if you had ONLY your DG, would you still sway the opposite?

[zanacal]

I honestly don't know. I always imagined I'd have girls (I grew up with just one sister) and was surprised to get my first boy! After that I didn't have a real preference - until it hit me some time after my third that I may never have a daughter. I adore my boys but I don't know if I'd 'get it' if I didn't have them. I know DH would have wanted a son but I don't know how strongly he would have felt about it. I would have tried for a boy if he wanted it enough but I just don't know that I'd have wanted it without knowing what I know now.

[Myloves]

No, I don't think I would. Of course that's not 100% guaranteed... but I highly doubt it. Before I had kids I never wanted even one son let alone two. I thought I was getting all daughters. I think I would have been done after two girls (I loved the idea of 3 girls, but dh would have probably said no more after two. We only had three kids now because I wanted a dd ). Though I reckon I would have been a very proud defensive mum of girls (as most in my area want sons and make stupid comments to people who have all girls).

This question's made me realise I'm quite grateful I didn't get what I wanted. I was scared to have boys. I had alot of issues with males that stemmed from my childhood; I thought I'd be the worst mother to a son, and that they'd end up like most of the males in my family (in other words, like assholes).
If I had I wanted straight up (all girls), I would have continued being ignorant about boys and I would've never realised that all the crazy things I thought were stereotypes. My boys have taught me heaps. They made me feel at peace with many issues that I would've continued to have had they not been born. Without them I wouldn't be the happy mum I am today.

[Princess of Pink]

Yep...I want to experience both genders!! I actually wanted a boy first...would of been happy to then have 5 girls!

[Waiting4Daisy]

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[Gentle]

I never thought about it until my first mc where the pregnancy was a complete shock having been told we couldn't conceive without help. I immediately and completely knew it was a girl and that loss was so devastating that I find it so hard to contemplate never having a living girl. That was a pretty specific experience and without it I'm pretty sure I would have strongly wanted a mix anyway - it was all brothers and me growing up so I feel comfy with boys but it felt pretty isolated being the only girl and I'd like to have someone to share with.

[pinkin2011]

I really wanted a Girl first and when I found out he was a boy I was upset but i did know deep down he was a boy before My 20 week scan.. Tho I am so glad i did get a boy first I am still desperate for a girl!! And I know if I did have a girl first I would of wanted a Boy next. And If I did have a girl now I wouldnt care If I then went on to have more boys!

[sixhappysons]

I was desperate for a boy with my first baby and now I have 7!! I have never swayed with my babies and very much believe we get what we need, not always what we want.
Yes I want to parent both genders but I still won't sway. Come What May.

[Mochagirl]

When I was pregnant with my twins we didn't find out the gender. I was sure they were girls, and told everyone that if they were we wouldn't have anymore kids unless dh wanted to try for a boy. I'm not sure that's what I would have really done, though. I grew up with 3 older brothers and my best friend in childhood was a boy as well. I think I would have felt I was missing out never having a boy. I'm fairly sure I would have tried at least once for one after my twins, possibly twice.

In the end I'm glad things worked out the way they did. My family structure will be the same as I had growing up: 3 boys then a girl. It feels like fate.

[gizmo77]

wow all interesting responses. for me. ive always wanted and thought id have mostly boys. i think bc im a tomboy myself and have lived my life *i* think with more testosterone than most of my "much more girly" friends. so i was pretty shocked when i had my 1st girl and even more when the 2nd one came. actually all my friends and fam were pretty surprised too. if i had to think about it, i THINK the reason i wanted boys is bc i think i know how to raise boys better than i know how to raise girls. ive always got along better with boys in life and not so much with girls (only certain types...but there was never a PERFECT girl friend..whereas all my guy friends were perfect). i also had 2 brothers, the younger one which i kind of helped raise. i always considered myself more "masculine" than the "typical" girl and was afraid i guess that if my girl wanted girly things id be lost..or that id try to turn her into me by forcing her to be more masculine or that we wouldnt get along (the way i didnt get along with a lot of girls). i also think it has something to do with mine and my mother's rlshp. its strained in that we dont get along. she is overly traditional and "girly" and besides that, we dont think the same so our conversations are mostly trying to figure out what the other one said, having stated one sentence, a LOT of misinterpretations. we just dont get each other. so that probably is the main reason...?

but as it turns out i get along SUPERBLY with my daughters. i now get along better with my female friends (actually i did so as i got older/closer to getting married). my rlshp with my mom is still awkward even tho i put tons of effort in trying (i dont get effort from her side). and i no longer feel that my rlshp wth my dtrs will be strained (like mine with my mom).
and hope that its not. already i keep open commuinciation with them unlike my very cultured mother where you dont talk about things openly.
so i think the experience i currently have withg my dtrs today "cured" my need for wanting only boys (and maybe one girl). but i think now that i will have 3, its almost like a challenge to me. and also i still do want at least ONE boy just to have both genders. namesakes and all that arent impt to me. i just want to see what a little boy from me and my husb would be like..
i think if i had 3 boys, id prob be ok and stop there but who knows...i know i wanted at least one girl.

[auroara78]

I had only dreamt of little girls before I got pregnant, and I hate admitting this, but felt "sorry" for my sisters when they were pregnant with boys before I even had kids. Because of all the boys that my sisters and brother had, I felt so *sure* I'd have only girls, and was quite shocked with DS1.

However, just as another poster on here has said, I feel the boys really expanded my horizons and helped me with some stereotype issues I might have had with boys, which is strange, since I have always got along so well with men, and my older brother and I get along great, it's just that I never thought having/raising boys was going to be "fun" when I was younger, and I always thought a daughter/mother relationship was better than a son/mother relationship.

I think God gave me two sons to shed the light on my incorrect thoughts...to help make me a better, more well rounded person. I love my little men with every ouce of my heart, and am so grateful now for how things have turned out. Though I do love my sons, and I am getting my desired daughter in Sept, my thoughts of late have come to trying again (already!) for a 2nd DD and I feel maybe this is too greedy. In another way though, I guess I am still longing to get my long desired dream of at least two daughters, and there is something very neat and even about two boys and then two girls that appeals to me as well.

I know for sure though that my if we had only girls, my DH would def. keep trying for a boy. He really wanted only boys, so in this case, I am hoping little baby girl Lillian in Sept. will open HIS eyes much the same way my eyes were opened to how awesome boys are when we had our two boys! So I am sure if I only had girls, I would surely, 100% go for a boy, mostly for my DH, but still I would def. do it.