The more I read- the more overwhelmed I get- the less I want to try:(

[DoulaMama]

Thanks Everyone It's so nice to know that I'm not the only person struggling with the diet. I have good days and bad days(like the past 3!) but I'm trying not to beat myself up over it. When I was hardcore on the diet this spring I was logging my food. It was shocking to see what I would put in my mouth when I wasn't really paying attention. I have to do that again in order to keep going...the journey is long and hard but so worth it in the end!! Same with getting pink...if I'm lucky enough Anyway, hugs to you all and here's to our beautiful future babies, pink or blue, at least we gave it the best shot we could.

[LolaInLove]

DoulaMama, YOU CAN DO IT! I know how you feel, though....it is hard for me to keep up with the boy diet, because I am not a huge eater! Atomic is totally right- just be losing weight when you conceive and you have accomplished tricking your body into thinking you are in famine mode. I know I was eating, not starving myself, but just eating very little during the day. I would have a big dinner at around 6:30pm, and not eat again after that. I would drink some wine at night though. I never ate breakfast, and just little things during the day.

Just remember that it is ENTIRELY possible that you all will end up with your baby girls....you have to believe that just like I have to keep holding the belief that I will someday get pregnant and not only will it be a healthy, growing baby, but my boy. Give swaying your best shot that you can do, which may be doing the diet only 50%, but that is better than not at all, right!

Lots of pink dust to you girls!!!!

[DoulaMama]

DoulaMama, YOU CAN DO IT! I know how you feel, though....it is hard for me to keep up with the boy diet, because I am not a huge eater! Atomic is totally right- just be losing weight when you conceive and you have accomplished tricking your body into thinking you are in famine mode. I know I was eating, not starving myself, but just eating very little during the day. I would have a big dinner at around 6:30pm, and not eat again after that. I would drink some wine at night though. I never ate breakfast, and just little things during the day.

Just remember that it is ENTIRELY possible that you all will end up with your baby girls....you have to believe that just like I have to keep holding the belief that I will someday get pregnant and not only will it be a healthy, growing baby, but my boy. Give swaying your best shot that you can do, which may be doing the diet only 50%, but that is better than not at all, right!

Lots of pink dust to you girls!!!!

Thank you You are very sweet and I appreciate the support and kind words. (HUGS)

[LolaInLove]

Hey, that's what we are here for, right! And you have been amazingly supportive of me and my hbac quest!! XOXO

[WantingPink]

I am right there with everyone. I have a hard time losing weight. I am most successful when I cut out all dairy, wheat, sugar, processed foods, soy, and corn. I eat mostly veggies. Some protein and some fruit. I love this diet and it makes me feel great!!! However, it is very "nutritious" which is a girl diet no no. I think if I start eating things like low sodium bread and pasta I would gain weight just by looking at them. Wheat doesn't seem to agree with me. So I feel very limited. I guess a lot of iceberg lettuce?? I am going to try to keep track of my Na/K and Ca/Mg and keep the calories low. It can get so overwhelming with the diet... I am going to just do the opposite I did with my boys which was pig out

[rainbowflower]

There is also the French Diet if that feels easier for you to stick to.

The problem with swaying websites is that we lay out all the info at once and it can be overwhelming but you don't need to do everything! It's like a menu at a Chinese restaurant, you can pick something from Column A and something from Column B that work for you and your lifestyle and call that your sway! There is no right and wrong way to do it.

In order of what I think is the most important aspects of diet:

1) Lower blood sugar levels IN THE 2WW (if you can't stick to it all the time, make sure you at least try during the 2WW)
2)Losing weight (and this WILL help lower your blood sugar even if you eat 8 meals a day)
3)Lower fat (fat is easier for most people to cut back on than protein, even though I suspect protein may sway "harder".)
4)Lower protein (and lower is lower - if you can't get to 40 G a day, that's OK! If you were eating 120 and you're now eating 60, that's STILL lower. Protein can help with blood sugar)
5)Lower calories (again, lower is lower, going from 2500 to 2000 is still an improvement.)
6)Lower sodium (this is SO HARD for people to stick to that I seriously doubt all the girls who have ever been born on the face of the planet were to moms eating very little sodium)
7)Only after ALL those other things, come the lower nutrients. Eat veggies if it helps you get through the day. A huge plate of veggies is better for pink than a steak and a baked potato.
8)More cal and mag IF you want to and if you can do it without screwing up on the protein, fat and sodium.

Don't feel that you need to do everything. You don't. Making changes in the right direction still sways.

that's good info - could you put that in one of the diet threads pls?

[rainbowflower]

I feel for those of you struggling with the girl diet - it sounds sooo boring and restrictive! I haven't started it yet, but don't even have weight to lose so I know I'll probably be putting myself through that just to get a girl and not for any other benefits..

[atomic sagebrush]

PS - I just wanted to say again that no one will ever yell at you or second guess your sway here. PLEASE feel free to do only what you all feel comfortable with - there IS no one right way to sway.

[skrimpy]

As long as you are losing weight, that is MOST important of all. Eat what helps you lose weight first and foremost because the more you lose, the better for your sway. Protein is a hard one, technically it should be kept low but more important than protein is that you are getting that weight down. People have conceived girls losing weight on Atkins (and I mean more than one or two, tons of people have told me this.) If you are doing good on a low calorie diet with vegies and protein, keep it up!!!

I agree with AS - I conceived this DD eating a high protein, very (VERY) low carb diet where I was losing weight. I think any diet that has you losing weight will help sway for a DD. It really lines up with the TW thoughts - if your body thinks it's a time of "famine" you are more likely to conceive a DD.

((Hugs)) for you ladies who are struggling, I think that the girl swayers have it harder overall than the boy swayers!

[atomic sagebrush]

that's good info - could you put that in one of the diet threads pls?

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...s-for-TTC-Pink

Done! Thx for the suggestion.