Any July/August/Sept 2014 Swayers?

[Charli33]

Hi Ladies! I hope you don't mind me jumping in on your thread! my husband and I will be TTC pink in June So Excited! Just curious because I am unclear...Do we make our attempt the day of a +OPK, or right before? I have been charting my cycles for 3 months now, so I think I can pinpoint when I ovulate. Also, are any of you gals taking cranberry supplements?

[Boysway]

missxo143, I had my Mirena removed January 21st this year. If you click my ticker at the bottom of my signature you can see my Fertility Friend charts. Go down to January 25th. It is named 1st Full cycle off Mirena. I did have a long first cycle but, the first bleeding I had may have been break through, it's hard to know though. I have had two Mirena's. My first one was placed 14th of February 2012. The Mirena was discovered missing and later found (not even in my uterus). I required surgery to remove it (laproscopy and D&C). I had another put in it's place. I'm not sure if this helps you.

[Boysway]

Hi ladies. I thought I might introduce myself since I have posted in here a couple of times over the past few days. I will also need to be joining this group.

I am Mum to four girls including my SIDS angel watching over us. Miss 13, Miss almost 9 and Miss 4. Desperately hoping for a blue bundle as this will be our last bub.

Mirena was removed 21st of January and our 1st attempt was April, without success.This cycle I didn't get a +OPK til CD 21 so ovulation was likely 1st of June (yesterday for me).

Due to circumstances out of my control we weren't able to attempt this month. So, ovulation won't happen again till early July. I have meds ordered to hopefully help. By they time they arrive and hopefully kick in, we will have missed July's ovulation. I have left a message for atomic. It's likely I will sit out July's attempt and attempt in August.

So, once again hello. If you were able to get through that post, thank you, lol.

[Kelissi]

Please forgive me for being so blunt (it's kind of a personality trait of mine). But why would you WANT to have another child with such an individual? I know I don't know the backstory and maybe there is a big aspect I am missing or not seeing. But given your description of him above, I can't see why you would want to stick around. I'm not a huge advocate for divorce, not without counseling and attempts at rectifying what might be changed. But if he is a selfish, unpleasant person to be around and be married to, I certainly wouldn't be settling into a life of that for myself and my children. I don't really think its fair to bring another child into an unstable union. Not fair for anyone involved, but the kids will be the ones to ultimately suffer, since kids are much more intuative than we tend to give them credit for (and know that something is not kosher with Mom and Dad). I'm not saying its not something you might be able to work through. However, now does not seem like the time to make purposeful attempts at another child, when he can't even discuss getting pregnant and makes you want to forgo fun activities to remove yourself from him. I don't mean any of that rude or snarky or anything, I have no judgements on you or your choices. I just know that generally speaking its not a good idea to rush into something like this on a rocky marriage. Babies, despite their wonderful charms, tend to make rocky marriages even rockier, despite many believing otherwise. I really am sorry you are dealing with this though. My very good friend is in a similar relationship and its so hard to see her suffer and not be able to make her happy. You deserve a lot better, this I know. No one should have to settle for someone who doesn't consider the feelings of others.

Trust me, wondering why I would *want* to have another child with him is a big, big, BIG part of my brain and life right now.

I'm sure a lot of it is that I got very severe pre-e with my first child, but not with my second, so if we did split and I had another baby with a different father, chances are really really good that I'd get pre-e again. I actually almost died (BP 210/190, two week stay in the ICU for me, DS born at 2 pounds and 67 day NICU stay). So, obviously, I wouldn't want to have another child with someone else, because I'm not about to risk that again - I'm not exaggerating when I say that I very nearly died. And, to give the Reader's Digest version of my consultation with my maternal-fetal medicine specialist, since my second pregnancy was uncomplicated, it's unlikely that I would develop pre-e again in a future pregnancy with my husband, but extremely likely that I would develop it if I had a baby with someone else.

I'm an only child and I've always wanted my children to have siblings. In addition, I've always wanted a daughter, or, well, I wouldn't be here.

