My pregnant friend is obsessed with having a baby girl and it hurts my feelings

[spinningmadly]

I totally understand where you are coming from, I don't want to sound insensitive. But the whole "you had fertility problems you should be happy with either" bugs me. My 3rd was still born and yes I still have GD even though I pray for a healthy baby. Granted I didn't have gd until after 2 kids! So yeah the rest of it is a bit weird.

[noha.khairy]

I'm wondering what was the outcome?? Did she have the girl? X

[HealthyGirl]

What did your friend end up having?


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[Claire33]

Of course, her friend had a girl

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/chit...ed-advice.html

[EmileeJane]

Ugh! She ended up having a girl?!
That does feel bad. Last year when my good friend was pregnant with her 2nd her DH and entire family were so sure that 'this is our girl'. They have a difficult 1st born son , same as me, and my 2nd was also a boy even though I'd only ever wanted girls. Of course when they found out it was in fact a girl I was shocked and sad and jealous. She most definitely has made smug comments about how glad she was it was a girl and not another boy. Even though she knew how badly I'd wanted a girl. We've grown apart and rarely see them now.
Sorry about this. It does suck sometimes when people appear to have it all. If she had fertility problems this may very well be her only child. In reality we have no idea what she may struggle with with her kids in the future.
Good luck with your sweet boy future babes. Good luck taking the high road too!

[pink_bean]

The hardest part when this happens is they never learn to empathize with how their comments make you feel because they get what they wanted.

[EmileeJane]

100% pinkbean! I think of just how much I've learned from having my boys, aka not getting my way. Losing and learning. Of course I was younger so that plays a part but like everyone on this board we are more well rounded and empathetic humans for going through this. I look back on how judgmental I used to be and how much this has humbled me. I try so hard to never say hurtful things about a person's family makeup and instead give an uplifting comment. You never know how bad someone's day is, or if you made it worse.
I Myself Am becoming quite the actress these days now that we're finally telling people we're expecting #3. Gushing about how excited we are even for a 3rd boy and of course we weren't trying for a girl, that is absurd since chances are roughly 50/50
cheers to the high road ladies!