Bbaby Boy #3

[Pstar32]

That's so funny I didn't tell anyone after I found out DS2 was a boy! I didn't want people to give me the sympathy card.

My best friend was having a girl after a boy at the same time. We told each other and that's all! I did get upset when I heard her news initially but I was fine once both babies were born!

I swore I wouldn't find out on this one either but I can't wait! I'm not going to tell anyone we did though. My husband's brother has two boys and lost their two girls one year after the other from a rare condition where they are perfect in the womb but can't breath for themselves when they are born.

His other brother has a baby girl with a deletion one chromosome and his mam lost a baby girl at birth. So my DH wouldn't be telling his family if it was a girl, his mam would just worry the whole way through. So I'm telling people we're not finding out. There are 5 healthy grandsons though and one other girl!
I just looked at the facebook pages of three of my friends who have 3 boys and their pictures are gorgeous, made me feel excited about 3 boys. I'd love twin girls after 3 boys haha!!
I'll let you know the result tomorrow please God the baby is healthy

[myangel2014]

Hello Jazzers

I am in the exact boat as you I just had my 3rd boy in May and he is a love. I have twin boys who are 20months now and then this beautiful 3 month old. I can't imagine my life without all 3 now. It is alot of fun with 3 boys- they are very active and keep me laughing and busy all day. I too found out very early in my pregnancy that I was having a third boy...I was sure that I was having a girl so when I heard boy- my heart sank and my stomach was empty....i was devastated...then on came the sadness and having to tell everyone who though I was having a girl that it was a boy..it was so rough let me tell you...i had alot of GS during my pregnancy and the hormones didn't help...what did get me through was similar to you...my husband agreed to a 4th child (secretly i wouldn't mind twin girls lol) and I started researching pgd/ivf...i don't feel like i want to go the natural way again with the idea of 4 boys ...so i have been researching it to death...i hope it will happen and work for us...ITs just sooo expensive! but I don't want 6-7 kids so I think it is worth trying at least...I hope you find comfort in that you are not alone in how you feel. It is so hard and friends/family that aren't in your shoes won't understand...I am here to talk too..I can't wait until I am in the position to try for that girl too..I am just trying to get into the swing with 3 little boys..then i will add my daughter which will be the icing....

[jazzers]

Thanks so much for the reply

It is so nice to be able to come on here and have other people truly understand these emotions, and what we are all going through. The whole "oh you should be thrilled it is a healthy baby" bit that everyone spouts just makes me want to slap someone these days. And it really irritates me coming from women who have had at least one of each gender. I feel like they are not allowed to have an opinion, because they've never been there (ok, I'll give exception to those that have had 2+ in a row of one gender, then finally the opposite). LOL.

I'd love to chat with you about the IVF/PGD process and what you have found. I have a file in my email started now for all the gender selection emails with pricing and info etc, just so I can reference back. I keep trying to formulate a "plan" in my mind, about where we want to get it done, pros/cons/pricing, and what that will look like (when will I need to wean? how will I feel about weaning just to get pregnant again? should we space these next ones further out? what if we have twins? although I'd be ok with girl twins at this point!!). I am leaning towards a clinic in Mexico right now that can do MS and IVF with gender selection. I want the max number of embryos fertilized XX!! it is SO much information though...so many decisions.....

[myangel2014]

I feel like you when I read your posts cause I went through all of the same things/emotions. I got through having my 3rd boy with the fact that we would have a number 4. I am obsessed about learning all about PGD/IVF and already planning in my head when i want to put it into motion. I am thinking fall 2013/winter 2014- might as well have all 4 of them together. I don't think I could try to sway for the last one-unless ivf fails-just cause of the extreme feelings i had this time around. I love my new little guy but still feel like something is missing...i agree...i think why is it that i am so obessed about having a girl??- i came to two conclusions...cause I never thought having one of each would be an issues- cause everyone i know seems to have 1 of each and the 2nd reason is that i want the opportunity to raise a daughter and possibly have a relationship that i have with my mother...I think its later in life that i really want a daughter- when all my boys don't want to tell me anything and my daughter calls for advice or just to talk...i think thats why i really want a daughter...I absolutely HATE all the sympathy i get when i am out about having 3 boys...its like a disease to some...saying to me...ohhhh 3 boys- no girls wow..you have your hands full...are you going to try again?No filter- esp some old folks! I honestly dont get people...When are you thinking of doing pgd/ivf? I also found it helpful to buy your new guy cute little outfits...i do love newborn outfits ) ALso until you have you girl- think how you are the princess/queen of the house and enjoy that! You are the Queen Bee...I am trying to enjoy my newborn but it has been really hard not to still think/research alot about my future little girl....He is 3 months and even though it was an eshausting pregnancy///i would get pregnant again in a sec for my little girl..you will forget about the exhausting part of pregnancy cause the payoff is huge!! Lets chat more..send me a msg!!

[lisvna]

Jazzers I'm 20 weeks pregnant with our second son and he is an ivf/pgd/spermsort baby. We wanted a baby girl but decided to transfer girls and boys (long story; our embryos were very poor quantity and we have just one child). It's very comforting to know we can go back and do again ivf/pgd/spermsort and then we will only transfers girls!!!

[jazzers]

How has your pregnancy been since you found out it is boy #2? At least you are familiar with the procedure and have obviously had success! You did your cycles in Cyprus?

[lisvna]

My pregnancy goes well and we now very happy he will be a healthy boy (as far as they can see). I have no GD at all! It's just like a natural pregnancy, the only thing what is different is that we new very fast I'm pregnant. Both Cycles were in south Cyprus at Genesis clinic.

[jazzers]

That's awesome! I am so glad now that our second is a boy too. Our two sons have such an amazing relationship, and get along so well. I wouldn't change it for anything. In fact, I rarely see other siblings that are as close as my boys are (I think it helps that they are only 15 months apart). I'm hoping that #3 fits right in, but we shall see!

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

[Pstar32]

In fact, I rarely see other siblings that are as close as my boys are (I think it helps that they are only 15 months apart). I'm hoping that #3 fits right in, but we shall see!

Jazzers my first son was born Sept 09 and my second Jan 11, my third is due Dec 12. I have the same age gap as you do between my two boys and I feel the same. They do everything together. My best friend had a girl when I had my second boy and she's having an awful time. She has the same gap but they kill each other and won't play together. My oldest has to have my youngest where-ever he goes xx We're destined to be pregnant together haha. I always wanted four kids so our next might come the same time, I'll have my 3rd boy and you'll be having your girl and we could end up with the same family make-up

[fish2012]

In fact, I rarely see other siblings that are as close as my boys are (I think it helps that they are only 15 months apart). I'm hoping that #3 fits right in, but we shall see!

Jazzers my first son was born Sept 09 and my second Jan 11, my third is due Dec 12. I have the same age gap as you do between my two boys and I feel the same. They do everything together. My best friend had a girl when I had my second boy and she's having an awful time. She has the same gap but they kill each other and won't play together. My oldest has to have my youngest where-ever he goes xx We're destined to be pregnant together haha. I always wanted four kids so our next might come the same time, I'll have my 3rd boy and you'll be having your girl and we could end up with the same family make-up

i have two boys 16 months apart too they are so close i'm happy now that ds2 is a boy but jazzers i think you are being so brave I don't know how i'll manage if i hear boy xx