Not sure what to do now

[LacePrincess]

3dab47 Ovulation charts on FertilityFriend.com

Perfect, thanks! I don't see enough charts to show a luteal phase issue, the only chart I see with crosshairs is from your last pregnancy. But things can change since pregnancy and breastfeeding can mess up our hormones. Oh, and I should've mentioned too that bf'ing (since you only recently weaned) can really screw up your LP. Prolactin, the lactation hormone, interferes with progesterone, resulting in really whacked up LP's. If the short LP thing is new then you probably just need to give your body time to regulate after weaning.

I only recently weaned DS3. I had hoped to conceive again while still nursing him (he'll be 3 next week) but my LP was too messed up (5-7 days!). So I weaned all except one daily feeding this month and hope it'll be good. Nursing and luteal phase deficiency pretty much goes hand in hand.

[hplnvf32]

Thank you. I know I don't have a bunch of charts to look at but does it look like I have a short LP? I didn't realize that. Last month was my first full month of charting and then I had a positive HPT. I am starting to show some signs in my CM that O may be approaching but I am just waiting and seeing. What would you say are the biggest things to do in my diet? I realize it may be too late to make too many changes though. I want to try this month if I O and I would be okay if I had a boy. I just want to try for a girl

[LacePrincess]

Biggest things with diet if you don't want to get too obsessive about it is to go vegetarian and stick to only 2-3 meals a day with NO snacks. No breakfast if you can manage it. I don't count calories or anything myself, I just watch the scale and I'm careful not to gain weight. (I don't have extra to lose in my case).

It's far too early to diagnose a short LP if you've only been charting a month and recently weaned bf'ing. It can take up to 6 months for your hormones to regulate after bf'ing, so don't worry about it. Plus, everyone has the odd weird month, it doesn't mean anything unless it happens over and over again.

I would really suggest you start the LE diet, keep charting, and have some patience for your cycle, it's likely just gradually getting back to normal after the nursing. Give it a few months and if your LP is still really screwed up (like, less than 9 days every month) then after 3-4 cycles I'd head to the doc and have your hormones checked.

You really want to have been on the LE diet for 6 weeks to have it be effective, but if you want to try this month be ultra conservative (antihistamines, frequent release, no bd'ing through O).

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm really sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I'm trying really hard but it's tough sometimes with the three kids.

If having sex once a week works for you guys as a couple, I think that is a good way for you to go.

A few days of being off diet and on prenatals can't undo the good you did from being on diet previously.

I would def. have advised you to go for it so I'm hoping that's what you did.

[atomic sagebrush]

I just re-read the information on frequency and it looks like it is too late for us to do either. I am on CD9 and I assume I will ovulate on CD14. I should not have BD'ed this morning.

It's ok tho - one time in 2 weeks, even if it is on the closer side to ovulation, is not the end of the world.

You could also have done (or still do, altho I suspect I'm too late) a hurry-up FR where you have DH release once, dump it, then DTD again as soon as you're able to and use the second batch for insemination.

[atomic sagebrush]

Also, I just don't think the frequency part is going to work for us. I haven't told my husband about this (although I usually share everything with him) I just don't know if he will believe in this I am wondering if I got lucky with my girl the first time or if we do follow some of the typical girl swayers lifestyles at all (some information above). I know it can be all about luck though cause like I said my first girl was conceived with preseed, my husband was lifting weights at the time but we did abstain and conceive on day of ovulation. I was taking whole food prenatals and ate a mixed diet from the boy and girl side. It was summer, we both were drinking more and just more active. Does family history come into play at all? His side and his father's side are mostly boys.

Gosh the more I think about it, the more I think about how much I want another girl. I was breastfeeding up until a couple months ago, my daughter is 2.5 years old. I am trying to think about what other info I can add to give you a picture of it all. But it probably doesn't matter. It's just hard to know how to sway.

Thank you for responding.

It's ok if you can't do the frequency. Everyone gets really hung up on that but I think it's not that much of a sway tactic in the grand scheme of things. I got my girl with perfect boy frequency and I know of several others who got girls with boy frequency as well.

Luck totally has a part to play. This is not like flipping a light switch where if you do everything right, you are then guaranteed a baby of a certain gender. You can do everything right and all it does is increase your odds.

I do not believe family history has a part to play - I think peopel from the same family had similar lifestyles when they were being raised and men from the same family may have a taste for women with certain attributes that make them more boy/girl friendly, and that may skew the odds somewhat. But overall, I think gender swaying works because sometimes boys have better odds of survival and sometimes girls do, and that "need" overrides anything genetically - it's just not SMART for our genes' survival to have all boys no matter what, because sometimes boys have been way less likely to survive than girls were. It would be a dumb move from the perspective of our genes, to have 90% boys in a family because at any point where most of the males got killed off, that's a genetic dead end for our genes.