Please review my temporary possibly permanant sway plan

[stephk]

My DH is stubborn too, he will do things that is easy for him - for example he likes hot baths so will gladly have a hot shower/bath before an attempt. He is eating 2-3 vegetarian meals a week now without complaining but he will often eat a packet of ham for a snack so these meals dont really make much difference!! He also bought vitamin D tablets in jan and i asked him not to take them but what can you do - they will not listen! Personally I am trying to avoid conflict over it so I think let them do what they can do but in a subtle way so that they dont know. My DH does know I am swaying and sometimes raises concerns such as I shouldnt try to play god (of course I am not - I am doing what I can and god will do the rest, if I am meant to have a boy, I am meant to have a boy and I will love him no matter what). He also keeps commenting that I am too thin and doing too much exercise but so far hasnt told me to stop. Even though he knows I am doing diet and exercise to try to sway for a girl he doesnt always put the two together if that makes sense! He hasnt noticed that I dont eat breakfast at the weekend, I dont think he would be happy if he knew....

[marriedmomof2]

Kitkat, he is so stubborn, I mentioned it once before and he thought I was nuts, he said what will be will be no matter what, I agree but there is no harm in trying right. He said that it doesn't work also. He knows I get on here, the website, but he thinks it's just baby related not swaying related so he never says anything about that. I agree though, I am out numbered, two boys a male puppy and a male bunny. Lol

[marriedmomof2]

I fell asleep responding to your post. My dh hasn't noticed that I have changed my diet, I got sick last year and drastically changed my eating habits then, only small differences now, he hasn't noticed but he does tell me that i am getting skinny. I have started buying different things so he doesn't say much about the food, he still eats some red meat though, but only a few times a week. Lol @ he hasn't put two and two together! When are you planning on trying?

My DH is stubborn too, he will do things that is easy for him - for example he likes hot baths so will gladly have a hot shower/bath before an attempt. He is eating 2-3 vegetarian meals a week now without complaining but he will often eat a packet of ham for a snack so these meals dont really make much difference!! He also bought vitamin D tablets in jan and i asked him not to take them but what can you do - they will not listen! Personally I am trying to avoid conflict over it so I think let them do what they can do but in a subtle way so that they dont know. My DH does know I am swaying and sometimes raises concerns such as I shouldnt try to play god (of course I am not - I am doing what I can and god will do the rest, if I am meant to have a boy, I am meant to have a boy and I will love him no matter what). He also keeps commenting that I am too thin and doing too much exercise but so far hasnt told me to stop. Even though he knows I am doing diet and exercise to try to sway for a girl he doesnt always put the two together if that makes sense! He hasnt noticed that I dont eat breakfast at the weekend, I dont think he would be happy if he knew....

[kitkat18]

I'm ttc now just had second attempt and ten weeks on diet. I suspect that he suspects I am doing something but he has not asked and I'm not telling!! Glad to know you both have stubborn dhs too! Have you guys told anyone else? I haven't few friends know we are ttc hoping for a girl they keep sending me Chinese gender charts bless!! But no one knows the lengths I am going too! Don't think my close friends would judge me but they might tell other people etc etc great I have this outlet! Marriedum2 wish I had been so organized your sway plan looks great best of luck xxxxx

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[marriedmomof2]

Kitkat, dh probably wouldn't be happy if he knew what I was doing and I have no intentions of telling him unless he asks, I'll probably down play it then I know very sneaky. None of my friends know, I want to tell them sometimes but they wouldn't understand, I could tell my two closest friends, I am sure they would be supportive, but they would be skeptical. I need positive thoughts lol not negative ones. Thank goodness for this website and to have women like you all to talk to who understands and share similar feelings.

[kitkat18]

Cool please keep in contact with us!! Sounds like we are in the same boat nice to talk to someone who is being sneaky too fixed we both get our DG but also that we can be just as happy with another wee boy ! How many months till you start your attempt? If you haven't already the sway plan for atomic is amazing for me its the fact she answers your questions really fast and takes the stress out of it all! I put it on our joint credit card and all that comes up is "dream baby" my line was going to be I brought a digital opk online but he never asked xxx

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[stephk]

Well i had come off BCP at the beginning of January but no AF yet and no BFP - our last attempt was last friday. We are taking a break to ensure I am not PG before taking vitex or something to help bring on AF. Then as soon as we can attempt again we will. We are both 35 so just want to get on with it. I feel pretty stupid as I honestly thought I would be PG by now. I feel like my body is taunting me.

As for friends knowing, I am a rubbish liar and cant keep things to myself so some close friends do know about it. Plus when they have said I look skinny etc, or I have not stood up to DH like I used to I have then said I am trying for a girl. Most people know we want to TTC, a few know we would prefer a girl but would be perfectly happy with a boy and then fewer still know that I am trying to sway (lol no-one has sent me a chinese chart though!!). I wish I hadnt told anyone because it kind of puts a little pressure on you to succeed which is not good for testosterone, but it is what it is I am not a good liar and to be honest I genuinely would be happy with a boy, I would just prefer a girl this time. I am ready for whatever god has in store, I just pray that I get PG soon and for a healthy pregnancy and baby.

I think you guys do right not to tell people, and at least this site exists as an outlet. I am not as open with the friends that know as I am on here. I think if they knew that I visited a website dedicated to it every day they may worry but I find this all so interesting! And nice to chat to likeminded people.

I paid for my plan from my personal account so DH doesnt know. He would not be happy either if he knew I had paid for this but it is so worth it and he wouldnt understand.

[marriedmomof2]

Kitkat, I will definitely keep in touch, we will start ttc around the second week of June. Dh would ask what is dream baby? Since last year our accounts got hacked he pays close attention because on ended up costing us an entire deposit for a few weeks. Neither of us caused any of it, one was a grocery store we went to and someone hacked and stole a few million credit card numbers and the other was from target, when someone stole all those and charged our cards. I am using cash for most of my swaying products
Steph, that's not fun, I hope something happens for you soon. I can only imagine how you must feel. You are better than I am when some people ask me (like my mother in law) when are we going to try for a girl, I want to say I am working on it so they can stop asking, but I just leave it alone. It really is nice to have a website like this, where we can talk to others who understand and have the same wants, desires, or feelings. I understand being happy with a boy but preferring a girl and having a healthy baby and pregnancy is most important. How many boys do you have now? Do you know if you're done after this, or are you planning on more children?

[stephk]

We have one DS. Such a beautiful little sweetheart. As we are both 35 now, this may be our last baby but I havent ruled out a third. Never thought I would say that as I always used to tell DH that 2 was the limit but I love DS so much I really dont think I can rule out a third just yet!! Maybe the next baby will be a nightmare and I will think I am done lol. Is this your last one now as its the third or are you brave and thinking of more?

Sorry to hear about the accounts being hacked, it is an absolute nightmare, information security these days is terrible. My credit card has been 'compromised' a few times but has always been picked up by the credit card company, thankfully touch wood our bank accounts havent been touched.

Kitkat fingers crossed you have been successful this attempt

[marriedmomof2]

I think this is it, one more and I am done. The oldest is from a previous relationship (wasn't trying to get pregnant) and the youngest is my dhs but we weren't trying to get pregnant and it was before we got married. My oldest is a breeze he is such an awesome child, my youngest has both mine and dhs attitudes, smart mouths, and stubbornness , I don't know if I could handle 2 more like him lbs.
When you bought your plan did you already know what you wanted to do? As far as supplements, exercise and etc?