Sex question for girl moms...ignore if TMI bothers you!

[odd]

I have been wondering abt this too. We have a happy marriage but my hubby has a super low libido so I am used to 'helping myself' lol. . And for the same reason coz I sleep so much better.

Vut I have noticed thay since starting saw palmetto ...I haven't had the need to or don't even feel like it. .lok

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[LilithWiser1979]

Basically, I was asking this to see if this lifestyle was a "boy-friendly" way to go. I guess it is

[aidansmum]

LOL love that question! I used to be a bit of an addict to playing solo when younger, I kind of calmed down a bit now. When DTD I orgasm 9 out 10 times. As for the solo thing, I quit whilst trying for a girl as I didn't want to build up testosterone, and DH and I also decreased our sexual encounters to only twice a month (!!!) - lucky he's exhausted and working 6 days a week, so it wasn't too hard - but I believe that less sex = less testosterone for both of us = my body fooled partnership is no longer stable = more chances of a baby girl. Done it on purpose and having a girl, although I'm not saying that played a part, it was just my belief. Activities returned to normal now!

[atomic sagebrush]

I do think there is a trend in this direction where moms who have boys have a bit higher sex drive and possibly reach O easier than pink mamas do.

It's a bit of a chicken-egg kinda scenario, because the question is, do boy moms have a higher sex drive overall and it's THAT which is swaying and then coincidentally leads to more orgasms as well, or is it that the orgasms themselves are swaying somehow, or both?? And that we simply do not have the answer to.

Some research indicates that female orgasms may fulfill some biological function so I don't dismiss that they are swaying in some way. It's actually super complex system and I just finished reading (a rather unpleasant) book about the subject. Never let it be said I don't cover all bases when it comes to swaying research.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...s-swaying.html

I did have an O when I got my DD but it was really really bad and took forever. I only did it because my husband is an a$$ when I don't. My sex drive was the lowest by far than at any point I conceived my boys.

[Rosie85]

Okay now see I had a super super low sex drive over all with the first 2 boys but during the period we got pregnant my drive was high and it was basically sex everyday. Ds3 my drive was low except around ovulation time and in current time it is pretty much the same as with ds3, maybe a little bit higher. It concerns me as far as my sway goes because I think it will hurt it. My drive is better because our relationship is better than before. That sways boy. hmphff

[Hobbermittens]

I have them a lot, and always do when DH and I DTD, and we have 2 and 2 .
When swaying for DS2, I made sure I had a big O before, during and after BD, when normally I just have one during BD (or two if it's a good night! )

Maybe you should try to hold off if you can, but I know for some of us, it isn't that easy. I'm not sure I could have sex without having one!

[Rosie85]

wow hobber, I wish I would have trouble having sex without an O. I HAVE to be on top to get one and even then it is still work sometimes. So the whole Easy O for boy moms doesn't suit me. I guess I O quick with a toy though...

[unwirklich]

I've found that my sex drive really varies with my mood, so kind of playing into what Rosie says, when I'm not pissy with my husband or just cranky in general it seems to affect things more than the hormones. Though on a just a thought comment, I dug this back up:

Mammals can 'choose' sex of offspring, study finds - Office of Communications & Public Affairs - Stanford University School of Medicine

This wasn't the article I'd read, I couldn't find it, but this one has the same info. The other had more strongly suggested that how satisfied you are with your mate could affect the gender of your children. I don't think I'd put a ton of stock into it, because there's no way every women with a girl was unhappy in her marriage/sex life, but maybe if women who are unhappy for one reason or another O less that's why they have more girls?

[Prayingpink]

With both my boys my sex drive was low and I hardly ever oed but coincidently I did o the nights I conceived them. Now my sex drive is much higher and I'm ttc girl so idk how to feel about that lol

[MIka1104]

I have a very high sex drive and very active sex life BUT I rarely get the big "O." I have 2 daughters. I did find out that I had a very friendly girl lifestyle though. I've never thought that lack of O's couldve factored in that...