Find out at Gender Scan or wait till Christmas???

[Blue chance2013]

Thanks ladies!!

I padmad:My husband actually comes home that night, but I thought it would be nice if he could find out on Christmas since it is also his birthday.

I am leaning towards finding out on friday and just keeping it to myself until Christmas. It would be nice to be surprised on Christmas (especially if it is a boy) but there is nothing like seeing it on the actually ultrasound screen in real time.

I might even do something special for him for his birthday (as hotdogz and Cinss mentioned ). I don't think he would be mad if he found out I knew all along.

Only one more day....i can't wait, but im soo nervous!!!

[BabyCakesTor]

I'm having the same debate in my head. I'm scared of GD and don't want my husband to see it but on the other hand if I do get my DD then I really want to experience that first reaction together.... I don't know if I'd be able to hide either secret lol.

My advice is to do it if u think you can hold in the excitement when you hear you're having a DS! And do it if you feel you need time to deal/grieve alone if its a DD again. You have to do what you feel is best.

[wildwooddays]

I felt the same way as you and decided to go green team. I'm happy I did as then when people ask I can honestly tell them I don't know the gender and like you, I kind of want to hold onto hope a bit longer.
However if you feel that knowing the sex earlier would help you deal with it better, then maybe go with that. GL with whatever you decide.

[Violet]

I don't know if I can offer you advice on this. I'm all about ignorance is bliss. I wouldn't want to know myself!! I've been down that road of disappointment twice and don't care to tread on it again. Told my DH, if we ever have a third, I don't want to know at the ultrasound or even at the birth itself (I have a c-section). I don't want that rush of disappointment running over me with all my guts exposed. Sew me up and then break the news. At least when I'm back in one piece, I can handle it. And take medication without remorse

[Blue chance2013]

Just wanted to give a quick update. I went in for my ultrasound and never found out the sex....but not by choice. They found some alarming things on the ultrasound and wanted me to go in for a level two scan. I did that yesterday and found out that we are having our boy, but he has a lethal form of skeletal dysplasia. I am so so devasted. We have no idea how this happened....we are both relatively healthy and so is our family. They told me if he does make it to term he will most likely not live very long....probably not even leave the hospital. His chest cavity is measuring very small and his lungs will most likely not develop. His long bones are also measuring very small....in the 3rd percentile.

At this point I don't care if it is a boy or girl, I just want my baby to live and be healthy. I went into the anatomy scan so concerned about whether it was a boy or girl and just took for granted that he/she would be healthy. I feel so horrible.

I did an amnio, but will not get the results for another 2 to 3 weeks.

Thank you all for your support and advice you've given me I appreciate it.

[coocoobananas]

Oh my goodness! How awful! I'm hoping the amino will show better things but don't feel any guilt about being concerned of gender. Obviously you wanted a healthy child first and foremost! I'm really sorry you have to go through this hugs

[spinningmadly]

I'm so sorry. We just went through this with our second dd we have lost. Its natural to feel bad for worrying so much about gender. I did too, both times. But nothing you thought did this. Can they rush the amnio results? I know ours came back in 48 hours. I hope that you get some good news. Hearing your baby isn't healthy is very hard

[Violet_]

Such tragic news. You poor thing. I really hope things turn out not to be as bad as first thought. I'm not really sure what to say but feel so sorry for you having to go through this right near Christmas.

[The Anchor]

Blue how scary...it must be so hard for you. Prayers for you and your family...

[Mum23boys]

oh hunny ive just seen your update im so so sorry your going through this - someone up stairs is being so cruel right now and you do not deserve this. we all know that you wanted a healthy baby no matter the sex so please dont feel any guilt. Im going to keep everything crossed for you - what a tough time to be going through :-(