Age gap between children..

[Rosie85]

All of mine are around 2.5 years apart and I like it. I decided to go even closer this time, I feel well adjusted as a mother and kind of just want to be done having babies so I am ready to move on.

I think they get a long better when they are closer in age and I myself don't prefer huge gaps but I will say this...my youngest brother was an oops baby 8 years after me. Now I am almost 30 and he is 20, we are really good friends. We also did play well together until I was about 14-15 but from 15 to 22 we were not close...at all. I was much closer with my other older brother who was only 3 years ahead of me.

I know someone who still hasn't made up her mind about number 2 and her son is going to be 7 now and they pretty much said he is too old and they won't have another one because they waited too long.

I also know someone who had a child every 10 years...

The choice is yours, if you are waiting to not be afraid I do know from others who did wait that it gets harder and harder to have another the further you get out because it is hard to revert back into having a baby around. back to back kids has allowed me to be in a place where I was never "free" from all the baby things and it isn't hard to welcome it back and get adjusted quickly.

[momto4boyz]

I think it all has to do with personalities. My 1st two are closest in age, but least bonded. My 13yr old and 3yr old are super bonded. My closest in age sister and I never talk..im closer to my eldest sister. I wouldnt worry about age gaps personally. For me, I prefer 3+ yrs apart only for my sanity lol

[Rosie85]

oh yes.. there is a wonderful argument for wider gaps. The older they are the more helpful they can be!

It is a B*t*h to get all my kids in the van and buckled. I hate going anywhere quick and it even deters me from doing certain activities, especially in the winter months. My oldest is still in a harness and is special needs though so he needs help.

When my baby brother was born I was such a help to my mom. As I got older I found myself being more of a mother figure to him though than a sibling. I raised him more than my own mother did.

[Wanting-a-girl]

I like th 2 years is my 2nd and 3rd are 5 years apart and I dint enjoy the whole aspect of "starting over again"

[snoop]

My son is five in may and I have only just become ready to have another, due to severe lack of sleep, a special needs diagnosis and postnatal depression.

I worried too but ultimately your mental and physical health must prevail over playmate considerations as ultimately that should not be why you want to have more children. I have a sister who is ten years younger than me, and 8 years younger than my other sister and we loved playing with her and helped mum with a lot.

There is no right age gap, it's what's right for an individual family


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[lyngostar]

Ds2 was born one week before ds1 turned one. We weren't planning on having another one so soon after the first but it has been the best thing for all of us. They keep each other entertained. They play together and share everything. We are currently trying for a dd. Ds1 will be two in April and ds2 will be one.

[atomic sagebrush]

I had 3 years 8 months between my first two and that is my least favorite age gap. My older son freaked when my younger one was born and it was a very hard transition. They were too different in ages to really play together much (and the only reason they were ever able to is that my older son was kinda immature and my younger son is an "old soul"). But still close enough so they had rivalry and competed for the same friends and stuff. Now that they're adults they do seem to get along better. That having been said physically it was much much easier on me.

My younger sons are 21 months apart and then DS 4 and DD are 2 1/2 years apart. While it was a hard go for a couple years there when I had 2 in diapers and all three waking up in the night, and physically was draining to have that many pg/births all back to back, they get along really well together compared to my older boys and those three are peas in a pod.

I think at the end of it all, it's prob. more fun for the kiddos to be close in age, but easier when they're little if they are spaced further.

[MIka1104]

It definitely just depends on the family. My 2dds are 4.5 years apart because it was best for dh and I, since we had our first dd in our early 20s and had to get used to being parents. My dds get along very well and my older dd helps the little one with homework and everything. The only hiccup is that they are both control freaks and they tend to bump heads with certain things. My little one is 6 and we are trying for our 3rd because, again, it's best for our family and for my sanity :-) I'm excited because I know my girls are more independent now and can help out with the 3rd!

[Peebell85]

My sister and I have 14 year age gap, she is 15 now and we are best friends. I think in regard to sibling bonds, it's definitely more about personalities than age gaps.

[Leebug]

My 2 DDs are 3 years 2 months apart & I really like it! Initially I wanted 2 really close but it took me 14 months to get PG with DD#2.my oldest was fully spotty trained when #2 came along & we did a good job on psyching her up to be s big sister.she was a cute little helper.she would throw away dirty diapers put her bknki back in her mouth give her toys & play with her if she cried.stuff like that.it does make it hard though to TTC again & start all over.If I'm PG this month DD#1& baby will be almost 7 years apart DD#2 & baby 3 years 8 months.DD#2 LOVES babies so that makes me feel better!

In my family I'm the oldest.my brother is 7 years younger & sister is 9 years younger.I got along with my brother much better.my brother and sister are 22 months apart & fought constantly & NEVER get along.not even now as adults.I really didn't like having such an age gap with the.I always felt like the second mother & all I wanted was to be a sister!