Am I the only who gets so jealous of others who get a daughter?

[atomic sagebrush]

Have you read the following essays? http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...l-version.html
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...-diet-faq.html

the diet is meant to be easy to stick to - you're not supposed to be eating nothing, there is a lot of variety in the LE Diet.

[atomic sagebrush]

Within the three years that I had my third boy there were seven friends and family members I know that started out with two boys and went on to have a girl. I a was literally the only one out of eight to have a boy. I don't know if this is a comfort to you but as much as I still long to have a daughter the jelousy has greatly subsided for me. I do want a daughter badly but (I know this is going to sound hokey) I don't want THEIR daughter I want MY daughter so I remind myself that either I am going to have my DD or she never was meant to be but either way no one on this planet is raising MY daughter so there less to be jelous about. I know that is weird thinking but if you knew me IRL...I'm just a weird gal I guess. God Bless and I hope you find comfort on this site and from those around you, no one should have to suffer in pain alone and on here you are not alone!!!

That is exactly how I felt - I did feel some annoyance at times when people seemed to get everythign they wanted very easily but I just wanted HER (IKYKWIM) and the moment I saw her, it was like "oh there you are, I've been waiting for you."

[PolishPrincess]

Retro- Let's see...I "swayed" with my third through timing and all things stupid and luckily God was gracious enough to send me the most wonderful baby. This time I did diet, I am doing a couple extra things, but heavy heavy prayer. I have a different relationship with God now. I have no fear of a fourth boy. This is the most ironic night for me. I was looking for a pic of my husband and came upon all these baby pictures of my three boys. One cherubic face after another. I am the most blessed person and Pink Carol I can't thank you enough because we all need that reminder of how precious life and health really is. Your post was such a blessing to me thank you.
See I believe that the Lord has given me the Desire for a daughter. I believe that it may very well be that he has planned a fantastic boy number four for us that we will love like crazy and he will complete this family. Or perhaps I will never get pregnant again because that in itself is a miracle. So I look at my swaying as a type of prayer, but I am careful not to get too extreme with it. I am starting to wane too. I just love my boys. My three year old held my face yesterday and said, "mommy I love the way you smell." He is an angel. I thank God every that I don't call the shots. I could never get it this good.

[Peanut41]

but I just wanted HER (IKYKWIM) and the moment I saw her, it was like "oh there you are, I've been waiting for you."

Now you have me feeling all emotional and teary eyed!

[1+2+3boys]

Same here, When someone in my twin support group announces they are having a girl or girls (espeically after boys) I can't bear to read it. I know someone who lost her twin girl just before birth and it is the most horrible thing I can imagine and has made me more accepting of being happy with what ever I get next time. But I am scared to think about the future because as happy as I will be with healthy boy number 4, I would always have a longing that could never be met

[vickyaust]

I totally feel the same. I have a girlfriend who is expecting a girl after two boys. No swaying or HT. She just knew she would have a girl. Whatever! How annoying.

[pink carol]

Thank you, Bigwish, for your words! You make me cry too!
Like I said, I have learnt to love boys to bits and to be totally at peace with the lack of a girl in my life.
If I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again and carry it full term, I can tell you honestly from the bottom of my heart that I'll be delighted to welcome another boy if that is the gender this life chooses to be.
I have totally gotten over this girl jealousy and I wish other girls in the site would realize the richness they have in their boys and how wonderful boys are without going through the hell I've lived.
But that doesn't mean I don't understand them because I've been there too. Now I'm at peace with the jealousy. Wish I could be equally at peace over the loss of my boy, but if somehow my post makes a difference in the life of other girls in the site, I'll be more than satisfied.

[SurroundedByBoys]

Im right with you all... I had such disappointment when I found out about my second son, I cried. I moped. I threw internal temper tantrums. I bemoaned the fact everybody was having a girl but me, some their second. Then as soon as he was placed in my arms, I fell in love. I cant say what if I did this or that, because then I wouldnt have my little beastie. The thought of not having a daughter actually hurts and makes me ill... I can accept the fact I might have a third boy for our final child, and I will love him. I'll just always have that part of me thats sad.

[inshaallahxx]

Inshallah- I'm glad I'm not the only one. I feel exactly the same. When are you going to TTC? I also find that some family's seen to already have it all and still get their girl. I have booked myself in with a psychic too. Saw a psychic 2 years ago who said I will have a girl so want to see if a different person will say the same. Not sure if I believe in that or not but at the moment will try anything.

I'm going to start in July. It's so far and I'm so anxious to try! I've just been praying non-stop for a girl.

[retrolove1]

Thanks for all of the replys.

I really do realise how lucky I am to even have two healthy boys and I do welcome more boys it's just the fact of NEVER having a girl. I guess since being a young girl when you play mums and dads I have always had a daughter.

If I find out I am expecting another boy there will be a brief moment of sadness like their was with DS2 but it will soon disappear, but the dream of having a girl I don't think will ever go. I know this is very selfish especially after what Pink Carol went through and I hope I never ever lose a son because I understand completely how equally precious a boy is to a girl.

I'm sure one day I will look at the girl babies clothes (the o so cute dresses, tights, pretty coats and shoes) and instead of my heart longing to buy it all I will not care and look straight to the boys clothes. I just can't imagine it be until I've had my third and final child.

I do feel like a complete b****h for still feeling this. Please don't hate me. I will continue praying.

xx