Who was team green til birth and didn't get their desired gender??

[coocoobananas]

It's done. It's a boy

[fivebabies]

Congrats on a healthy baby boy!!!

[Myloves]

Congrats on your beautiful Boy!

[Tiggerian]

Congrats on your boy! How are you doing after finding out?

I'm still in two minds about whether to find out with mine and I hope you don't mind me hijacking your post a little?! I got these two notions in my head why I should go Team Green:

1) because of the surprise. The "ITS A BOY/GIRL!!" on top of all the emotions - I think that could be amazing.

2) If its NOT what I hope for (ie girl) then I hope I wouldn't care so much because I'd just be happy my baby is OK

But... i'm afraid by not knowing I will set my self up too much, maybe convince myself its a girl. I did that with DS2 and I went through a simillar grief period where I cried and was moody on/off. But what if its worst next time? Is it better getting it over with and enjoying the baby once it s here?

With Ds2 i was convinced we would have a girl and this time, although we're going to do the sway, I'm fairly sure we will get another boy. And, although sometimes negative feelings and tears creep up on me, I'm OK with that. I'm a bit sick of robots and dinosaurs, but hey ho.. might get a tomboy anyway if we had a girl!

Please do let us know how your doing after your U/S and again, congrats on the baby boy!

[coocoobananas]

Well I idk what is better, I thought waiting was better but dh thought I was fooling myself! He caught me at a weak moment and I caved. I regret it for sure as I cried solid the whole rest of that day and couldn't eat. I couldn't dream anymore and that really hurt... But, that's all it was, dreaming and dragging out the inevitable because it wasn't true!
I talked to some moms who struggled after the baby was born and I think this way in the end is better, deal just with me and not me and the worry of looking at the baby with sad thoughts when he is here.
I am going to just try on the gender disappointment part of this site or not come at all as seeing someone get a girl sadly brings everything to the surface again when I have started feeling better about things.
Plus, I'm considering doing things that I never would unless I was here like having a fourth or going HT! So if I'm not here, maybe my mind wouldn't wander so much and I could move on! Although the support is amazing!
Anyway, rambling but I don't know what the right answer is. All I know is you have to expect dissapointment either way. If its a he, you will feel something and you will need to feel that whether before birth or after.

[Tiggerian]

I've decided to expect it to be a boy either way and not allow myself to dream too much! I did with my second and i did have some darker moments - but I think if I just expect it to be a boy (which it probably will be anyway) i wont stress myself too much over it and just focus on being preggers

I'm sure you'll be just fine after you've processed it. When my second was born there was no regret about him being another boy - Only regret was that he had his dads nose lol!

[NeedGrace]

We've done both. Didn't find out for DS1 or DS3 but did for DS2. All I ever wanted was a girl & DH's family had no girls so the pressure was on even when I had DS1. I felt a bit shocked with DS1 but he was my first & after the trauma I'd been through to bring him into the world it was short lived. I fell in love & didn't think twice about GD. I found out at the 20 week scan with DS2 & same initial dip in excitement but I quickly moved on to being excited. His birth was amazing! So I was full o happy hormones when he was born & instantly in love again. We didn't find out for DS3 & in hindsight I wish I had. I completely talked myself into thinking he was a girl along with everyone around me. Of course it was love at first sight when he was born but I did spend a fair bit of time in the hospital bathroom bawling my eyes out, too ashamed to admit how I was feeling to anyone. The worst was that everyone else thought girl too so some had girly gifts (as if you would tell me, I know! But they did). One relative actually cried!!!! And there was not much of a fuss. That fuelled my GD I think. If we ever go for #4 I will definitely find out.

[NeedGrace]

Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy too Cocoo. For what it's worth I still think having time to process everything before bub is here & getting to know him now is much better. My boys are best of friends & I wouldn't have it any other way now!

[Mum23boys]

I dont think I could veer be dissapointed on the day - i think the moment you hold that baby no matter what the sex the bonding and love is immediate and for me being team green for GD is the best option. you will only get your hopes up about a certain gender if you let yourself. I just get through this pregnancy already relating to litttle one as a boy and if out pops a boy ill be prepared if its a girl well the surprise will be even bigger.
Im sorry you didnt get your daughter hunny but 3 boys is so much fun - all mine choose to share our big bedroom and they always have someone to play with as if one brother is busy my youngest plays with his other brother.

[fish2012]

I was with both my boys, I was a little disapointed when ds was a boy and extra disapointed when ds2 was too!

I will find out this time i found it hard to bond with ds2 as i was disppointed I need to know this time (our first sway) i hope i will have 20 weeks to come to terms with it being a boy when he won't notice.

i know people have tried both ways and I guess it's hard either but i think this is what i'll do this time