Please don't judge

[HappyLea]

So sorry you are feeling like this hun, i have just found out that i am expecting boy#4 and what helped me was giving him name. We have named him Charlie and when we speak to him or about him using his name really helps.
Also i have made it my mission to find some really cute boy clothes that are not all the usual blue blue blue!

Im sure once you have your little boy in your arms you will love him so so much, my DS3 is absolutely adorable...such a little character!

[Mommyof3boys]

I had very similar feelings when my ds3 was born. We had also planned him and tried to sway pink. I did not find out his gender during the pregnancy because I knew I would be devastated of it was a boy. I had planned to breastfeed and when he was born I didn't even want to look at him so I made my husband go buy bottles so I wouldn't have to. After a couple of days I was feeling better but it did take a lot longer to bond with him than it did with my other two and some medication to help with depression. There isn't anything wrong with the way you are feeling, and it may take some time to be ok with your new son. Make sure you talk to your doctor if you are feeling depressed about it because post partum is worse with each child and in particular if you do not have the DG. You would never know now that i had wanted a daughter so desperately when I had my last son. He is such a joy and has such an amazing personality. I would never trade him for the daughter I was dreaming for then.

[Mrs_P]

I know exactly how you feel and it does get easier. I was convinced my DS3 was going to be a girl i was devastated when i heard boy (have been disappointed all along slightly with all boys as i really wanted a dd) i cried that much i could barely tell my mom over the phone and al the other people in the hospital must have thought there was something horribly wrong with my baby. I seriously considered abortion and adoption but my heart wouldn't let me even though i didn't want him he was still my baby, it took my mom seriously suggesting abortion to shock me out of it (i was so angry at her for the suggestion).

It took me a while to get over it and i'm so glad i found out when i did to have felt that way towards a newly born baby would have been horrible. But by the time i was 30 weeks i had managed to get over it and was really looking forward to meeting him. I managed to separate my feelings from my son to those of wanting a daughter and like you have a wonderful hubby who kept telling me we could try again if i wanted to (which is where we are at now and feeling quite scared to get pg again). I had a few problems in labor with him (bleeding) and was so gald when he was delivered safe i feel for him instantly.

A couple of months later i loved my sons so much but still really wanted a daughter til we out food shopping one day and my little boy (2yr old ds2) sat eating a piece of cake and stopped breathing - no idea how he survived, its taken me 2 years to be able to talk about it he was so lucky. Nearly loosing one of the most precious things in the world made me realise just how lucky i was. Not long after that ds1 got diagnosed with severe dispraxia which affects him in many ways and will do for life. Since then it has made me realise we got the child we needed in ds3 my son now has two brothers to help and support him in life and to guide him through the difficult times (without an over protective mother in his face all the time) his brothers were the best thing for him they already have such a bond and it is so lovely to watch them all together. I still would really truely love a daughter, its something i've longed for all my life and find it hard to let that go but realise more and more everyday how much i love my family and would not trade them (even think i am ready to have another child and know i could cope if its another boy).

Anyway hope my story helps you a little, although your desire for a daughter may not go away you will love you son and he will be an amazing addition to your family mine really are the three musketeers and such mommies boys (they all fight over a spot on my lap and pile up in a heap cuddled up together on the sofa). Enjoy your pregancy, thats my biggest regret i spent that long worrying i forgot to enjoy what a special time it was and if you want to chat am always happy to discuss things with you x