Does GD ever end?

[fun family]

I know it's not easy but I'm choosing the path of happiness and acceptance. I can't change the family I have, nor would I want to. If another baby comes along, it is to complement the children I have already, not the vital part I need. I want to truly savour each precious moment of my babies' lives. My oldest is almost 5 and I am aware of how fast the time has flown by. I just refuse to waste time obsessing over a dream that might not come true.

Love this! I'm thinking of giving HT a shot, but I'm well aware it might not work and at some point, I will have to move on. I also believe that happiness is a choice and I don't want to waste any time wishing for something I don't have and might never have, when that energy could be used for appreciating and enjoying that wonderful kids I do have. I have actually been reading blogs written by women who can't have biological kids. I know its totally NOT the same thing at all---I would much rather have all boys or all girls than be totally infertile, but the reason I read the blogs is that many of these women, after going through EXTREME stress and disappointment over never getting pregnant, find peace with it and move on and live happy lives. Many do not adopt because they don't have the money or the desire or their DH is against adoption. So they move on without ever becoming a mother even though its something they very desperately wanted. I figure if they can make peace with that and be happy without any kids, then I certainly can without having a daughter.

[pinga]

This is a great thread! I have 2 wonderful DSs and am about to have my third boy. We swayed hard for a DD... but those boy swimmers are just too fast!! I was pretty upset when I first found out... but I am at peace now and am looking forward to holding a yummy little newborn again. I know he will add such happiness to our already beautiful family.

I still have lots of longing for a daughter. I lost my mother at 24 and feel as though I've missed out on having any kind of mother-daughter relationship. I know that you might not have a close relationship with your daughter... but I wish it was an option. I know it will be very hard to let go of. I haven't 100% let go of the dream of a daughter.... but honestly I don't think I can do another pregnancy.

If I never have a daughter I think I will always feel wistful about it... but I am sure I will be just fine! I will have 3 lovely young men to give me hugs!

[ThroughWithBlue]

Love this! I'm thinking of giving HT a shot, but I'm well aware it might not work and at some point, I will have to move on. I also believe that happiness is a choice and I don't want to waste any time wishing for something I don't have and might never have, when that energy could be used for appreciating and enjoying that wonderful kids I do have. I have actually been reading blogs written by women who can't have biological kids. I know its totally NOT the same thing at all---I would much rather have all boys or all girls than be totally infertile, but the reason I read the blogs is that many of these women, after going through EXTREME stress and disappointment over never getting pregnant, find peace with it and move on and live happy lives. Many do not adopt because they don't have the money or the desire or their DH is against adoption. So they move on without ever becoming a mother even though its something they very desperately wanted. I figure if they can make peace with that and be happy without any kids, then I certainly can without having a daughter.

I have been doing the same thing! I've just been running across forum posts or blogs of women dealing with infertility and end up reading it and then feel like such a brat. That's a huge part of what made me post this question here. I really think God is trying to give me a sign to appreciate what I have. I've been dealing with fertility problems myself so I think I'm getting a major wake up call.

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

I have 3 daughters. I was trying to save for so long for 1 cycle of HT. I am 39 years old. I realized that we first still do not have enough with drugs now not being covered and secondly it is not worth it with such a low chance at my age.

Even if it did work then another child with more finances on one salary. My husband does okay but not to live a life I would be okay with with another one added.

I kept saying I would be ok with not a single activity and anything if I only had a boy.

Now I realized I want to try to focus on other things like putting my children in swimming lessons, finally getting them a bike, still pushing to loose these 10 pounds.

GD will never go away and there are definately good and bad days.

I realize I am not well off and my husbands salary cannot do 2 or more cycles of HT. Back when I was younger we had that type of credit to use but we always lived above our means so now credit is not an option.

I am trying to focus on the positives on good days.

HT is a great option but I think you have to be able to do at least 2 or more cycles and that can be hard for SAHMS on one salary.

One thing that is most important to me and not sure about you but do not let comments and people on the outside get the best of you.

Be prepared to have come backs. I feel I will go back at people now even if I thought I liked them if they say something incensitive about having 3 girls I will go back at them. Your poor husband "oh no he actually is very happy with 3 girls". You do realize that these type of comments are coming from these types of people and it is not only gender. These people will say dumb things about anything. "Oh you look like you put on a few pounds". Just as hurtful.

I am sorry for rambling.

[ThroughWithBlue]

NYFamily I completely agree! Those are the people that will always say something. I get the opposite of you, your husband can't give you a girl? Your husband only makes boys, huh? When are you trying for a girl? Alll the time. I came up with a really good comeback yesterday i'm going to use from now on.
I would never do HT, I'd feel to guilty for the $$$ and moral reasons. Well you have my dream family, 3 daughters! I'm very jealous of you! =)