I'm hoping counseling will help and that we'll get through this. Most of me is feeling more like I want out of this relationship than wanting another child. There's no way that I'd bring a child into a position where s/he'd be resented. This also isn't rushing in - it's been a toxic issue for a long while that he's chosen not to deal with. Believe me, it's not a, "Oh, my marriage is rocky, aren't babies cute? Let's have a baby and then we won't have issues anymore!"

In addition, he turned 49 a couple of days ago. I'm 27, so I have plenty of time, but the clock's really ticking for him. We chose to have kids quickly (when I was 21!) because he was so much older than me and wanted a family - now he's jumping ship. In addition, I thought I was marrying someone a lot more giving. But - anyway - we're in counseling.

Some days are just harder than others to be optimistic that this is going to work out, and the day I wrote this was definitely one of those. I'm sorry if it was posted in the wrong forum - and I am trying really, really, really hard to not take offense, because it's so easy to misinterpret someone's words on the Internet - but I am already so completely down and a lot of your response was, honestly, pretty hard to read, in a way that hurt more than felt helpful, especially the part about how it would be unfair to my future child to bring them into my family. I'm not trying to cause drama or be all knicker-twisty about it, because I'm sure it was well meant and you were trying to help, but I'm in a complicated situation, and now I feel pretty uncomfortable posting about it here, which is hard, because I feel uncomfortable talking about it in most other situations, too.

[Kelissi]

Hi Ladies! I hope you don't mind me jumping in on your thread! my husband and I will be TTC pink in June So Excited! Just curious because I am unclear...Do we make our attempt the day of a +OPK, or right before? I have been charting my cycles for 3 months now, so I think I can pinpoint when I ovulate. Also, are any of you gals taking cranberry supplements?

I think day of +OPK - that you should try within 8 hours. I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure!

[hotdogz&boyz]

Some days are just harder than others to be optimistic that this is going to work out, and the day I wrote this was definitely one of those. I'm sorry if it was posted in the wrong forum - and I am trying really, really, really hard to not take offense, because it's so easy to misinterpret someone's words on the Internet - but I am already so completely down and a lot of your response was, honestly, pretty hard to read, in a way that hurt more than felt helpful, especially the part about how it would be unfair to my future child to bring them into my family. I'm not trying to cause drama or be all knicker-twisty about it, because I'm sure it was well meant and you were trying to help, but I'm in a complicated situation, and now I feel pretty uncomfortable posting about it here, which is hard, because I feel uncomfortable talking about it in most other situations, too.

I do apologize for my response hurting you and making you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you and I are in different places in life and it was not appropriate of me to assume you could handle my degree of pointedness on the issue. I'm sure you have a wonderful counselor who can help you through some of the rocky terrain that comes with marriage problems. There is a reason I'm not a marriage counselor and work with a different population, so I probably should have kept my mouth shut. I wish you the best and genuinely hope you can find peace with whatever decisions you are faced with.

[Junie]

Hi and Welcome MyByC I'm planning on TTC in July although it might end up being August depending on DH. I've already started doing the diet and exercise but I tend to be pretty relaxed about it on the weekends. My mom is also coming to visit and I won't worry as much about it while she is here since I only get to see her a few times a year and I want to just enjoy her visit.

[Junie]

Charli33 - Hi and Welcome!!! But just so you know there is also a TTC thread for June.
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...-ttc-june.html

Which might be a bit more fun for you as I think many of us -but not all- won't actually be TTC this month

[MyByC]

OH, thats great.
I'm still waiting for my personalised plan from atomic.
When you started your sway?
And what have you choosed exactlly?
I still need to read so many posts and opinions in here.

[Junie]

Hi Boysway!! What a bummer about having to miss this month. Before I had my first son I had really long cycles (I ovulated the month I got my BFP on CD38 or something crazy like that). Long cycles can be really frustrating but we are happy to have you waiting here with us