"I think it's pretty common for moms to be concerned about another child being as difficult as their most difficult child. It's a natural fear of how you would handle it with other children to consider and if your emotional state could handle another high-needs child. I think, for you, it's "easy" to assume the differences are gender-related. It's a common thing I see among pigeon pair parents. But I can assure you, from a person who is surrounded by many single-gender families, it's not a gender thing. It's a personality thing."
YES YES YES!! You are exactly right.
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January 18th, 2013, 01:29 PM #11Dream User
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January 18th, 2013, 01:31 PM #12Dream User
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Longingforgirl, I hope you get your baby girl!
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January 18th, 2013, 06:24 PM #13
oh hun poor you, it's so horriable to have feelings that aren't pure excitment and joy!
I feel the same but for slightly different reasons however although i'm aware this may not actually manage to filter through i have a difficult boy and a very easy boy totally different children when i think agh worst mother in world why does ds1 do this? i look at ds2 and think it's not my fault they are all different, i'm convinced this baby id ds3 and i'm like which one will it be like (ds2 please) but really he'll be like ds3 totally different
good luck will you find out the sex? hope you can enjoy some of the pregnancy xxx
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January 19th, 2013, 04:46 PM #14Dream User
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I definitely felt the same way as you when I found out DS2 was a boy. DS1 was SUCH a difficult baby--very colicky--and also a super active toddler. To this day he is still my more demanding child. I was panicked to be having ANOTHER boy, but fell in love with DS2 so quickly I was shocked. From day 1 he has been MUCH easier, and is definitely more independent, although he's still quite active and rambunctious he doesn't NEED the constant attention that DS1 does. Finding out how different two babies of the same gender can be made it easier for me last week when I found out I was expecting my third son. I was disappointed, yes, but at least now I know that he will probably be different from his brothers and surprise and delight me in brand new ways. Hope that helps!!!
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February 21st, 2013, 12:10 AM #15
I really hope you get your girl, but don't be afraid. I have 3 boys, the first one nearly drove me mad! I love him to pieces but he was difficult, didn't sleep, fussed over anything, was one of those hyperactive children, tormented his little brother to tears, you name it! He is now 21 and he can still drive me nuts! lol. When I found out I was having a second boy (who is now 19) I was a bit disappointed but got over it really quick. And he was a little angel, not at all like his brother. I hope I don't sound like one of those mothers that favor one child over the other, cause that's not the case, it was just much easier handling my second boy. Now, I have another little boy who's only 2 and he is an easy, adorable child, sleeps like a rock and doesn't cause a lot of drama. So there, have faith, you will be fine regardless. Good luck!
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