TTC pink chat thread for November

[Out of the Blue]

Amari! Yes, do join us!

Hey, ladies. I actually wish I had more ewcm, then you have more to manipulate. I never really have any so I have no signs of O. Then again, I don't O or get my period which is why i am on provera now and about to take clomid! But i am jealous that you all can do the rephresh and all that stuff.
So, this is my first month if i ever do ovulate, those who have done this, when did you decide to dtd? how many times? did you do abstain or frequent release? did you use the first batch before your attempt or dump it? thanks for your experience! Good luck to all of you this month!!

Sorry Amari! You can take things to increase your CM if you want to. I think green tea helps and of course drinking more water can’t hurt. With Clomid, you’ll want to get preg as soon as possible so BD a lot would probably be in your best interest but I understand your hesitation as this is how your DS was conceived. We’re planning on BD now (AF just stopped) until I O (which could be a wk -2 wks as my cycle is still crazy do to the recent m/c). I just want to get preg w/a healthy bub and trust in the diet. Can you use Sylk if you are able to increase your CM or would that be bad w/your other meds? Sorry…I don’t know much about Clomid and Provera drug interactions, etc.

[Out of the Blue]

Hi ladies, sorry I have been awol for a while, been super busy at home... We started building our extension this week and the builders and supposed to be here for 4 months. On the plus side they are building me another bedroom for my DD if all goes to plan!!!

That’s really nice! Four mos is a long time but when it’s over, you’ll be really happy! I keep telling DH we need a bigger house w/a big playroom that the boys (and future girl) can go crazy in instead of everywhere else in the house. We can’t buy a new one until this house sells but the market is so low that we’re waiting until it picks up a bit…hope it’s sooner than later.

...decided to DTD yesterday, expecting to get a +OPK tomorrow but it came early and was + today so will probably by O tomorrow...Think we are going to DTD again tonight, then maybe tomorrow as well.

Sounds great! Best of luck!!!

Mocha and OOTB, I wish you both all the luck in the world for a BFP, you both deserve it and I hope you can both enjoy your pregnancies

Thank you so much!

[auroara78]

GL out of the blue on your attempt coming up!

Mocha, any more word about whether you figured out if you O'ed or not? I cannot imagine how frustrating that must be!!

I'm 5 dpo today and really doubting my sway

I feel kind of freaked out that we DTD in the MORNING of the day I o'ed...isn't morning supposed to sway boy big time? Ugh, I was losing weight in the process of O'ing, but it wasn't a ton of weight...but the numbers were dropping some....

I'm just freaked out I guess since my two boys were concieved on O days.....blah....I just feel like if I got preggo this cycle, I'll always be like "what if" I did this or that better...this is normal, right?

[Out of the Blue]

Here's a question - if my body made an attempt to O but didn't succeed, would my temperature still have gone up? I suppose it's possible I missed the surge with my OPKs, but I was taking them pretty frequently.

From what it sounds like you maybe O'd and missed your surge but also may be gearing up to O (a false start like you said above)...Not sure about the temp...I think it would have to do w/how long before your body makes another attempt??? Wish I had some answers for you. This is so frustrating, isn't it! You're doing everything in your power to get preg this time so keep it up and keep up the faith! From my end, I'll continue to send you pink O vibes, lol.

[Out of the Blue]

As my 1st attempt (hopefully) approaches I would really love some input. Sorry its so long...Here is what I am doing:

Started off on a girl diet about a month or so ago with cal/mag, cranberry, folic acid.

Switched to LE diet about 3 weeks ago. Just on baby aspirin, folic acid, and fiber now. DH on licorice root.

I will take my last pill tonight to get my period going, and once that starts (fingers crossed) I will start clomid on cycle days 5-9).

I don't test my ph but drink lots of cl, pep tea and rrl tea with equal. i will have to ease up on the aspartame around O because atomic says that i will be too dry due too the clomid. this means i also can't use the rephresh or aci-jelly or benadryl. (i actually am weaning off benadryl which i have been using as a sleep aid for months, down to a tiny sliver).

I am eating breakfast now but will stop around O time.

Sounds really good, Amari!!!

