi, no nub in those shots, but glad you feel there is hope, that's going to keep you going and in a great mood until you have either a gender scan or the anatomy scan! Yay! Gorgeous bub!!

[Charlee]

Ugh yes Meeks... I was exactly 32 weeks... they made me labor through a delivery. It took 5 days to deliver him and I got to hold him when he was born. Perfect little boy just small... 4 lbs 1 oz. They were never able to give me an answer as to why it happened. I think that was the hardest part ... after losing my DD last year to a blood clot they think that is probably the reason we lost him too...

This little one is a fighter though! And I have learned it's better to come home with a baby boy than no baby at all.

[Charlee]

In much brighter news, I just had an u/s and baby looks great! Measuring good for dates and none the worse for the wear after my car wreck... whew! I can't begin to say how relieved I am... I will know more after I talk to my doctor in a couple days though. The techs dont always give you the full scoop.

[Charlee]

Here is little man's face! So cool

[meeks32]

Ugh yes Meeks... I was exactly 32 weeks... they made me labor through a delivery. It took 5 days to deliver him and I got to hold him when he was born. Perfect little boy just small... 4 lbs 1 oz. They were never able to give me an answer as to why it happened. I think that was the hardest part ... after losing my DD last year to a blood clot they think that is probably the reason we lost him too...

This little one is a fighter though! And I have learned it's better to come home with a baby boy than no baby at all.

Absolutely right you are, that must have been so heartbreaking both times. How far along were you with your DD? Both circumstances are horrific, but not knowing why would be really difficult to get over, especially when pregnant the next time. I think knowing why is closure to some extent. But I imagine you never fully heal from those losses, just find a way to get on with life and live through them to honour the family you have left. I truly felt my chemicals were nowhere near the trauma of loosing a baby later, and despite it being difficult, I couldn't help but feel I would rather loose one in the first few weeks than later on, when you have names picked, seen baby on ultrasound, told everyone, bonded, and then to have to labour is just plain unfair. Its heartbreaking and I wish it never happened to anyone. My friend lost his at 25 weeks, born alive then passed within hours, when I was pg with ds2. I cried for days and it was just a work colleague from years ago, but it really hit home for me because I could imagine myself in their shoes. It was heartbreaking. They had a DD, and lost their son, then had another DD after. I feel that was particularly unfair of life to throw at them.

[myrainbowgirl]

Charlee - You are a strong woman!! I just can't even wrap my head around the late losses you've gone through. Ladybugs is right...your positivity in all you've gone through is so inspiring! So, thank you. And such a handsome little guy!

Ladybugs - I tried to find what you were talking about, and I'm wondering if the ebay that I'm looking at in the USA is a different version in Canada? I looked up babylegs, but didn't have the option to sort for the cheapest with shipping...and none of the pics I saw were numbered! But what I saw was adorable, and I'm sure I could find some super cute ones that he could wear!

Pixi - Super cute baby!! Yeah, couldn't see a defined nub, but yes, completely agree with Charlee that could easily be a little girl in there! FX for you!!

Bunnywabbit - Hugs going out to you!!

AFM - Think I've been feeling a little movement the last couple days. YAY!! I was told at my 11-wk scan that placenta was "right in front"...so I'm assuming she meant anterior. Had the same thing with DS2, and barely felt movement till 18 weeks...so hoping maybe this time placenta is slightly off dead in the front so that I can feel things sooner. Hoping what I've felt the last day or two is the real thing!

[Charlee]

[QUOTE=meeks32;460359]Absolutely right you are, that must have been so heartbreaking both times. How far along were you with your DD?QUOTE]

I was almost 14 weeks with DD... that one was still hard but NOTHING like my DS. I had a D&C that time so I didn't have to go through labor. I didn't know she was a girl until genetic testing came back... then it stung ten times worse. I wish I hadn't found out... honestly.

[2lovelyboys]

Charlee, like the others have said you are inspiring, you have been down a hard horrible road that no one should have to travel! I'm glad your scan went well and DS3 is looking good, always a relief to hear and s great excuse to see him again! Great picture of his face, he looks adorable!

Rainbow girl, bet it is LO that you are feeling esp if you ave felt it a few times now, makes it seem so real when you feel them moving and kicking, love it

Bunnywabbit, hope you are well

Ladybugs, how are you and your little lady? How you feeling? X

[Emily]

I agree that a loss is awful at any stage but even harder as each day passes. my friend lost her baby at 39 weeks. It was just so horrendous and then she had people phoning and asking if the baby had been born yet. Nobody should have to go through that. Before I started TTC at 32 I had no idea that chemicals and miscarriages happened to so many if us.

On a much brighter note - cute pics ladies! Charlee is it me or is your little man actualy smiling?! Pixi your baby is even waving in the first pic - such sociable babies!

AFM all our shipping arrived yesterday (yippee) but DH had to work all day so i was running up and downstairs like a mad thing trying to get it all done properly. I am now in stupidly bad pain one side of my pelvis evrytime i take a step. Pretty sure i is just PSD rather than anything more serious but OW! I had it with DS2 but nit till 32 weeks or something. The doc then said limit how much I go up stairs and never do anything on one leg or hold a child on one hip. Now that we live on a 4 storey house with a clingy 2 year old that might be a bit tricky. I will try to avoid carrying him upstairs whilst on one leg though!

Meeks I have a doc app next week and he has a scan in his office which he just uses to listen to the heart but i might see if i can sweet talk him