So, my plan and questions, i am confused as to whether to do frequent release or abstain? if we do fr we will start at af and go through to +opk, at +opk he will release one more time and then we will do an attempt and then the same thing the next day, one more release outside and the one more attempt? Do I have this right? if we abstain the we have an attempt at +opk.

Personally, abstaining kind of freaks me out b/c I don't want old sperm to fertilize my egg. Not sure if it's a big deal or not but I don't want to take that chance. If you go the FR method, as long as he's releasing (either in you or on his own) every day, you're in good shape. You may want to have him start FR by himself several days before he switches to FR inside you so that the sperm count is decreased when you start to TTC. I don't believe in timing but I do believe that lowering the sperm count sways girl. In my other post, I suggested Sylk but in rethinking it, don't use it if you are on Clomid.

My questions keeping in mind i will be on clomid:
1. Frequent release or abstain? I am concerned b/c ds1 was conceived after 18 days of sex but no other sway factors of course.
2. if fr, dump first batch before first attempt and dump batch before second attempt?
That's compressed FR. You can do that or just do like I said above. Others may have some imput on this as well...

3. Jump and dump? after each attempt?
It's up to you...If you're on Clomid, I wouldn't b/c you're already doing other things to lower sperm count and you want to get preg soon!

4. if abstain, do you dump batch before second attempt or do you only do one attempt?

5. Should we do 2 or 3 attempts? if we do fr?
The more attempts, the better when you're on Clomid!

Am i missing anything? Thanks, i know this is long, i am relatively new to all this and the clomid si throwing me off!

Hope this helps!

[Out of the Blue]

GL out of the blue on your attempt coming up!

Thanks!

I'm 5 dpo today and really doubting my sway

I feel kind of freaked out that we DTD in the MORNING of the day I o'ed...isn't morning supposed to sway boy big time? Ugh, I was losing weight in the process of O'ing, but it wasn't a ton of weight...but the numbers were dropping some....

I'm just freaked out I guess since my two boys were concieved on O days.....blah....I just feel like if I got preggo this cycle, I'll always be like "what if" I did this or that better...this is normal, right?

Auroara, I think you did a great job! I really, truely don't believe in timing...There are just too many opposites out there and I don't see enough data. Just my humble opinion. Just trust in the things that were in your favor...I'll bet there were several things you don't realize that were tipped to pink this time than last time. The scale was dropping and that is great! I feel for you b/c I know exactly what you're going through. Last time I concieved was when I was OFF the sway and taking a break. I was in a dark and doubting place for a bit but realized that I couldn't change anything and I new I was going to get the soul I was meant to get (even though they're angels now) and at least one of those kiddos was pink! Try to be kind to yourself and trust in the process. I know...waaaaay easier said than done!

[zanacal]

auroara - I think IG said DTD in the morning for a boy but I read a study which said sperm count was lower in the morning and that would sway pink. Either way, I shouldn't think it makes much of a difference at all!

amari - I agree with blue's comments. If I were on Clomid (but I was worried about DTD too many times) I would get DH to FR for 7-10 days without DTD then have a couple of attempts around O time (maybe O-1 and O or O-2 and O-1 if that worries you - though the first would be easier because you could DTD day of +OPK and again the next day). I wouldn't jump and dump with Clomid.

[Mochagirl]

Mocha and OOTB, I wish you both all the luck in the world for a BFP, you both deserve it and I hope you can both enjoy your pregnancies

xx

Awww...thanks, maybe! You and I can be 2WW (and hopefully due date) buddies!

[Mochagirl]

Your sway sounds great, amari! One thing that OoTB touched on is the potential dangers of abstaining. Some studies have shown that with men over 35, there MIGHT be an increase in birth defects if he abstains. If you're both under 35 I don't think you need to worry about that.

[Mochagirl]

Thanks for all your support as I try to figure out my wonky cycle, ladies! I haven't done my OPK yet, but I've been holding my pee all morning and have had nothing to drink, so hopefully it will be an accurate test. My cervix still feels SHOW with tons of watery cm (which of course could just be semen). I'll give you all an update after my OPK.